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Sexuality, Disability, and the Power of Love in Midlife

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Sexuality. Disability. What are the challenges of partnering with a disabled partner, and how can you find true love, no matter what?

I had such an inspiring conversation with Dr. Richard Tscherne and his partner, Jaimie Adams. We spoke about sexuality, disability, and the power of finding true love in midlife.

Richard Tscherne is a licensed clinical psychologist and a certified rehabilitation counselor with over 20 years experience in the field of disabilities. Having overcome his own obstacles related to his cerebral palsy, he empowers others with disabilities to adapt a positive mindset. He divides his time between San Diego and New York with his partner Jaimie Adams.

Below, you will find highlights of the radio show,  Sexuality, Disability, and the Power of Love in Midlife. Learn how to be an empowered dater with a full life, no matter what! (more…)

How to Deal With Anger in Relationships

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Reneau Peurifoy, author of Anger: Taming the Beast, discussed how to deal with anger in relationships in this episode of Last First Date Radio.

How do you deal with anger, especially if you’re in a relationship? My radio guest, Reneau Peurifoy, answered that question and more in episode #223, Anger in Relationships: How to Tame the Beast. Reneau holds a master’s degree in counseling and is the author Anger: Taming the Beast, 2nd Ed. His first book, Anxiety, Phobias and Panic, has gone through three revisions and sold over 200,000 copies.

After twenty years in private practice as a marriage and family therapist specializing in anxiety disorders, he retired to teach at a local College in Sacramento, California. After fifteen years of teaching he is now and spending his time writing, speaking, and seeing people with anxiety-related problems as a pastoral counselor and sharing videos on practical life skills on his YouTube channel.

Check out the highlights of our radio interview below. (more…)

The Number One Key to Finding True Love

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Love is attainable to all who seek it. Here’s the #1 key to finding true love. Can you guess what it is?

Judith Costa is an Unconditional Love Coach, Seminar Leader and Speaker, with a Master’s Degree in Psychology and Psychotherapy. She helps people overcome their inner blocks to love in order to find true love. She uses different techniques such as Coaching, the Akashic Records, Past Life Regression, Astrology, and Dream Interpretation. She has been researching about Soul Mates for more than 15 years, and her work involves teachings about what is a real Soul Mate connection, how to improve Self-Love, and how to manifest the kind of relationship all of us want. Judith offer workshops and retreats around the world.

I loved our interview on Last First Date Radio. Judith and I are very much aligned in our mission to help people fall in love with themselves before seeking a partner. Highlights of the show below… (more…)

9/11: Looking Back With Sadness and Forward With Urgency

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Remembering 9/11 as a wake up call. Time is short. Don’t put off what’s most important in life and love.

9/11/2001. You probably remember exactly where you were when the Towers were hit. I worked in my children’s school as an art teacher at the time, and the news came on before the kids arrived. We watched the planes fly into the World Trade Towers. We looked on in disbelief. How could this happen? What did it mean? Who was responsible?

As the story unfolded, we had no idea how to go about our day. Do we close the school and go home? Are we safe? Do we tell the kids? If so, is there a guidance counselor who will know what to say? How does one even begin to comprehend the pain and sadness and grief? (more…)

Are You Marriage Material? Take the Test!

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Are you marriage material? Take Dr. Matthew Anderson’s test BEFORE you commit to marriage.

Dr. Matthew Anderson has been called “a romance miracle worker” and “a revival love artist”. His four decades as an author, inspirational speaker, and relationship coach give him an unusual depth of insight and compassion for what couples really need in order to revive (and resurrect) their passion and deep connection.

Singles rave about his ability to get right to the heart of what they need to do to find Mr. or Miss Right, and couples frequently say that Dr. Matthew saved their marriage and showed them the path to new heights of love and partnership.

I loved our interview on Last First Date Radio, Are You Marriage Material? Take the Test!

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Communication Hacks for Dating and Relationships

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This new app can help with communication and flirting with your online dating match. Check it out…

Ray Christian is the founder and CEO of Textpert, an app for “Drama Solved Anonymously”. You ask questions about dating, you get answers. You’ll also improve your communication skills in texting and emailing dates.

After years in the corporate world, Ray founded Textpert as a platform for young adults to get relationship advice from anonymous friends. He has become an expert in the dating world and social media, and has been featured in the Huffington Post, BuiltInLA, SoCalTech.com and many other outlets.

Ray was a recent guest on Last First Date Radio, discussing how the communication landscape in dating and relationships has changed.

Highlights of the show below… (more…)

20 Success Tips for Finding Love After 40

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I’ve gathered the 20 best tips for finding love after 40…

There’s so much conflicting advice out there for finding love after 40, how do you make sense of it all? Do you listen to your best buddy? Your mom, dad, sister, brother? Which dating experts have solid advice, and which confuse you even more?

I’ve been coaching for ten years. My dating philosophy comes from many places; The Coaches Training Institute, where I trained and became certified, and the experts I’ve interviewed for the past four years on my radio show, Last First Date Radio. (more…)

How to Move on After Divorce Without Bitterness or Regret

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Check out my interview with Laura Richardson on Last First Date Radio about how to move on after divorce…without bitterness or regret.

Laura Richardson has been a licensed attorney in Texas for thirteen years, with a primary focus on family law.

In 2015, she transitioned from Lawyer to Life Coach. Her mission is to help clients find alternative solutions to their ongoing problems with their ex that are faster, less expensive, and more satisfying than going directly to the courthouse.

As a Certified Advanced Mediator, Ms. Richardson seeks to help people who are on both sides of the table feel like they had a fair chance to participate in shaping an agreement on how they move forward.

I interviewed Laura on Last First Date Radio about how to move on after divorce…without bitterness or regret. Check out highlights of our show below.

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The Secret to Being Irresistible on a Date

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Want to know the secret to being irresistible to a quality guy? Dating Coach, Sandy Weiner, reveals what she did this summer…

Are you tired of going on first dates that don’t lead to a second? Swiping right only to find out he’s married, into a threesome or some strange fetish? If you want to attract a quality man, you need to be a woman of value. A woman who values herself in all ways—that’s one of the secrets to being irresistible.

If you’ve had a stressful summer, it’s even more important to do what I’m going to suggest today. (more…)

Help, I’m Dating a Widower!

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Is it a good idea to be dating a widower? Or will he always be comparing you to his late wife? 

Dear Sandy,

I am 62-years-old, and back in 2012 when I briefly joined eHarmony, I met a widower. I did NOT know exactly how to handle him. I learned a great deal and hung in there, but it was quite different. Fast forward to last summer when I joined eHarmony again and voila—I met another widower. I went straight to my minister, who said I would be alright dating a man who has been widowed for approximately a year. (There are some widowers who get on dating sites after three or six months.)
Just last week when I revisited eHarmony, I met another widower who lost his wife 14 months ago after a grueling illness. We briefly interacted, and he seems interested, but says that he is only seeking companionship, not even thinking of marriage. He also said that he wanted to know if I would consider moving (he is four hours away from where I live), because he loves his beautiful home that he and his wife built many years ago. YIKES….

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