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A Man’s Thoughts on Online Dating After 50

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After his wife died, author, Chuck Epstein, discovered that re-entering the dating scene wasn’t easy. Here’s his story of online dating after 50.

My radio guest, Chuck Epstein, was married 33 years when he lost his wife to cancer. Having recently moved to Florida for her treatments, he didn’t have much of a support community, so he attended a grief support group. He was the only man in a group of 15 women. When the leader asked, “Who is ready to date again?” he was the only one to raise his hand!  

He wrote a memoir about his adventures in online dating after 50, You Don’t Think I’m Beautiful. It’s filled with the ups and downs of dating after 50, especially if you live in Florida with many retirees. You’ll laugh at some of his crazy stories, and other dating adventures will tear on your heartstrings.

Check out highlights of our interview on Last First Date Radio below. (more…)

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How to Overcome Cheating and Betrayal

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Teri-Lynn Wilkins, is a relationship coach who worked hard to overcome cheating and betrayal in her own life. Now she helps others. Here’s why.

 

My radio guest, Teri-Lynn Wilkins, is a life and relationship coach who worked hard to overcome cheating and betrayal. She was married for 18 years with two children, a good career, and abundant wealth. To the outside world, it looked perfect, but Teri-Lynn wasn’t happy.

She had an affair, got divorced, and  began eight years of crucifixion as the ‘other woman’, and then rejection as the one cheated on. She faced the demons of family patterns, childhood wounds, and finally arrived at her own resurrection. 

Teri-Lynn has been in practice for 15 years, having been featured on HGTV and national publications. She is shedding light on the often taboo topic of infidelity, bringing lasting healing to both sides. Check out highlights below for episode #248: Overcoming Infidelity, Cheating, and Betrayal.

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How to Inspire Your Man to Cherish You

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My radio guest, retired Navy SEAL, Darek Laviolette, shared what woke him up after his divorce, and how you can inspire your man to cherish you.

My radio guest, Darek Laviolette, is a retired Navy SEAL with 24 years of service, 9 combat deployments, and has a Bronze Star with Valor. But, the work he is most proud of is helping couples through rough spots in their marriages. No pain of Hell week compared to losing his family after his divorce. He finds it ironic that his “loss” has helped so many find fulfillment in their marriages. He wrote a book called A SEAL to Heal Your Marriage; designed as an operational guide to help a man get it right in his relationship. It is dedicated as an apology to his ex-wife and children.

Darek shared what woke him up after his divorce, and how you can inspire your man to cherish you. Highlights of the show below. (more…)

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A Fail-Safe Template for an Outstanding Online Dating Profile

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If you want to succeed at online dating, your online dating profile must stand out from the crowd. Here’s a template that will make it easy to do just that!

How important is an outstanding online dating profile? If you want to find love, which I think you’ll agree is pretty significant—why wouldn’t you spend time and effort crafting the best profile essay, one that describes who you are in as few words as possible? Why, oh why, do many people post God-awful essays that tell you nothing about the person? (Do you feel my pain?)

One of the secrets to online dating success is knowing how to stand out from the crowd. So, don’t write a string of adjectives to describe yourself. You’ll end up sounding generic. Do you feel just as comfortable in a little black dress as you do in a pair of jeans? (Yawn) And then you wonder why online dating doesn’t work… (more…)

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How to Discuss Sex With Your New Partner

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You’re in a new relationship. He wants sex before you’re ready. Matt Marr has great tips on how to discuss sex and more…

My awesome radio guest, Matt Marr talked about how to discuss sex with your new partner, where our sexual beliefs come from, how to change our sexual narrative, and so much more. He has been called the Gay White Oprah. After receiving his Masters in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University in 2009, Matt has been helping people gain perspective and power in their lives. In his weekly advice podcast, the DEAR MATTIE SHOW, Matt dishes out advice on relationships, sex, fear, friends, job, and even makeup.

As a Narrative Therapist, Matt believes that our lives can be seen through a story metaphor with characters of Fear, Hope, Depression, Addiction, etc all contributing to our narrative. Find all things Matt at www.dearmattieshow.com.

