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6 Ways to Find Love Without Using Your Mobile Phone

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Remember the days when you could find love without using your mobile phone? Here are 6 creative ways to put down your phone and meet people in real life!

Do you remember a pre-smart phone world? One where you looked ahead rather than down at your screen? These gadgets have taken over our lives in almost every conceivable way. From organizing our weekly food shopping to tracking down the love of our life, you can do all of this with a casual swipe of your finger.

The problem is that the world of disposable online dating is making it difficult to pin down a real and sustainable relationship. It’s hard to give one person your full attention when thousands of ‘perfect’ singletons await you at the click of a couple of buttons. Even on real life dates, our phones represent a tempting distraction from the person across the table. Why listen to another boring anecdote when you can scroll through twitter updates, or take a trip to the restroom to hunt down another potential match?

There just has to be a better way to search out Mr. or Mrs. Right. So give your swiping finger a well-deserved break and check out these six ways to find love without using your mobile phone.


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Which Online Dating Sites Are the Best?

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One of the most common questions I get as a dating coach for women over 40 is, “Which online dating sites are best?” This study has the answers.

One of the most common questions I get as a dating coach for women over 40 is, “Which online dating sites are best?” My answer is that it depends on where you live, what you’re looking for, and on your age range. The truth is that every single day, all day, people find love on every online dating site and every mobile dating app. I thought it would be interesting to share a comprehensive study of 68 online dating sites conducted by They disclose their top four picks, and you’ll learn what they are in just a minute.

The criteria they used to choose the top four dating sites was based on how accurate the algorithms were, how easy it was to set up a good profile, quality of messages, how user-friendly the sites were, and how much they cost.  (more…)

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Infographic on The Rise of Online Dating Apps

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Check out this infographic, highlighting some interesting data about online dating apps; who uses them, where they’re most popular, and so on…

It’s phenomenal when you look at the statistics that close to one in ten people have actually used online dating apps in today’s world. When you take a closer more granular look, the research also shows that triple the number of people have now made use of an online dating app in comparison to the number of people who did so just three years ago in 2013.

Badoo and Tinder are the mobile dating apps that lead the pack in terms of popularity; Badoo tends to dominate in terms of popularity in the Southern and Eastern Hemisphere areas, while Tinder seems to be more popular with people in the Northern Hemisphere (it’s not uniform, there there are slight variations). (more…)

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How to Finally Be Free From Emotional Baggage and Have a Healthy Relationship!

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Learn how to free yourself from emotional baggage in order to have the healthy relationship you yearn for. It’s never too late to have the love you deserve! 

Psychologist and author, Dr. Audrey Sherman, is an expert at working with clients who want to be free from emotional baggage that’s keeping them from living happier, more fulfilling lives. She believes that happiness and hope really can be learned.

For almost two decades, Dr. Sherman has taught thousands of clients how to change their thinking and habits. By using her program, Dysfunction Interrupted, people can better control their lives, build healthier relationships and “Feel Good For Life!”

She is the author of Dysfunction Interrupted–How to Quickly Overcome Depression, Anxiety and Anger Starting Now.

Dr. Sherman joined me on Last First Date Radio to discuss, New Relationship, Same Old Baggage? Lose It For Good This Time. You can find highlights of this very informative show below. (more…)

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How to Have Difficult Conversations in Relationships

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Therapist Rhoda Sommer shares excellent tips on how to have difficult conversations, especially when you’re in a relationship. 

My radio guest, Rhoda Sommer, has been a psychotherapist for over 40 years. She teaches couples work to therapists at the University of Pittsburgh. She’s blogged for seven years at Relationship Realities, and hosts a podcast, What Healthy Couples Know That You Don’t.

Rhoda spoke with me about how to have difficult conversations in relationships on Last First Date Radio. Check out highlights of the show below.  (more…)

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Donald Trump is President. Now What?

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Donald Trump is President of the United States. I am numb. I am frightened. Here’s what I suggest we do at this difficult time…

I never write about politics. I don’t even like to talk about politics, especially when things get heated and polarized. It goes against my values to spew hateful venom about anyone. I’ve even lost a friendship because I refused to get into an argument against Obama. But this election changed everything. I started to pay closer attention to both candidates, what they said, what they’ve done in the past, crimes committed, lies, and corruption. And I made a conscious choice for who I wanted to run this country. I am proud to say that I voted for Hillary. I had faith in her leadership. And whether you voted for Trump or Clinton, you exercised your right as a citizen of this country to choose who you thought would best serve the USA.

And now, it’s the morning after the election, and Donald Trump is President of the United States. My Facebook newsfeed is filled with sadness, anger, and fear. I am numb. I am frightened of living in a country with this man as leader. He has exposed himself as a racist, misogynist, white supremacist, hateful intolerant man. Now what? (more…)

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The Value Of Missing Your First Date

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Ever have a disastrous first date? What happens on that date is not as important as the lessons you learn and apply on your search for true love.

Today’s guest post is by Bob Lancer, founder of the Love Method.

What happens on a first date is not important. Whether we end up with the man or woman of our dreams as a result of it doesn’t really matter. We are destined to find all the love we want in our lives as we live true to who we are and learn to love and respect ourselves and others unconditionally.

What is important is that we learn from each first date. Recently I had a first date set up with a very special lady whom I admire very much. We agreed on the place and on the time and I was very much looking forward to it.  Well, have you ever had a brain freeze without drinking something cold? Apparently I did, and boy was it disturbing.  (more…)

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Why Strong Successful Women Have Difficulty Attracting a Quality Man

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Strong successful women: if you’re having difficulty attracting a quality guy, it might be because of this. Once you know what to do, he’ll fall for you.


My radio guest, Jaitara Ashlie, helps strong successful women step into Spiritual and Emotional Mastery with their sexual energy. She does this through online workshops, private coaching and retreats, by guiding them to create healing, spiritual alignment and empowerment within their sexual energy and how to masterfully weave that into relationships and through creative expression.

Jaitara healed her own past wounds from adolescent sexual exploitation and abuse. She’s now 60 years young, loving her sensuality, creativity and the healing gifts that channel through her. She is the author of the forthcoming book: “The Four Sacred Laws of Sexual Enlightenment”. 

You can read highlights of our show below about the key reasons why strong women have difficulty finding a quality man.


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How to Get Over a Breakup

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If you want to know how to get over a breakup, Brett McGinn can help. Check out his top tips for how to get over a breakup.

Brett McGinn is only twenty-six years old, but he helps people who are dealing with relationship issues, especially those who want to know how to get over a breakup. He believes that people don’t let their guard down enough, and it causes missed opportunities. He says it’s time for a fresh conversation about love and relationships, unfiltered. How does love make you feel? Love can be responsible for pure ecstasy, and it can cause heartbreak. When it causes the latter, he’s there to help.

I discussed how to get over a breakup with Brett on Last First Date Radio. Highlights of the show below.  (more…)

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Should You Reveal Your Income in Your Online Dating Profile?

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Is it best to reveal your income in your online dating profile? And if you do, will it attract higher quality men?  Here’s what I think…

I don’t often feel moved to comment on articles, but this one Why High-Earning Women Should Disclose Their Income on Dating Sites by Emma Johnson is worthy of commentary. Divorced, dating for four years on OKCupid and, Emma is a 38-year old wealthy woman who did not disclose her income when she first started dating. She was attracting men she didn’t like. She decided to reveal her income on OKCupid and guess what happened? The quality of the men who contacted her went way up. She started meeting men with whom she shared common interests. Her conclusion? It’s best to reveal your income on dating sites. I disagree. Here’s why… (more…)

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