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How the 4 Love Styles Can Help You Find a Compatible Partner

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Therapist and coach Chelli Pumphrey, believes that one of the best ways to find a compatible partner is by knowing your love style. Learn more here.

find a compatible partnerChelli Pumphrey, MA, LPC is a Love Strategist. With over 20 years of experience as a psychotherapist, she brings a level of expertise into her coaching that helps her clients overcome fear, disrupt unhealthy patterns in relationships, and build confidence in their search for love. She is a relationship expert who uses her knowledge of psychology, neuroscience, and attachment to help people find compatible, healthy, passionate relationships. Chelli offers coaching, therapy, classes, and retreats to help you get to the core of what’s preventing you from finding love. You can learn more about Chelli at http://www.authenticdate.com.

Check out highlights of episode #245: The Power of Using Your Love Style to Find a Compatible Partner.

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Do I Have to Make Him Chase Me?

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Rachel writes that the man she’s been seeing is moody and angry. “Do I have to make him chase me?” Here’s how to know when it’s time to walk away.

Hi Sandy,

I’ve been seeing a man for over a year. We met online over a year ago. However, we had never met in person until recently. Over the course of the year, he would call every day or text. Sometimes late at night, too. We would talk for hours. However, since we met, things have changed drastically, and I have seen that he’s very moody. For example, sometimes he won’t contact me at all, he gets angry easily, usually while talking on the phone. I’m the one that makes time for us. We never would have met if it were not for me. Yes, we’ve had sex. After a year of phone conversation, we both wanted to spend time together. He tells me he wants no drama from me. I know pretty much what you’re going to say but, even though he’s grown on me, do I have to make him chase me?

I’d appreciate any advice. 

Rachel

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What Can Ancient History Teach Us About Relationships?

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Who knew that ancient history could teach us so many lessons about relationships? Author John Vespasian shared many fascinating stories on my radio show.

My radio guest, John Vespasian, is an expert on ancient history. He’s written eight books about rational living, including “When Everything Fails, Try This” (2009), “Rationality Is the Way to Happiness” (2009), “The Philosophy of Builders: How to Build a Great Future with the Pieces from Your Past” (2010), “The 10 Principles of Rational Living” (2012), “Rational Living, Rational Working: How to Make Winning Moves When Things Are Falling Apart” (2013), “Consistency: The Key to Permanent Stress Relief” (2014), “On Becoming Unbreakable: How Normal People Become Extraordinarily Self-Confident” (2015), and “Thriving in difficult times: Twelve lessons from Ancient Greece to improve your life today” (2016).

I interviewed him on episode #244: What Ancient History Can Teach Us About Relationships. Highlights of our interview can be found below.


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Valentine’s Day Special: Romantic Road Trips for the Young at Heart

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How will you spend Valentine’s Day this year? Dinner, roses, chocolates? Or are you up for something totally unique? Check out these romantic road trips.

Dinner and dessert—that’s how most couples will spend their Valentine’s Day this year. But you and your sweetheart aren’t like most couples—or at least you don’t have to be. This year, spend Feb. 14,  and perhaps the rest of the week, on the open road taking in the beauty of America’s backyard. (more…)

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11 Critical Steps for Safe Online Dating

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This infographic outlines the importance of taking safety precautions and shows you how to take steps to have a safe online dating experience.

Love it or hate it, online dating is hands down the best way to find love after 40. Imagine trying to find love at this age without sites like Match.com and OkCupid, Bumble and Hinge. Do your friends set you up? Probably not. And if they do, it’s usually with someone who’s not a good fit. Most people over 40 go to work, the gym, and come home. Online dating is the place people find love all day every day. But, it’s important to take steps for safe online dating.

