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If you’re a single woman over 40, follow the blog to learn how to attract quality men, sustain a healthy relationship, break up with dignity, understand and communicate with men 40 +, and much more…

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Masculine and Feminine Dynamics in Intimate Relationships

Posted by on October 7, 2015 in love after 40, self-esteem in dating, understanding men over 40 | 0 comments

masculine and feminine dynamics

Masculine and feminine dynamics and how they play out in intimate relationships.

I had the pleasure of interviewing Bryan Reeves on Last First Date Radio. He’s a former US Air Force Captain turned Author/Coach/Speaker. Bryan has triumphed through multiple dark nights of the soul after hurling himself into the transformational fires of intimate relationship over and over again. With a Masters Degree in Human Relations and massive insight gleaned through countless adventures, Bryan coaches men, women and couples in creating thriving lives and relationships. He is a regular blog contributor to Good Men Project, Elephant Journal, Raw Attraction Magazine and more. His book “The Sex, Flirting, Dating, Hunting and Hoping Diet” is on Amazon. 

Bryan and I discussed one of my favorite topics, the essentials of masculine and feminine dynamics in intimate relationships. Have men become more like women and women more like men? Find out in this interview. Show notes below. (more…)

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How to End Things Gracefully After One Date

Posted by on October 2, 2015 in breaking up with grace, communication skills in dating, dating after divorce, red flags in relationships | 0 comments

how to end things gracefullySometimes you know in your gut you don’t want a 2nd date. Here’s how to end things gracefully. 

I wanted to share something about my dating life so you could see what happens behind the curtain. After my last relationship ended in February, I had been on a lot of first or second dates that went no further. Like many of you, I’ve been disappointed when the connection was not right for me, but I kept on dating. It’s always uncomfortable to tell someone you don’t think they’re right for you. I never want to hurt someone’s feelings, and I prefer the uncomfortable truth over the disappearing act. I like to think I’m pretty good at nipping things in the bud when there are clear signs that my date is not a good fit. I know how to end things gracefully, even after one date. But what happened this week threw me off a bit…

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5 Fun & Romantic Outdoor Date Ideas for Lovers

Posted by on October 1, 2015 in dating in midlife, love after 40, single women over 40 | 0 comments

romantic outdoor date ideasGetting outdoors is so much better when you can do it with the one you love. Each season brings its own beauty, and learning how to enjoy your natural surroundings can make any outing romantic.

Here are 5 fabulous, fun, and romantic date ideas for lovers (or to win the heart of someone you’re courting).





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Healing Your Relationships With Men

Posted by on September 30, 2015 in dating after divorce, dating in midlife, self-esteem in dating | 0 comments

healing your relationships with menRachelle Chartrand is an award-winning screenwriter and past-president of Women in Film & Television Vancouver. She received a Bachelor of Education with a major in Physics and a minor in Math from the University of Alberta. Her eclectic teaching experience includes working with ESL students abroad as well as at-risk youth, young offenders and autistic children at home. Rachelle lives in Vancouver, British Columbia where she continues to emerge. On Last First Date Radio, we discussed her book, CHRYSALIS: A Dark and Delicious Diary of Emergence.

‘After decades of delinquency, promiscuity, bulimia, alcoholism and two failed marriages, Rachelle is eager to shed her caterpillar life for good. She buys a new diary and makes a new pact, dedicating the next year to her butterfly emergence and vowing to follow any guidance the Universe provides. It whispers back two words: Inspired Ideas.
CHRYSALIS: A Dark and Delicious Diary of Emergence chronicles Rachelle’s heart-wrenching, heart-healing metamorphic year. It is a profound and provocative memoir of forgiveness, acceptance and self-love.’

Following are loosely transcribed highlights of our radio interview, Healing Your Relationship With Men, where Rachelle and I discussed how healing your relationships with men and past pain can help you fall madly in love with yourself (which makes you magnetic to the right partner)! 


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Insider Secrets to Sex, Love & Attraction

Posted by on September 24, 2015 in communication skills in dating, dating in midlife, love after 40 | 0 comments

love & attractionJulieanne O’Connor is the author of the SPELLING IT OUT book series which includes Spelling It Out for Your Man, Insider Secrets to Sex, Love and Attraction, for Men and Women and Spelling It Out for Your Career, Insider Secrets to Living Your Dreams and Passions. Julieanne’s 20+ year study of people has crossed all confines including geographic and economic boundaries, and themes continue to be recurring. With simple and fundamental changes that can be made, people can literally change their lives by using the art of relating. Mission: “To put RELATE back into RELATIONSHIPS!”

