Learn more about Last First Date’s founder, Sandy Weiner in this interview.
You might want to start by watching her TEDx talk about dating after divorce.
Why did you become a dating coach?
When my 23-year marriage ended, I viewed divorce as an opportunity for renewal and transformation. I wanted to help women who, like myself, had not felt fully alive, seen and understood in their relationships. I wanted to help them break the pattern of unhealthy relationships and rise up to their highest value. Only then can they attract a high value true partner that they so deserve.
My true area of expertise is in helping women over 40 regain the power they’ve given up in past relationships. I love working with women who are ready to stop playing small, stop hiding their true essence, and start showing up fully in life and love. These women have previously given up bits of themselves to please a man or keep the peace in a relationship. They have been unable to fully express themselves, to be truly seen and heard. And they’re tired of suppressing, hiding, and feeling diminished. They are ready to do what it takes to attract a loving, grownup mature man.
Why is this my passion?
Because I was once this woman. In my past relationships, I gave up important parts of myself for men. I lost my power. I felt invisible. Now, I make sure I’m taking care of my needs first. I date with dignity and self-respect. And each man is my teacher. I know how to cut the players loose before my heart takes over. I balance my head and my heart. I’ve learned to have self-compassion and not expect to always get things right the first time around. Dating is complex, and the more you learn about yourself, the better the outcome of your relationships.
In my private coaching, I teach women the same dating and life skills that I learned after my divorce. It’s not about never attracting the wrong man ever again. It’s about how long you stay. It’s about recognizing the player right away and not letting him step on your heart.
I’m confident that when you truly know your worth, understand how to connect with men, and learn effective dating skills, you can get from your first date to finding the man of your dreams.
In only a few months, that essay helped me attract the love of my life! Thank you so much for helping me find love after my divorce!”
JP – Norwalk, CT
What qualifies you to help me?
I’ve also spent many years training in communication skills, studying the work of Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, founder of the Center for Nonviolent Communication, and the work of Susan Scott, founder of Fierce, Inc. and author of Fierce Conversations. I love helping clients courageously advocate for their needs in a relationship, a crucial part of what’s missing in most failed relationships.
Who DO you work with?
I work with self-aware, smart women 40 + who have achieved success in most areas of life, but are unsuccessful in their relationships with men. Many have previously given up important bits of themselves to the men in their lives. These woman are ready for change. They are willing to do whatever it takes – no matter their age or past relationship history – to attract and sustain a healthy relationship with a wonderful man.
Irma Jennings, Holistic Bone Coach www.food4healthybones.com
Who DON’T you work with?
I don’t work with women who want a quick fix or want to place the blame on men for all the problems they’ve had in previous relationships. I don’t work with women who think that their relationship problems will be solved by just figuring out where the good men hang out. You have to be willing to take an honest look at yourself and be open to changing the patterns that are holding you back. I am a loving guide, and I’ll work with you if you are willing to be open to getting out of your comfort zone, being self-reflective, and learning the most effective ways to find and attract a lasting loving relationship.
What RESULTS can I expect from private coaching with you?
Coaching works quickly. Many have an ‘aha’ moment from our very first phone call. To experience lasting change, scientific studies have shown that it takes about three months. Ultimately, the more devoted you are, the more you’ll get out of coaching.
Whether you’re just beginning to date after a divorce or loss of a spouse, have never been married, or are currently in a relationship, I can help.
Attracting the right man begins with falling madly in love with yourself. So if your self-esteem needs a boost, I’m the coach for you. I’ll give you the tools to help you let go of the inner-voices that sabotage and hold you back. If you’re holding on to your ex, I’ll help you fully let go, which includes any residual resentment and anger. Forgiveness is for your own wellbeing.
And I’ll work with you on being brutally honest (and compassionate) with yourself about the things you might have done that have contributed to your past unsuccessful relationships. You’d be surprised at some of the hidden culprits.
Is your picker broken?
I have exercises that will help you get crystal clear about your Mr. Right so you can attract him into your life. Dump your old list and learn how to quickly identify the right guy for you. You’ll also learn how to give the right men a second chance and stop dating emotionally unavailable/abusive men for good!
Does the idea of flirting at this age make you cringe?
Some women over 40 feel awkward about flirting. If that sounds like you, I’ll help you access your most authentic inner flirt. I used to think flirting was all about giving off sexual vibes, and it felt fake and forced. I now ‘flirt’ with everyone – from the cashier to a guy in an elevator- and I feel totally natural. I can help you feel totally at ease with flirting, too.
Can you help me find love online?
If you’ve tried online dating without success or have been reluctant to get started, you’re in the right place. Through my online dating programs, I’ll help you find love online.
I’ll craft an online dating profile that showcases your true personality, captivates the right men, and maximizes the number of contacts you get from quality men.
My online dating services include:
- Outstanding profile essays that describe you and the man you’re seeking
- A screen name that gets his attention
- Advice on photo selection to ensure your visual appeal
- Email tips for contacting men to get more responses
- Coaching on the online dating process so you know how to successfully get from first email to phone call to first date to a relationship
Your online dating profile will help you become a man-magnet, attracting more interest than you ever imagined.
You will learn to connect deeply, drop your guard, build trust slowly and on your terms, get clear on your sexual and emotional standards, and communicate your needs with grace. That is when true love happens between you and a quality match.
- JCJ – Stamford, CT
Okay, I’m excited to work with you! How do I get started?
You can go right to the coaching program you’re interested in and click to purchase. Or if you’re undecided and want to know more about my more comprehensive private coaching programs, just click the link below to schedule your complimentary get acquainted call. We’ll discuss your dating challenges and how I can help you.