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Dealing with Breakup or Rejection Like an Adult

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Check out these 4 grownup ways for dealing with a breakup or rejection.

When you get dumped or turned down for a date in high school or college, you go through a lot of highs and lows. You may become irrational or depressed, and it can be difficult to know how to cope. But as we get older and gain more relationship experience, we grow emotionally and learn how to recover gracefully from a breakup or rejection without letting it consume our lives. If you’ve ever gone through this experience, you know how painful it can be. Nonetheless, there are many mature ways to cope with the disappointing, emotional roller coaster that is breaking up, allowing you to recover quickly and move on with your life. (more…)

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Turning Conflict Into Connection Through Conscious Love

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All couples argue. The trick is to be able to turn conflict into connection. Here’s how…

What’s conscious love? Imagine having the relationship you’ve always desired. After being stood up on her 30th birthday by her drug addicted boyfriend, Deborah Morehead was determined to figure out this relationship stuff. And she did. She is co-author of Conscious Love: Enlightened Relationships and Soulful Sex. And along with her 20 years experience as a therapist and her effective Happy Relationship Success System you will have the power to create your own happy, amazing relationship.

Deborah Morehead was my guest on Last First Date Radio, where she shared her thoughts on how to turn conflict into connection through conscious love. Check out the highlights below.  (more…)

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Working Through Conflict With Your Partner

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Four excellent ways for working through conflict in a relationship.

If you’ve been in a relationship for longer than six months, you know that it’s not always easy. Once the honeymoon phase begins to fade away, there are bound to be differences of opinion, and sometimes that results in a fight.

When it becomes difficult to get along with your partner, don’t immediately resort to abandoning the relationship. Remember that no relationship is perfect and differences are a natural part of growing together. Here are four ways to work through differences and conflict together as a couple. (more…)

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Online Dating Success With the Catch Your Match™ Formula

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online dating successDiscover the keys to online dating success with Dave Elliott’s unique Catch Your Match Formula™

Dave Elliott is an author, relationship expert and coach who works with clients all over the world. His clients get RESULTS because he specializes in rapid transformation. Whether they need a new awareness, improved skills or still have some healing work to do, Dave helps them to elegantly, effectively and efficiently close the gap between where they are currently and where they want to be when it comes to their relationships.

He’s the author of “The Catch Your Match Formula™,” the developer of “The H.U.G. & K.I.S.S. Hierarchy™” and the creator of the “Man M.A.G.N.E.T.I.C.S. Formula™.”

Dave Elliott joined me on Last First Date Radio to discuss online dating success with his unique Catch Your Match Formula™. Highlights of the show below… (more…)

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Non-committal men: How to spot them and when to run

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If you’ve ever dated non-committal men, this video will help you spot one early on, before you get involved.

Many women who seek out my coaching support have a history of dating non-committal men, or men who are emotionally unavailable. They need to break this toxic pattern in order to attract a commitment-minded man for the serious loving relationship they desire and deserve. This is such a common problem that my colleague Bobbi Palmer, CEO of Date Like a Grownup, and I co-hosted a Blab live stream video about dating non-committal men.  (more…)

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Protect Yourself: 4 Online Dating Safety Tips

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Here are 4 online dating safety tips to keep you safe on your search for love. 

Years ago, explaining to friends you were looking for your match on online dating sites was considered a strange and perhaps shameful practice. Yet today, attitudes have changed, and more and more people are looking for love on the Internet. Many services like, OkCupid and eHarmony use complex algorithms to match singles with people who share similar interests.

But how do you know a person’s profile is genuine and whether they’re trustworthy? You likely don’t. Protect yourself from harm with these simple—yet essential—safety tips for online dating. (more…)

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How to Recover From Infidelity

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Have you ever been on the other side of infidelity? Dated a married or separated man? These tips will empower you.

My recent radio guest, Dr. Paul DePompo, is a psychologist, author, speaker, researcher. He is the founder of the Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Institute of Southern California. Dr. DePompo’s no-nonsense approach utilizes short-term techniques that when mastered in the short-term, make for long-term change.

DePompo is Board Certified in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, is a Diplomate of the Academy of Cognitive Therapy, and is the director of the only affiliated training center of the Albert Ellis Institute in California conducting trainings for psychologists in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. He also consults with Hollywood studios regarding psychological matters.

Dr. DePompo joined me on Last First Date Radio to discuss the other side of infidelity, how to reclaim your heart when your partner is married. Highlights of the show below.


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Improve Your Dating Radar and Identify Toxic People Early On

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If you’ve ever dated toxic people, my co-host Rhoberta Shaler and I created a video just for you.

As a dating coach, it’s my mission to keep you away from toxic people, to keep you safe and sane as you navigate the often confusing world of dating after 40. Controlling people, which Dr. Shaler calls ‘Hijackals’, put on a good show to win your heart, and it’s easy to fall under their intoxicating spell. Notice that the word ‘intoxicating’ contains the root word ‘toxic’? I just realized that as I was typing. Hmmm. That should tell you a lot about who NOT to date, right?


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How Heartbreak and Failure Lead to Your Best Relationship

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We live in a society where many of us feel that failure and success are opposites. The truth is that failure is inevitable and a necessary step on the path to success in business, sports, and relationships. 

Failure, struggle, and heartbreak are not only an inevitable part of life, they are a necessary step on the path to success. My radio guest, Jim Harshaw, has learned many life lessons on the wrestling mat. Having been a Division I All American who won three ACC Championships for the University of Virginia, trained at the Olympic Training Center and competed for Team USA, he has experienced significant triumph and devastating defeat. He relates those powerful lessons of failure, struggle and setback to empower his audiences to overcome their own challenges.

Jim is a speaker, coach and host of the Wrestling with Success podcast.

Jim joined me on Last First Date Radio to talk about how failure leads to your best relationship. Highlights of the show below.


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5 Fun Date Ideas for the Summer

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Looking for romantic date ideas for the summer? Here are 5 that will ignite your love!

Summertime is here and it’s the perfect time to go on your last first date. The weather is warm and sunny, and there are many exciting things to do. You can have fun out on the town, or you can dine in at home. Read on for some romantic fun date ideas for the summer. (more…)

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