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How to Keep the Spark Alive in a Long-Term Relationship

Posted by on May 19, 2015 in communication skills in dating, dating after divorce, dating in midlife, flirting | 0 comments

long-term relationshipExperts in relationship and intimacy dynamics, Drs. Rob + Janelle Alex, Ph.D. are mentoring couples around the globe. As best selling authors, their newest releases are the Mission Date Night Adventure series. They also cohost the Mission Date Night podcast. Passionate about married dating, Secret Animal Powers, and Transcendent LovemakingTM Rob and Janelle are obliterating long-standing relationships myths. Following are loosely transcribed highlights of our radio interview, How to Keep the Spark Alive in a Long-Term Relationship. 

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Don’t File For Divorce Before Reading This!

Posted by on May 13, 2015 in breaking up with grace, dating after divorce | 0 comments

 

file for divorceHenry Gornbein is a specialist in all aspects of family law, author of the Spousal Chapter of Michigan Family Law, and host of the award winning cable tv show, Practical Law. He is a frequent blogger, including for the Huffington Post, and a guest on Divorce Source Radio with the Ask Henry Segment. He is a partner in Lippitt O’Keefe Gornbein in Birmingham, Michigan, and the author of “Divorce Demystified, Everything You Need To Know Before You File For Divorce”.  Following are loosely transcribed highlights of my radio interview with Henry. (more…)

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4 Volunteering Ideas to Improve Your Love Life

Posted by on May 12, 2015 in dating after divorce, dating in midlife, love after 40, single women over 40 | 0 comments

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Between work and maintaining a social life, it can feel as if there’s no time left for personal development. If you aren’t currently pursuing endeavors that add a deeper meaning to your life, it may be affecting your love life. By engaging in these types of projects, you are more likely to exude confidence and appear more attractive to potential partners.

One of the easiest ways to boost your personal fulfillment is to volunteer for a cause you believe in. Here are a few ideas to try in your community, and — who knows — you might even improve your love life and meet your next date while volunteering. (more…)

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5 Warning Signs that Your “Nice Guy” Is Actually a Jerk

Posted by on May 7, 2015 in dating a dangerous man, dating a narcissist, red flags in relationships | 0 comments

jerkToday’s guest post is by Sarah Williams, a lifestyle writer specializing in dating advice . Her mission is to help busy men of all ages to find true fulfillment in social life. You can connect with Sarah on her blog.

Women often behave irrationally when it comes to dating and emotions. I’m a prime example of this. I would never admit that I like to date jerks, but somehow I keep ending up with them. Perhaps I subconsciously eliminate the good guys and feel attracted only to the biggest jerks. (more…)

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Confidence, Self-Reliance, and Independence Beyond the 12-Step Programs

Posted by on May 5, 2015 in dating after divorce, dating in midlife, self-esteem in dating, single women over 40 | 0 comments

self-relianceTina Tessina is a licensed psychotherapist in Southern California, with 30 years of experience in counseling individuals and couples. She is known on the Web as Dr. Romance. Tina is also the author of 13 books in 16 languages, including Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage (Adams Media) ) Dr. Romance’s Guide to Dating In the Digital Age, and The Real 13th Step: Discovering Confidence, Self-Reliance and Independence Beyond the 12-Step Programs. Following are loosely transcribed highlights of our radio show, Discovering Confidence‬, Self-Reliance & ‪‎Independence‬ Beyond the 12 Step Programs. (more…)

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My Boyfriend Still Has an Active Online Dating Profile!

Posted by on April 29, 2015 in communication skills in dating, dating after divorce, red flags in relationships | 0 comments

"HeMy Boyfriend Still Has an Active Online Dating Profile!Dear Sandy,

I’ve been dating “Harry” for three weeks, and he asked me to be exclusive. But I noticed last night that he’s still on OurTime.com, and I am upset and confused.

I want to bring up that he is still online even though he says he wants to only date me. What does this mean? I want to be able to trust that he means what he says.

How do I talk about the fact that my boyfriend still has an active online dating profile without turning him off?

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How to Stop Attracting Unavailable Men

Posted by on April 28, 2015 in dating a dangerous man, dating after divorce, red flags in relationships | 0 comments

unavailable menHi Sandy,

Last year I was contacted out of the blue by someone I had a long distance relationship with nearly 20 years ago!

I am naturally cautious, but being single and coming up to 60 (though most people think I’m at least 10 years younger), I thought “why not go for it, what have I got to lose?”

He lives about 3 hours away, so the distance is there but not so far.

The passion was still as great. I’ve stayed with him and he’s stayed at my place, I’ve met all his friends and he talked about us going to Paris, going sailing on his boat, etc.

This was six months ago. Then about a month ago I sensed a slight withdrawal/distancing from him and I tried not to be needy by calling too much. Then he finally phoned me and said that it wasn’t working out for him, our worlds are too different, and he can’t give me what I need/want. (more…)

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Why Your Assumptions Are Keeping You Single

Posted by on April 21, 2015 in communication skills in dating, dating after divorce, first date success | 2 comments

assumptions You’ve probably heard the old adage, “assumptions make an ass of you and me”. And while you may think you understand how bad it is to make assumptions about people, you’re probably still doing it occasionally on a subconscious level. It’s hard not to. Our primal brains judge others because they want to keep us safe. If we sense danger, we keep our distance. And that can be a very good thing.

But it can also be dismal, especially in dating. Your assumptions might very well be the reason you’re still single. (more…)

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Help! My Daughter is Dating a Narcissist

Posted by on April 17, 2015 in dating a dangerous man, dating a narcissist, red flags in relationships | 2 comments

daughter is dating a narcissistHi Sandy,

I need your advice on how to help my 17-year-old daughter stop dating a textbook narcissist. He is controlling, manipulative, and a relentless mental abuser.

She is addicted to his texts, even though he calls her a slut and curses. She stands up to him a bit but always ends up apologizing. She constantly tells him how great he is and that she loves him so much.  (more…)

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The Challenge of Speaking Up in Dating

Posted by on April 8, 2015 in communication skills in dating, dating a narcissist, dating after divorce, dating in midlife, first date success, understanding men over 40 | 3 comments

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I’m sharing something I read on Facebook. The woman who wrote it is a successful entrepreneur who went on a date that ended terribly. She regrets that she didn’t have the courage to speak up and let this man know that it wasn’t okay to do what he did. It’s a great illustration of the challenge of speaking up in dating, even on the very first date…

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