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Am I too Picky About Men?

Posted by on July 23, 2014 in dating after divorce, first date success, online dating after 40 | 2 comments

too picky about menDear Sandy,

I’ve been lurking on to see what’s out there, and I have to say, I am thoroughly unimpressed and often kind of put off.  I wonder if I’m too picky about men online. Most men have horrible photos, can’t write anything substantive, are looking for someone to run/bike/do marathons with, want someone 10 years younger, and try to impress with cars/motorcycles, baseball hats and photos of them in sleeveless t-shirts with the guys.  Ugh! (more…)

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He Keeps Talking About His Exes!

Posted by on July 22, 2014 in communication skills in dating, love after 40, red flags in relationships | 2 comments

he keeps talking about his exDear Sandy,

I’ve gone out for over a month with a man who keeps talking about his exes on almost every date. It makes me feel uncomfortable, especially because he doesn’t talk about how he feels about me. Should I wait it out or is it a red flag that he is still thinking about these girlfriends from the past?

“Kay” (more…)

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Arielle Ford: How to Manifest The Love of Your Life

Posted by on July 16, 2014 in dating in midlife, love after 40, single women over 40 | 0 comments

Arielle FordArielle Ford has spent the past 25 years living and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is the author of the international bestseller, THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction. Arielle has been called “The Cupid of Consciousness” and “The Fairy Godmother of Love” and yesterday on Last First Date Radio, she shared her secrets to how to manifest the love of your life. Her show, Big Love with Arielle Ford is heard on Contact Talk Radio where she shares the secrets to finding and keeping love and making life a spiritual adventure. She lives in La Jolla, CA with her husband/soulmate, Brian Hilliard and their feline friends. Her websites include and (more…)

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Are You Attracted to the Wrong Man?

Posted by on July 8, 2014 in dating a dangerous man, dating a narcissist, red flags in relationships | 0 comments

attracted to the wrong manDear Sandy,

I am single and 52. How can I stop being attracted to the wrong man?  They treat me badly, and I have the courage to let them go at the very beginning of the relationship. I then start missing the good times and forget the reason why I left . I keep mentally and emotionally hooked to them – even for years – and close myself to any other relationship.  I sometimes go back to them for a very short time to receive the same bad treatment. I always try to convince myself that I did something wrong.  I am so used to this pattern that I cannot feel how it would be to be in a relationship without stupid games, lack of respect or an abusive “love”. Why do I do this to myself when I want just the opposite? (more…)

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She Wants to Know: Does He Love Me?

Posted by on July 1, 2014 in love after 40 | 2 comments

does he love meDear Sandy,

I have a question about a man I know. He has flirted with me, stares at me across the room, looks me up and down, stares at my face, lingers around me, asks trivial questions, says my name all the time, gets nervous and blushes around me, big smiles, jokes around. But one day he mentioned his girlfriend. It was forced and not related to the conversation. Since then, he has been intentionally rude to me, ignores me and glares at me – yet continues to stare at me across the room and try and get my attention. What is his deal? Does he love me or hate me? Thank you for your time.



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5 Great First Date Ideas

Posted by on June 30, 2014 in dating after divorce, first date success | 0 comments

first date ideasA study done by the French financial services firm AXA found that participants on a first date knew within the first 12 minutes whether they were interested in the other person. Body odor and bad breath were tops in the off-putting category. While good hygiene is critical, a great venue won’t hurt your chances for a second date, either. Here are five unique first date ideas to make a positive first impression. (more…)

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6 Keys to Spiritual Dating

Posted by on June 27, 2014 in dating in midlife, first date success, online dating after 40 | 0 comments

spiritual dating sitesJill Crosby is the owner and founder of the largest exclusively spiritual/conscious dating site on the Internet, She is a dynamic public speaker, workshop/retreat leader and hypnotherapist. She communicates with dolphins and whales and facilitates Wild Dolphin and Whale Swim Retreats for Singles. She also is the owner and founder of the international events site, and lives in beautiful, sacred Mount Shasta, California. I loved talking to her about Spiritual Dating Sites on Last First Date Radio. Following are loosely transcribed highlights of our show.  (more…)

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If I’m Such a Great Catch How Come I’m Still Single?

Posted by on June 26, 2014 in dating after divorce, single women over 40 | 0 comments

still singleDo people often say, “You’re such a great catch; I’m surprised you’re still single”? Are you wondering why yourself? Have you started questioning your desirability and attractiveness? Are you tired of dating disappointments and incompatible partners?

It’s time to take a serious look at where you’re going wrong in your approach to dating. Relationship Coach Rosalind Sedacca was my guest on Last First Date Radio on June 26th. She identified some of the patterns that may be keeping you from achieving your relationship goals so you can find a worthy and lasting love partner. (more…)

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I’ve Been So Busy, I Forgot to Find a Boyfriend

Posted by on June 23, 2014 in dating in midlife, single women over 40 | 0 comments

find a boyfriend“My friend Monica needs your help!” said Anna, a book editor I recently met at a book-signing event in Manhattan. Monica (not her real name) is beautiful; slim, sexy, salt and pepper hair, great skin, and stylishly dressed in a colorful form-fitting dress in blues and greens. She seemed to be around 60 years-old, and her bubbly personality and smart sense of humor drew me in instantly. “Hi Sandy. So you’re a dating coach? Maybe you can help me. I just realized – I forgot to find a boyfriend!” (more…)

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Would You Date a Grandmother?

Posted by on June 21, 2014 in dating after divorce, dating in midlife, first date success | 2 comments

date a grandmotherMy oldest daughter just gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. It’s an amazing thing – witnessing your daughter carry a baby for nine months and then become a mother. And ready or not, I became a grandmother. I’m actually very ready. I’m excited to get to know this little baby girl. Everyone asks, “What will you be called?” I’m no Nanny, Nanna, Nona, Oma, Grandma, Granny, Bubby, or Savta. I decided on “Mima”. That is of course until the baby starts to talk and calls me whatever she likes. But for now, I’m basking in the glory of being Mima to this miraculous little being. And I get to hold her for the first time tomorrow. So exciting! I’m a grandmother! And then I wonder, how will being a grandmother effect my dating? I mean, would you date a grandmother? (more…)

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