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Are You Settling In Your Relationship?

Posted by on July 31, 2014 in dating in midlife, love after 40, self-esteem in dating | 0 comments

are you settling in your relationshipsPicture this. You walk into a conference room and are told to find a seat. You choose a seat in the third row, and on that seat is a yellow spiral-bound notebook. You look around at the other seats. Some have blue notebooks, some red and some yellow. You think to yourself, “I hate yellow. I wish I had a blue notebook.”

The conference begins and the facilitator says, “If you don’t like the color of your notebook, trade with someone and get the one you want. You deserve to have everything in your life exactly the way you want it.”

How often do you feel that you don’t really get to choose exactly what you want, that you are settling in your relationships? What would your life be like if you had the mindset of deserving to have everything in your life exactly the way you want it?


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Dating Advice for Men Over 40

Posted by on July 30, 2014 in love after 40, online dating after 40, understanding men over 40 | 0 comments

dating advice for menNaturally outgoing and persuasive, twins Jonathan and David Bennet began to think about the power of popularity when they noticed that being popular with their students made them more successful teachers. This spurred their devotion to  years of research studying the “science” of attraction. They eventually started creating practical tips based on their studies. They have partnered with matchmakers and dating coaches in Columbus, Ohio, helping men (and women) become more confident and attractive through consulting, public speaking, and classes. It was a pleasure to speak with David Bennet on Last First Date Radio and listen to his dating advice for men over 40. Following are highlights of our loosely transcribed conversation.


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Should I Post Online Dating Profile Photos?

Posted by on July 25, 2014 in love after 40, online dating after 40, single women over 40 | 0 comments

online dating profile photosDear Sandy,

I have a friend who has a lot of experience with online dating. She said that what she’s learned is that women need to approach men by writing to them first, and not just wait for whoever contacts us.  I think you’ve given the same advice, right?

She also told me about an attractive friend of hers who’s my age (49) who didn’t put her photos up online. She would contact men she was interested in and offer to send them photos individually. That way she avoided being bombarded by all the riffraff.  What do you think of that approach? Should I post online dating profile photos or just reserve them for the men I like?

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Am I too Picky About Men?

Posted by on July 23, 2014 in dating after divorce, first date success, online dating after 40 | 2 comments

too picky about menDear Sandy,

I’ve been lurking on to see what’s out there, and I have to say, I am thoroughly unimpressed and often kind of put off.  I wonder if I’m too picky about men online. Most men have horrible photos, can’t write anything substantive, are looking for someone to run/bike/do marathons with, want someone 10 years younger, and try to impress with cars/motorcycles, baseball hats and photos of them in sleeveless t-shirts with the guys.  Ugh! (more…)

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He Keeps Talking About His Exes!

Posted by on July 22, 2014 in communication skills in dating, love after 40, red flags in relationships | 2 comments

he keeps talking about his exDear Sandy,

I’ve gone out for over a month with a man who keeps talking about his exes on almost every date. It makes me feel uncomfortable, especially because he doesn’t talk about how he feels about me. Should I wait it out or is it a red flag that he is still thinking about these girlfriends from the past?

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Arielle Ford: How to Manifest The Love of Your Life

Posted by on July 16, 2014 in dating in midlife, love after 40, single women over 40 | 0 comments

Arielle FordArielle Ford has spent the past 25 years living and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is the author of the international bestseller, THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction. Arielle has been called “The Cupid of Consciousness” and “The Fairy Godmother of Love” and yesterday on Last First Date Radio, she shared her secrets to how to manifest the love of your life. Her show, Big Love with Arielle Ford is heard on Contact Talk Radio where she shares the secrets to finding and keeping love and making life a spiritual adventure. She lives in La Jolla, CA with her husband/soulmate, Brian Hilliard and their feline friends. Her websites include and (more…)

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Are You Attracted to the Wrong Man?

Posted by on July 8, 2014 in dating a dangerous man, dating a narcissist, red flags in relationships | 0 comments

attracted to the wrong manDear Sandy,

I am single and 52. How can I stop being attracted to the wrong man?  They treat me badly, and I have the courage to let them go at the very beginning of the relationship. I then start missing the good times and forget the reason why I left . I keep mentally and emotionally hooked to them – even for years – and close myself to any other relationship.  I sometimes go back to them for a very short time to receive the same bad treatment. I always try to convince myself that I did something wrong.  I am so used to this pattern that I cannot feel how it would be to be in a relationship without stupid games, lack of respect or an abusive “love”. Why do I do this to myself when I want just the opposite? (more…)

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She Wants to Know: Does He Love Me?

Posted by on July 1, 2014 in love after 40 | 2 comments

does he love meDear Sandy,

I have a question about a man I know. He has flirted with me, stares at me across the room, looks me up and down, stares at my face, lingers around me, asks trivial questions, says my name all the time, gets nervous and blushes around me, big smiles, jokes around. But one day he mentioned his girlfriend. It was forced and not related to the conversation. Since then, he has been intentionally rude to me, ignores me and glares at me – yet continues to stare at me across the room and try and get my attention. What is his deal? Does he love me or hate me? Thank you for your time.



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5 Great First Date Ideas

Posted by on June 30, 2014 in dating after divorce, first date success | 0 comments

first date ideasA study done by the French financial services firm AXA found that participants on a first date knew within the first 12 minutes whether they were interested in the other person. Body odor and bad breath were tops in the off-putting category. While good hygiene is critical, a great venue won’t hurt your chances for a second date, either. Here are five unique first date ideas to make a positive first impression. (more…)

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6 Keys to Spiritual Dating

Posted by on June 27, 2014 in dating in midlife, first date success, online dating after 40 | 0 comments

spiritual dating sitesJill Crosby is the owner and founder of the largest exclusively spiritual/conscious dating site on the Internet, She is a dynamic public speaker, workshop/retreat leader and hypnotherapist. She communicates with dolphins and whales and facilitates Wild Dolphin and Whale Swim Retreats for Singles. She also is the owner and founder of the international events site, and lives in beautiful, sacred Mount Shasta, California. I loved talking to her about Spiritual Dating Sites on Last First Date Radio. Following are loosely transcribed highlights of our show.  (more…)

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