Following are loosely transcribed highlights of our radio interview, Spelling it Out: Insider Secrets to Sex, Love, & Attraction. 


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Why Is it So Hard to Find Lasting Love Today?

Posted by on September 22, 2015 in dating in midlife, love after 40, single women over 40 | 0 comments

Pam 7-2015Pamela Vandervoort is the owner and founder of Dating for True Love. In this high-tech world that has inundated singles with so many dating choices, it has become very hard to find a clear pathway to love. Pamela shows you how to avoid heartbreak and random dating and discover the secrets to attracting and creating lasting love.

Pamela has her Bachelor’s Degree in Communication Studies and a Masters Degree in Spiritual Psychology. To find out her proven system for finding your true love go to

I enjoyed interviewing Pamela Vandervoort on Last First Date Radio. Following are loosely transcribed highlights of the show, Why Is it So Hard to Find Lasting Love Today? 


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5 Keys to Thriving After Divorce

Posted by on September 8, 2015 in dating after divorce, dating in midlife, self-esteem in dating, single women over 40 | 0 comments

thriving after divorceRebecca Perkins is a dedicated and inspiring midlife coach. She is passionate about midlife as a time for renewal and for living the second half of life with enthusiasm and vigour. She is the author of Best Knickers Always: 50 Lessons for Midlife and began writing to make sense of her life after the ending of a 20 year marriage.  

She has appeared on BBC Radio 4 Woman’s Hour and BBC Radio London and writes regularly for The Huffington Post. She is a professionally qualified NLP Master Practitioner and Coach.

Rebecca lives in London, celebrating life in her 50s. Following are loosely transcribed highlights of my interview with Rebecca on Last First Date Radio about the 5 keys to thriving after divorce. (more…)

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When to Give a Man Another Chance?

Posted by on September 4, 2015 in breaking up with grace, dating after divorce, dating in midlife, red flags in relationships, self-esteem in dating | 0 comments

when to give a man another chanceAbout a year ago, I dated a man I really liked. Let’s call him Harry. There was chemistry. There was a strong connection. We had two dates, and then poof, he disappeared. I was perplexed, but there was nothing I could do about it. So, I moved on and dated other men. I began a relationship with a new guy about a month later, and forgot about the disappearing man.

That relationship lasted about 4 months. Soon after the breakup, Harry resurfaced. He texted to see how I was. We exchanged a few texts, and then he disappeared again.

Last week, Harry texted me again. Click the video below to find out how I dealt with him this time. Do you ever wonder when to give a man another chance and when to walk away? (more…)

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How to Find and Keep a Good Man

Posted by on September 1, 2015 in first date success, love after 40, online dating after 40, single women over 40 | 0 comments

how to find and keep a good manAshley Arn is happily married and passionate about helping others experience the joy that comes from sharing a deep connection with your partner. She has earned a Bachelor and, Master of Arts degrees specializing in Marital and Family Therapy, and a Doctorate in Psychology, all of which require extensive training and experience working with people to create loving relationships. Ashley’s experience in relationship psychology and deep understanding of successful matchmaking make her an ideal relationship guide for you. Ashley wants to build a connection with you so that she can help you find that special someone to share your life with.

Ashley was my guest on Last First Date Radio. She spoke about How to Find and Keep a Good Man. Below are loosely transcribed highlights of the show.


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Self-Care is Crucial When You’re Looking for Love After 40

Posted by on August 31, 2015 in dating after divorce, dating in midlife, love after 40, self-esteem in dating | 0 comments

self-careIn my last newsletter, I spoke about the importance of self-care, especially if you’re dating after 40. If you’re anything like me, you grew up with the belief that self-care is selfish. The message in my home was, “Care for others before caring for yourself”. While I’m an advocate for giving to others, if you don’t give to yourself first, you will often be running on empty. Everyone gets a piece of you except YOU.

When you’re dating, self-care is even more crucial. In caring for yourself, you are modeling how you want to be treated by your future romantic partner . If you put yourself at the bottom of your to-do list, you may as well be wearing as sign that says, “Treat me as an afterthought”. Take exquisite care of yourself and model what you want from your partner; to be cherished, loved, and prioritized.  Don’t you want to date someone who takes care of themselves, too?

I asked my newsletter readers to share 3 things they do to for self-care. I loved their responses. My readers are self-care superstars! Here’s what they had to say… (more…)

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