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The Naked Truth About Men and Romance

Posted by on June 30, 2015 in communication skills in dating, dating after divorce, understanding men over 40 | 0 comments

naked truth about menKathryn Foster, Ph.D., is a psychologist in private practice in Ft Worth, Texas. With a masters degree in marriage and family counseling and a Ph.D. in psychology, she has practiced psychotherapy for 26 years. She has written two companions to The Naked Truth About Men (And Romance), one for couples (but written for men) What Women Want….Really! and another called When Your Relationship Changes. Her two novels are, Finding My Way and Sessions: Memoirs of a Psychotherapist.

Following are loosely transcribed highlights from my interview with Dr. Foster, as she revealed the naked truth and men and romance.


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Fall in Love Again: Summer Edition

Posted by on June 24, 2015 in flirting, love after 40 | 0 comments

fall in love againIt was magic the moment you met. The conversation was effortless, your interests so complimentary it was almost eerie, and, well, the sparks—right away you were hot for each other. Things only got better from there: the romantic dates, the conversations that went deep into the night, the vulnerable revelations about past hurts, the building of trust so secure you knew you could rely on this person to always be there for you. Maybe it only took months, or maybe it was years, but at some point you knew: this was the person you were meant to spend the rest of your life with. And so, one day you got married. You began a whole new life together, and you just knew this bliss would go on and on. Forever. (more…)

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Smart Relationship Advice from Gerald Rogers

Posted by on June 23, 2015 in communication skills in dating, dating after divorce | 1 comment

relationship adviceMy radio guest, Gerald Rogers, is a bestselling author, transformational leader, speaker and coach. Gerald is internationally known for his virtual sensation that has touched millions worldwide– The Marriage Advice I Wish I Would’ve Had and for his LIVE BIG breakthrough seminars.

Gerald’s passion for love, life, and helping others has led him to be featured on The Today Show, NBC, ABC, the Huffington Post and 100’s of radio shows and blog posts across the world. Recently he was recognized and featured by Pope Francis in an article entitled “A Man Gives You 20 Tips to Not Get a Divorce”.

Following are loosely transcribed highlights of our radio show on Last First Date Radio.


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How to Quickly Spot Red Flags in Dating

Posted by on June 19, 2015 in dating a dangerous man, red flags in relationships | 0 comments

red flags in datingThis is a guest post by Cupid’s Cronies, a matchmaking website. (The opinions are those of the author. Last First Date doesn’t take responsibility for differing opinions).

Going out on a first date can be risky!  Let’s be honest, we’ve all had disastrous first dates that have sent us running.  The main reason it’s risky is that your date will probably be a stranger to you.  You are taking a calculated risk that could either pay off — you’ve met your future soul mate! Or it could blow up in your face if your date turns out to be very weird or even dangerous. That’s why it’s important to quickly spot red flags before, during, and after a date. It’s easier than you may think.


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A Midlife Crisis Leads to a Timeshared Lover!

Posted by on June 16, 2015 in dating after divorce, dating in midlife, love after 40 | 0 comments

midlife crisisBorn in Zimbabwe and educated in South Africa, author and artist Yana Stajno enjoyed an artistic and eclectic start to life. Graduating in English and Drama at Cape Town University, Stajno was politically active, joining the anti-apartheid movement where she met her future husband in the middle of a riot.

She now lives in London, where she practices as an acupuncturist, is an artist and writer. Stajno has written several plays and short stories. This is her first novel.

Following are loosely transcribed highlights of my radio interview with Yana about her new book, Rules for Thursday Lovers, a story about midlife crisis and timesharing a lover…


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First Date, First Impression: What Your Tech Says About You

Posted by on June 15, 2015 in dating after divorce, first date success | 0 comments

First DateWhen out in the dating world, it is important to know the rules of the game. Rules like always open the door for your date, never talk about your ex and always make a good first impression. Remember, you only get one chance to make a first impression.

Plus, with modern, instant conveniences and expectations, you have to say as much as you can with as few words as possible, in as little time as allowed. So, when meeting someone for the first time, it is important to consider what your tech says about you. To maximize your chances of attracting the right person, here are a few insights to determine if you are giving off the right vibrations: (more…)

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Dating a Widow Who Won’t Remove Photos of Her Late Husband

Posted by on June 11, 2015 in communication skills in dating, dating after divorce, dating in midlife | 0 comments

dating a widowHi Sandy,

Five months ago, I met the most wonderful woman. She lost her husband 3 years prior to us meeting. Our relationship has grown quickly, probably because we’re both 58 and know what we want in a relationship. I’m spending more and more time with her. We are talking about moving in together and possibly getting a new home.

Where I need you to chime in is about the family pictures around the house, most of which include her husband. I realize this is where her children where raised, and her husband was taken from her. She didn’t have a choice as I did with my divorce.

While I’m okay with some photos of her late husband, my heart aches at seeing him as a screen saver on her computer or his nameplate on her desk. At what point can I expect her to change these things or put them away? I know he is deceased and isn’t a threat. I feel she is trying to hang on to some of those memories, which I can understand to a degree. Yet, I’m thinking she hasn’t fully let go and truly ready to move on. Is this my issue that I’ve got to get past? Do I have some jealousy over a deceased person? Can I gently ask her to change or remove some of these items? (more…)

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Dating Success for Introverts with Dr. Christie Hartman

Posted by on June 10, 2015 in communication skills in dating, first date success, online dating after 40 | 0 comments

introvertsDr. Christie Hartman is an internationally recognized dating expert, behavioral scientist, and author of five dating advice books. A recovering academic and closeted nerd, Christie has refocused her overactive, analytical mind on unraveling the scientific and psychological mysteries behind dating and attraction. Catering to both men and women, she deconstructs all that is baffling about dating and makes it easily digestible to singles.

Following are loosely transcribed highlights of our radio interview.


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How Do You Know He’s a Romance Scammer?

Posted by on June 8, 2015 in dating a dangerous man, dating after divorce, dating in midlife, red flags in relationships | 0 comments

romance scammerMany people say online dating doesn’t work. They say it’s a scary way to meet people, and they’d rather meet singles in real life. My questions is, how’s that working for them? Probably not so well. Because in real life, if you’re over 40, you probably meet very few singles. That’s why online dating is such a wonderful tool for finding love. It gives you access to people you’d never meet in real life. Most of those people are safe. But every so often, you’ll come across someone who isn’t. This guy is a romance scammer.

What’s a romance scammer and how do you spot them? Many years ago, when I first started dating online, a romance scammer contacted me. There were many red flags from the outset. I wrote an article about that experience here. Today, I spotted another scammer (that’s his photo) and immediately reported him to JDate. He’s been removed from the site. Here’s how I knew he was a scammer… (more…)

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How to Be Smarter About Dating After Divorce

Posted by on June 4, 2015 in dating after divorce, dating in midlife, single women over 40 | 0 comments

dating after divorceArianna Jeret is a divorce mediator and certified divorce coach who focuses on shortening the traumatic process of divorce. She uses a strategic approach that focuses on emotional and financial needs. She is particularly passionate about raising awareness of alternative paths to resolution in high-conflict relationships.

Arianna has been featured in interviews for FOX News Radio, Huff Post Divorce,, and, and her articles for have been syndicated on top sites such as xoJane, Popsugar and Yahoo Style.

What to know how to be smarter about dating after divorce? Following are loosely transcribed highlights of our radio interview, How to Date Smarter for Better Relationship After Divorce with Arianna Jeret


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