This isn’t to scare you and keep you from online dating due to horror stories you may have heard. Fortunately, those stories are few and far between. But, it’s important to know about safe online dating, so you can relax and enjoy the journey to find love after 40. This infographic outlines the importance of taking safety precautions and shows you how to take steps to have a safe online dating experience. (more…)

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Dating in Midlife: Insights and Wisdom Gained

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If you’re dating in midlife, you’ve probably experienced your share of heartbreak. These four ladies share what they learned about dating at this age.

I had so much fun interviewing the four “And I Thought Ladies”, discussing dating in midlife. These women have been interviewed on numerous shows for their unique approach to love. They bring four decades of life experiences to document their progress in understanding the keys to attracting in love, which begins in increasing self-love. These women span the gamut of relationships, from those who are survivors of abusive relationships, to those who are now happily married for several years. These four ladies empathize with women at any stage of love, because they have been there and have literally written two books about it!

Here’s the line up of the “And I Thought Ladies”: ​Wilnona is divorced after an emotionally abusive relationship. Jade, the youngest, found her Prince Charming after many years of dating, and she’s been married for four years. Dr. Argent has two doctorates and has dated around the world. She runs many businesses and is also an author. Renee had two divorces and now owns her own cleaning service with an awesome name, Divine Destiny.

Highlights of Episode 243: Four Perspectives on Love and Marriage in Midlife can be found below.

 

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3 Reasons Why Men Are Scared to Commit—and What You Can Do About it

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Discover the top 3 reasons why men are scared to commit to you. Immediately know if he’s emotionally available or if it’s time to walk away and say, NEXT!

Wondering why men are scared to commit? I get it—dating after 40 can be challenging. Whether you’re online or offline, the process requires a lot of effort and time, and often, you’re left with a feeling of defeat, rejection, and just plain exhaustion. But then, every once in a while, you find someone special online. You connect and start to fall for him, only to find out that your potential partner doesn’t want to become exclusive. I want you to avoid this potential pitfall. With that in mind, here are three reasons why men are scared to commit to a relationship. (more…)

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How to Be a Woman of Value When a Man Stands You Up

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What do you do when a man stands you up? He seemed amazing, you made a date, and then he didn’t show up. He apologized the next day. Do you forgive him?

I want to share a “woman of value” story with you. It’s about when a man stands you up and what you can do about it so you don’t feel powerless anymore. It’s about standing in your integrity, even when you feel rejected by a man. It’s about something that just happened to me. I think it’s important to learn lessons from every experience we have in dating. So, here’s my teachable moment about how to be a woman of value, even when a man stands you up!
 
I met a guy a few weeks ago. The first date was amazing. We both didn’t want it to end. He walked me to my car like a gentleman. I liked that. And for the first time in a LONG time, I was interested in a second date. He really liked me, too, and asked me out for the following week. All was good. Or so I thought…

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The 6 Love Styles and How they Can Help You Find Lasting Love

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What are the 6 love styles, and how can they help you find love? Identify YOUR love style and discover which love style is your perfect match.

My radio guest, Dr. Kate Ferrick, is a Relationships Coach who studies the psychology of romantic love. She has helped singles find love for over ten years, and conducts workshops for singles in Southern California. Dr. Kate has been interviewed on numerous radio stations regarding her findings on romantic love and the 6 love styles.

Learn about the The 6 Love Styles and How they Can Help You Find Lasting Love on Last First Date Radio. Highlights of our show below… (more…)

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How to Be Your Own Best Lover

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Be your own best lover to attract your best partner. Try these wonderful exercises by coach, author, and nutritionist, Rebecca Clio Gould.

My radio guest, Rebecca Clio Gould is a Certified Holistic Health Practitioner, Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, Qigong and Meditation Teacher, Sexual Awakening for Women Facilitator, and Author of “The Multi-Orgasmic Diet.” She’s on a mission to help women live healthier lives, step into their power, love themselves more, experience more joy, and live life to the fullest. Rebecca has been running her own business, Elemental Harmony, PLLC since 2007 and lives in Seattle, Washington.

You can find highlights below for episode #241: How to Be Your Own Best Lover with Rebecca Gould.

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