Highlights of our show below about how to how to discuss sex with your new partner in a safe way, and how to rewrite your love story by letting go of the old stories you’ve been telling.

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How the 4 Love Styles Can Help You Find a Compatible Partner

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Therapist and coach Chelli Pumphrey, believes that one of the best ways to find a compatible partner is by knowing your love style. Learn more here.

find a compatible partnerChelli Pumphrey, MA, LPC is a Love Strategist. With over 20 years of experience as a psychotherapist, she brings a level of expertise into her coaching that helps her clients overcome fear, disrupt unhealthy patterns in relationships, and build confidence in their search for love. She is a relationship expert who uses her knowledge of psychology, neuroscience, and attachment to help people find compatible, healthy, passionate relationships. Chelli offers coaching, therapy, classes, and retreats to help you get to the core of what’s preventing you from finding love. You can learn more about Chelli at http://www.authenticdate.com.

Check out highlights of episode #245: The Power of Using Your Love Style to Find a Compatible Partner.

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Do I Have to Make Him Chase Me?

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Rachel writes that the man she’s been seeing is moody and angry. “Do I have to make him chase me?” Here’s how to know when it’s time to walk away.

Hi Sandy,

I’ve been seeing a man for over a year. We met online over a year ago. However, we had never met in person until recently. Over the course of the year, he would call every day or text. Sometimes late at night, too. We would talk for hours. However, since we met, things have changed drastically, and I have seen that he’s very moody. For example, sometimes he won’t contact me at all, he gets angry easily, usually while talking on the phone. I’m the one that makes time for us. We never would have met if it were not for me. Yes, we’ve had sex. After a year of phone conversation, we both wanted to spend time together. He tells me he wants no drama from me. I know pretty much what you’re going to say but, even though he’s grown on me, do I have to make him chase me?

I’d appreciate any advice. 

Rachel

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What Can Ancient History Teach Us About Relationships?

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Who knew that ancient history could teach us so many lessons about relationships? Author John Vespasian shared many fascinating stories on my radio show.

My radio guest, John Vespasian, is an expert on ancient history. He’s written eight books about rational living, including “When Everything Fails, Try This” (2009), “Rationality Is the Way to Happiness” (2009), “The Philosophy of Builders: How to Build a Great Future with the Pieces from Your Past” (2010), “The 10 Principles of Rational Living” (2012), “Rational Living, Rational Working: How to Make Winning Moves When Things Are Falling Apart” (2013), “Consistency: The Key to Permanent Stress Relief” (2014), “On Becoming Unbreakable: How Normal People Become Extraordinarily Self-Confident” (2015), and “Thriving in difficult times: Twelve lessons from Ancient Greece to improve your life today” (2016).

I interviewed him on episode #244: What Ancient History Can Teach Us About Relationships. Highlights of our interview can be found below.


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Valentine’s Day Special: Romantic Road Trips for the Young at Heart

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How will you spend Valentine’s Day this year? Dinner, roses, chocolates? Or are you up for something totally unique? Check out these romantic road trips.

Dinner and dessert—that’s how most couples will spend their Valentine’s Day this year. But you and your sweetheart aren’t like most couples—or at least you don’t have to be. This year, spend Feb. 14,  and perhaps the rest of the week, on the open road taking in the beauty of America’s backyard. (more…)

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11 Critical Steps for Safe Online Dating

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This infographic outlines the importance of taking safety precautions and shows you how to take steps to have a safe online dating experience.

Love it or hate it, online dating is hands down the best way to find love after 40. Imagine trying to find love at this age without sites like Match.com and OkCupid, Bumble and Hinge. Do your friends set you up? Probably not. And if they do, it’s usually with someone who’s not a good fit. Most people over 40 go to work, the gym, and come home. Online dating is the place people find love all day every day. But, it’s important to take steps for safe online dating.

This isn’t to scare you and keep you from online dating due to horror stories you may have heard. Fortunately, those stories are few and far between. But, it’s important to know about safe online dating, so you can relax and enjoy the journey to find love after 40. This infographic outlines the importance of taking safety precautions and shows you how to take steps to have a safe online dating experience. (more…)

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