Meet Sandy

Learn more about Last First Date’s founder, Sandy Weiner in this interview.

Get insight into her dating and relationship philosophy by watching her TEDx talk about dating after divorce.

Why did you become a dating coach?

Sandy WeinerWhen my 23-year marriage ended, I viewed divorce as an opportunity for renewal and transformation. The first thing I changed was my career. As an artist, I had taken furniture that others discarded and turned it into things of beauty. I wanted to help women who, like myself, had not felt fully alive, seen and heard at work and/or in their relationships. I wanted to help them face their fears and rise up to their beautiful potential.

I was drawn to life coaching because it is practical, goal oriented, and it works. When I began dating, I realized that my coaching skills made me much better at relating to men. My keen artist’s intuition (which I now turned way up instead of off), increased self-confidence, and deep clarity of values were useful tools in the dating arena. My communications training helped me speak up when my feelings were hurt, and men loved that I could express my needs. I had clear standards for intimacy. The best part? I was having fun and meeting great guys!

My divorced friends began coming to me for help. I improved their online dating profiles, helped them write emails that got opened and responded to, and helped them speak their truth with every guy. When a friend called me the Man Whisperer for my ability to help her understand men, I knew I had found my calling!

I am proud to be a dating expert at Better After 50, Divorced Moms, and Your Tango, and contribute articles regularly to many online sites, including DatingAdvice.com and the Huffington Post.

I’m confident that when you truly know your worth, understand how to connect with men, and learn effective dating skills, you can get from your first date to finding the man of your dreams.

“Sandy, this is your calling. I felt like you really captured me in my online dating profile essay. I had tears streaming down my face as I read the essays that you wrote. I want to date me!

In only a few months, that essay helped me attract the love of my life! Thank you so much for helping me find love after my divorce!”

JP - Norwalk, CT

Where did you receive your training?

I received my coaching certifications from The Coaches Training Institute and the International Coaches Federation, the umbrella organization for life coaches.

I’ve also spent many years of training in communication skills, studying the work of Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, founder of the Center for Nonviolent Communication, and the work of Susan Scott, founder of Fierce, Inc. and author of Fierce Conversations.  I love helping clients courageously advocate for their needs in a relationship, a crucial part of what’s missing in most failed relationships.

Another area of study has been in the area of better understanding men. In that regard, I have studied the work of Alison Armstrong, LiYana Silver, and Rori Raye.

Who DO you work with?

I work with self-aware, smart women 40 + who have achieved success in most areas of life, but are unsuccessful with men. Many have previously given up important bits of themselves in their relationships. They are willing to do whatever it takes – no matter their age or past relationship history – to attract and sustain a healthy relationship with a wonderful man.

“Sandy helped me navigate through what might have been an overwhelming labyrinth at Match.com. She constructed a profile essay that was exactly how I wanted to present myself. During our private sessions, Sandy reviewed my online dating emails, and most importantly, reminded me to stand in my feminine power! Sandy is a naturally gifted dating coach. Quite frankly, without her guidance, I would have still been thinking about going on Match.com. Now, I’m flirting and feeling my feminine self with my new honey!

Irma Jennings, Holistic Bone Coach www.food4healthybones.com

Who DON’T you work with?

I don’t work with women who want a quick fix or blame men for all the problems they’ve had in previous relationships. I don’t work with women who think that their relationship problems will be solved by discovering where the good men hang out. You have to be willing to take an honest look at yourself and be open to changing the patterns that are holding you back. I am a loving guide, and I’ll work with women who are willing to be open to trying the most effective ways of finding and attracting a lasting loving relationship.

What RESULTS can I expect from coaching with you?

Coaching works quickly. Many have an ‘aha’ moment from our first phone call. To experience lasting change, scientific studies have shown that it takes about three months. Ultimately, the more devoted you are, the more you’ll get out of coaching.

Whether you’re just beginning to date after a divorce or loss of a spouse, have never been married, or are currently in a relationship, I can help.

Attracting the right man begins with falling madly in love with yourself.

If you’re looking for support, I’ll give you the tools to let go of the inner-voices that sabotage and hold you back. I’ll help you fully let go of your ex, which includes any residual resentment and anger. Forgiveness is for your own wellbeing.

And I’ll work with you on being brutally honest (and compassionate) with yourself about the things you might have done that have contributed to your past unsuccessful relationships. You’d be surprised at some of the hidden culprits.

The next step is clarifying what type of man would be your best match.

I have exercises that will help you get crystal clear so you can attract him into your life. You’ll learn how to give the right men a second chance and stop dating emotionally unavailable men for good!

Do you need help with flirting?

Some women come to me at the next stage of going out and attracting him. I’ll help you access your most authentic inner flirt. I used to think flirting was about giving off sexual vibes, and it felt fake and forced to me. I now access my inner flirt with everyone, and I feel totally natural doing it. I can help you do the same.

Do you need an online dating makeover?

Perhaps you just need help with online dating. Through my online dating programs, I’ll help you find your man online.

Get an online dating profile that showcases your personality, captivates men, and maximizes the number of contacts you get from quality men.

My online dating services include:

  • A complete profile essay about you and the man you’re seeking
  • A user name that gets his attention
  • Advice on photo selection to ensure your visual appeal
  • Email tips for contacting men to get more responses
  • Coaching on the online dating process so you know how to successfully get from first email to phone call to first date to a relationship

Your online dating profile will become a man-magnet, attracting more interest than you ever imagined.

You will learn to connect deeply, drop your guard, build trust slowly and on your terms, get clear on your sexual and emotional standards, and communicate your needs with grace. That is when true love happens between you and a quality match.

“If your dating strategy is not working for you, I highly recommend Sandy Weiner. Her insights helped me be more open, clarify and expand my expectations, cast a wider net, and learn how to write and respond to men with feeling vs. just words. This is professional guidance from someone who understands the challenges of our current dating environment. Sandy provided a series of practical tools and constructive conversations to better appreciate my self-image and the messages I broadcast to men. She tweaked and tailored to help me attract the highest quality men. Clever and compassionate, I find myself quoting Sandy frequently. One of my favorites is, “Avoid dating backwards. Be soft on the outside and strong on the inside.” The pool of gentlemen responding to me and asking for a first date has increased and improved dramatically. Sandy, I promise to invite you to my wedding!

JCJ – Stamford, CT

 

Okay, I’m excited to work with you! How do I get started?

Please click here to schedule your 15-30 minute complimentary phone consultation so we can discuss which coaching program or product would be best for you.

To your success in love and life!

xoxo

Sandy Weiner

 

 

 

 

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