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7 Tips for Effective Co-Parenting After Divorce

Posted by on March 27, 2015 in breaking up with grace, dating after divorce, love after 40, single women over 40 | 0 comments

coparenting after divorceDivorce can be one of the most stressful events you’ll ever experience. There are practical matters such as dividing property and moving, as well as the emotional issues such as mourning the dream of a happy marriage and wondering if you’ll ever find love again. For your children, however, divorce has its own challenges. Their world seems to be falling apart, and nothing will ever be the same for them. Your marriage may be crumbling, but your children need you and your former spouse to hold their world together. Keep the following in mind as your plan for the next steps in co-parenting your children.  (more…)

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4 Tips to Reignite Your Relationship

Posted by on March 25, 2015 in communication skills in dating, dating in midlife | 0 comments

your relationshipBeing in a relationship can be incredibly rewarding and wonderful. Many people who are single daydream of someday having a partner they can share everything with, from their most mundane thoughts to their life’s goals and dreams. That doesn’t mean that being in a relationship is all peaches and cream though, and it certainly doesn’t mean that it’s always easy. I know this from experience in my own relationships.

In fact, experience has taught me that relationships are hard work, and even when you do your best to maintain them, that spark that you had early on in your relationship can feel like it’s starting to fade from time to time. It can happen even if your relationship isn’t having any problems. (more…)

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How to Finally Break Free of Toxic Dating Patterns

Posted by on March 23, 2015 in communication skills in dating, dating after divorce, love after 40, red flags in relationships | 0 comments

toxic dating patternsI recently interviewed Cindy Holbrook, a certified divorce coach, supporting women as they traverse the emotional roller-coaster of divorce to heal. She helps them let go of the past and rebuild their life with less stress, more clarity and confidence about their future.

Cindy has been the guest of many telesummits and radio shows including Huffington Post Live. Her articles have been published on eHarmony, Huffington Post, Fox Magazine and MSN. She created, a website filled with tips and techniques to educate and empower women as they make the transition to being a single woman and re-entering the dating field. Following are loosely transcribed highlights of our radio interview on Last First Date Radio, where Cindy talked about how to finally break free of toxic dating patterns. (more…)

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5 Ways to Survive – and Thrive – After a Breakup

Posted by on March 20, 2015 in breaking up with grace, dating after divorce, dating in midlife, red flags in relationships | 0 comments

after a breakup(This article first appeared in They say that breaking up is hard to do. It was difficult in your twenties, and it doesn’t get much easier when you’re over 50. The days and weeks after a breakup can take a toll on your mental and physical health. In extreme cases, the breakup can be physiologically similar to withdrawing from an addiction. So, yes, breakups are hard to do. But with the right tools, you can survive and even thrive after a breakup. (more…)

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4 Date Ideas for When You’re Low on Funds

Posted by on March 18, 2015 in dating after divorce, dating in midlife, single women over 40 | 0 comments

shutterstock_181267994Just because you’re on a tight budget doesn’t mean you can’t date. You’ve got goals, motivation and most of all, so much love to offer a partner. If you can’t travel or spend a ton of money on dating, here are four creative date ideas that are proven to impress. Keep in mind that most of these tips are not good for a first date. They are intended for those of you who have been on a few dates and have established some trust and rapport. (more…)

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Dating a Man Who’s Separated, Not Divorced

Posted by on March 17, 2015 in breaking up with grace, dating a dangerous man, dating in midlife, self-esteem in dating, understanding men over 40 | 0 comments

dating a man who's separatedDear Sandy, 

I hope you can help me.  My husband passed away 8 months ago.  A friend of both of ours became very interested in me.  He was separated, not divorced at the time.  He has three kids, all in their twenties.  His two daughters had a very difficult time with him dating me.  Two months into the relationship, he told me that one of his daughters asked him to give their mother another chance.  He reunited with his wife, and  I am totally devastated and depressed.  I never thought he’d do this to me!  I didn’t think it would be a problem dating a man who’s separated, not divorced. What is your advice?

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How to Overcome Fears/Stumbling Blocks in Relationships

Posted by on March 10, 2015 in dating after divorce, dating in midlife, understanding men over 40 | 0 comments

fears and stumbling blocks in relationshipsErwan Davon has taught thousands of singles and couples how to have exceptional romantic relationships over the last 17 years. He is the founder, senior teacher, and president of San Francisco based Erwan Davon Teachings. He graduated with a degree in psychology and soon began teaching personal development for one of the world’s largest personal growth organizations. He then branched out on his own to support people in their relationships, and in 1993 founded Beyond Education, which later became Erwan Davon Teachings. He helps people overcome fears /stumbling blocks in relationships and then take your romance to new heights. Following are loosely transcribed highlights of my radio interview with Erwan(more…)

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Are You Dating A Jerk (or just a guy behaving badly)?

Posted by on March 8, 2015 in dating a dangerous man, dating a narcissist, dating after divorce, dating in midlife, red flags in relationships | 0 comments

dating a jerkDear Sandy,

I’ve been dating Alan for three months. For the first time in years, I feel a very strong connection. I love talking to him. He is exciting, thoughtful, and fun. He “gets” me and I “get” him. With this strong chemistry comes fire and passion. But every once in a while, he says or does something that makes me concerned about his character.

For example, I recently sent him an email in which I shared something very important to me. Instead of responding with thought and kindness, he sent back a stupid, insensitive, crass, sexually explicit email that shocked me. (more…)

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Rewire Your Brain for Better Relationships

Posted by on March 5, 2015 in communication skills in dating, dating after divorce, dating in midlife, red flags in relationships | 0 comments

better relationshipsDr. Amy Banks studies love. More specifically, she studies relational neuroscience. She recently published a book entitled, “4 ways to click: Rewire Your Brain for Stronger, More Rewarding Relationships“. A former Harvard professor of psychiatry, Dr. Banks cites her major findings in the realm of love:

1. It’s not actually as important to have a strong sense of self as it is to have a significant other.

2. The woman who ALWAYS chooses the wrong guy isn’t weak. A bad relationship reprograms your neuropathways to seek out similar relationships in the future. She needs to recondition her brain – not just to take a good hard look in the mirror.

Learn more about what Dr. Banks had to say about building better relationships in the highlights of our radio interview below. (more…)

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5 Ways to Create the Perfect First Date

Posted by on March 2, 2015 in dating after divorce, first date success, single women over 40 | 0 comments

first dateIn a survey on, 59 percent of participants said it’s difficult to find someone you really like, and 62 percent think people’s expectations of each other are too high. So when you do find someone you really like and you decide to go on a date, give it a boost by creating a first date to remember. The idea is to foster a unique experience that will make enough of an impression to secure a second date with him or her. (more…)

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