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11 Things A Man Can Do To Make A Woman Happy

Posted by on November 21, 2014 in dating in midlife, love after 40, online dating after 40, single women over 40 | 0 comments

make a woman happyWouldn’t it be great if we all came with an operating manual? It would make dating and relationships so much less confusing. I have my private clients write their own personal operating manual. It consists of her relationship plan – her must-haves, her must-not-haves, her communication style, and what makes her happy in life. She doesn’t literally hand that book out to the men she dates. That would be weird. It’s just for her, to give her clarity on her relationship standards and how she wants to be treated in relationships. It helps her identify the right men and walk away from the wrong ones.

There are some recurring themes in these operating manuals. Turns out that most women want similar things from the men in their lives. Married or single, I thought men might benefit from knowing what most women want in relationships. (Note: I said MOST because I realize we’re all unique, and some will disagree with a few of these points.) I once watched a YouTube video of a teenage girl telling men what women want, which inspired me to write this post for more mature men. If you agree with these tips, please pass them on to any men you know. Wouldn’t it be fabulous if men and women understood how to make each other happier? (more…)

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How Men View Dating and Sex

Posted by on November 20, 2014 in dating in midlife, first date success, love after 40, self-esteem in dating, understanding men over 40 | 0 comments

how men view sex and datingDear Sandy,

I am so confused about the “right” way to date. When I am honest and straightforward about presenting my true self on a first date, I often don’t get asked out a second time. It seems like maybe I’m not mysterious or flirtatious enough. I’ve been called down-to-earth. So, when I try to be coy, flirty, and don’t say too much, guys seem to like me better. They seem to be into the chase, the mystery of me. After they’ve made their conquest, they lose interest. It feels like either way you look at it, I lose. I am looking to find a wonderful man, and I don’t think my standards are unreasonable. Why can’t I find Mr. Right? Why does it have to be so hard? Men don’t seem like they’re from Mars. They seem like they’re from an alternate universe!

Help me understand men and dating please!

Maria (more…)

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9 Signs of Infidelity in a Relationship

Posted by on November 19, 2014 in breaking up with grace, communication skills in dating, dating after divorce, red flags in relationships | 0 comments

signs of infidelityThis article has been submitted by the team at Fine and Associates who are family lawyers in Toronto.

When you’re in a close relationship with someone and there are obvious signs that something is amiss, you need to look into it. Is there something different about your partner and you just can’t put your finger on it? They might not be keeping their regular schedule, may offer vague explanations of their activities, may be making changes to their appearance or are frequently spending late nights at the office. All this and more can lead to the suspicion of infidelity. It’s important to recognize these signs and to follow-up with your partner about their behavior. By identifying the signs of infidelity in the relationship, you can then begin an open and honest discussion on whether your partner is cheating and how the situation can be resolved. (more…)

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Would You Pay $5,000 to Date Someone Who Looks Like Your Ex?

Posted by on November 18, 2014 in dating in midlife, first date success, online dating after 40, single women over 40 | 0 comments

date someone who looks like your exAccording to an article in Time.com, Beginning in June of 2016, for a mere $5,000, you can date someone who looks like your ex. You know that guy who broke your heart, the one you’re trying to forget? You can date someone who reminds you of him. Every day for the rest of your life, you can wake up to the face that reminds you of the man who cheated on you, the one who said he just wasn’t into you. Sounds like a dream, huh? Apparently, one of the top online dating sites thinks so. This is a special concierge service offered by Match.com and a matchmaking company called Three Day Rule. Talia Goldstein, founder of Three Day Rule, created a facial recognition dating service for Match. The premise is that we are usually attracted to the same “type” over and over again, so why not plug that type into a computer and spit out all men who look like your ex? Instant chemistry, right? I beg to differ… (more…)

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The Secrets to Lasting Love

Posted by on November 18, 2014 in communication skills in dating, dating after divorce, dating in midlife, love after 40 | 0 comments

lasting love You’ve probably known some couples who have been together for 40, 50, even 60 years. Have you ever wondered how they stay together so long? With the high divorce rate in our society and our seemingly disposable relationships, how do some couples find lasting love while others struggle to make it last even a few months? After my divorce, I set out to find the answer to relationship success. What I knew for sure was that I wanted a different model for relationships than the one I grew up with.

 

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Online Dating: Protect Yourself from Scammers

Posted by on November 10, 2014 in dating a dangerous man, online dating after 40, red flags in relationships | 0 comments

online datingMore than 6,000 online romance scams were reported to the Internet Crime Complaint Center in 2013, according to the agency’s annual Internet Crime Report. As someone new to online dating, these statistics can be staggering and might make you rethink signing up for that dating site. While concerning, this is no reason to give up on finding true love online. Armed with the following tools, you can protect yourself on your journey to find love.

 

 

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How to Recognize a Player So You Don’t Get Played

Posted by on November 5, 2014 in dating a dangerous man, dating in midlife, online dating after 40, red flags in relationships, self-esteem in dating | 2 comments

recognize a playerOne of my favorite Maya Angelou quotes is “When someone shows you who they are believe them the first time.” The best time to recognize a man’s true character is when you first meet. On a first date, you’re both hopefully on your best behavior, but your true character leaks out. Pay close attention to his actions and words. Do they line up? One of the advantages to dating after 50 is that I no longer go into a relationship with my eyes shut to the true nature of a man. No more wishful thinking or projecting what I hope lies beneath the surface. I’ve learned to accept the man I date for who he is today, not who he might become if only… But sometimes, even I can get fooled. But not for long. (more…)

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Hello Pretty: Beware of this Online Dating Email Scam

Posted by on November 4, 2014 in dating a dangerous man, online dating after 40, red flags in relationships | 0 comments

online dating email scamOnline dating is an incredible tool for finding love after 40. About 1/2 of all marriages today begin with an online connection. And while there are mostly decent people online, there are also a fair share of creeps and scammers. If you’ve been dating online for a while, you’ve probably received emails from some of these guys. You know the emails that sound too good to be true? A guy professes his love for you before you’ve exchanged a single email. He flatters you. He can’t believe his good luck in having stumbled upon your outstandingly gorgeous face. Have you ever received an email like this one? I call it the “Hello Pretty” online dating email scam. (more…)

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Are You too Picky or Not Picky Enough in Dating?

Posted by on November 3, 2014 in communication skills in dating, dating after divorce, dating in midlife, first date success | 0 comments

not picky enough“You’re too picky”, says your mother. “You’re not picky enough”, says your best friend. Which one is it? A few years ago, a thirty-year-old woman came to see me. She had been on 200 dates and was wondering if she was just too picky in dating. She was about to board a bus and travel 4 hours to meet a man for a third date, someone with whom she felt very little connection and zero attraction. “Why are you getting on that bus?” I asked. “It sounds like you are not at all interested in this man. He bores you. You’re not attracted at all. Why waste precious time and money on a guy with no potential? It’s not too late to cancel.” “I’m not sure what to do,” she answered. “That’s why I’m here to see you. My family thinks I’m too picky.” “From what you’ve shared, I think you’re probably not picky enough,” I said. (more…)

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The 6 Keys to Spiritual Dating

Posted by on November 2, 2014 in dating after divorce, dating in midlife, first date success, understanding men over 40 | 0 comments

spiritual datingWhat’s spiritual dating? My radio guest, Jill Crosby, talked about the difference between spiritual dating and mainstream dating. She is the owner and founder of the largest exclusively spiritual/conscious dating site on the Internet, www.SpiritualSingles.com. She is a dynamic public speaker, workshop/retreat leader and hypnotherapist. She communicates with dolphins and whales and facilitates Wild Dolphin and Whale Swim Retreats for Singles. She also is the owner and founder of the international events site, www.SpiritualEvents.com and lives in beautiful, sacred Mount Shasta, California. Following are loosely transcribed highlights of our radio segment, The 6 Keys to Spiritual Dating.  (more…)

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