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If you’re a single woman over 40, follow the blog to learn how to attract quality men, sustain a healthy relationship, break up with dignity, understand and communicate with men 40 +, and much more…

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I Used to Think a Man Would Rescue Me…Until This Happened

Posted by on July 30, 2015 in dating after divorce, love after 40, red flags in relationships | 0 comments

a man would rescue meCan you recall a pivotal moment in your life, one where you had a wakeup call, an aha moment, something that changed your life in a split second? This is my pivotal moment. I was 12-years old. I lived in Long Branch, New Jersey, near the ocean. We spent most of our summers on the beach, and I loved the water. There was only one problem—I wasn’t a strong swimmer. One day, at the beach with my friend Stacy, we jumped into the icy water. One minute we were together, and the next, she was swimming far out into the ocean. I was struggling to catch up to her, when suddenly, I couldn’t swim any further. Something was sucking me down to the bottom of the ocean… (more…)

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The Power of Influence in Dating

Posted by on July 28, 2015 in communication skills in dating, dating after divorce, dating in midlife, love after 40 | 0 comments

power of influenceBrad Harker is an author, speaker, influence expert, adjunct professor, and consultant. His creativity and passion for problem solving has fueled a robust entrepreneurial background that includes the creation of several companies and more than a quarter-billion dollars in sales.

Brad’s published book, The Laws of Influence – Mastering the Art of Sales, Leadership, and Change has become the platform of his consulting company, FoundersInc.com. Brad actively consults with professionals and organizations in the disciplines of sales, leadership, and influence. 

Brad lives in St. George, Utah, with his wife and three children. Learn more at Bradharker.com

Brad joined me on Last First Date Radio to discuss the power of influence in dating. Following are loosely transcribed highlights of our interview.

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The Ashley Madison Hack: How To Avoid Dating A Cheater

Posted by on July 24, 2015 in dating a dangerous man, red flags in relationships | 0 comments

dating a cheaterShhhh. Don’t tell anyone, but 32 million married people might soon be outed by the hackers of Ashley Madison, a website for cheaters. With the tagline, “Life is short. Have an affair.” there are many people who are cheering on these hackers. “Serves them right for cheating on their spouses!”

When Ashley Madison wanted to appear as a guest on my radio show, I said no. I don’t support anyone who supports cheating. But one of the most unfortunate realities of dating and relationships is that people do cheat, with or without Ashley Madison.

It’s not always easy to spot the tendencies or character traits that can indicate someone might end up cheating on you; and sometimes a person who wouldn’t appear as a cheater is driven toward being unfaithful over the course of a relationship or by random events. (more…)

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Detaching from Dysfunctional Relationships to Make room for True Love

Posted by on July 22, 2015 in breaking up with grace, dating a dangerous man, red flags in relationships | 0 comments

dysfunctional relationshipsThomas G. Fiffer, Executive Editor at The Good Men Project, is a graduate of Yale University and holds an M.A. in creative writing from the University of Illinois at Chicago. He is a professional writer, speaker, and storyteller with a focus on diagnosing and healing dysfunctional relationships. His books, Why It Can’t Work: Detaching from Dysfunctional Relationships to Make room for True Love and What Is Love? A Guide for the Perplexed to Matters of the Heart are available on Amazon. He lives in Connecticut and is working on his first novel. Following are loosely transcribed highlights of our radio interview on Detaching from Dysfunctional Relationships to Make room for True Love.

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Dating? 5 tips to Redecorate with Romance in Mind

Posted by on July 21, 2015 in dating after divorce, dating in midlife, love after 40 | 0 comments

redecorate with romance in mindInterested in updating your home to create a more peaceful ambiance? If you’re back in the dating game and want to infuse your home with less stress and more romance, consider this how-to guide on how to redecorate with romance in mind.

 

 

 

 

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She Couldn’t Express Hurt Feelings to Her Boyfriend

Posted by on July 20, 2015 in understanding men over 40 | 2 comments

express hurt feelings My client, Ellen (not her real name), told me about a relationship she had with Sam when she was in her twenties. After three months, he asked her to join him on a road trip across America.

She was excited! She loved many things about him. He was smart, funny, and the attraction was HOT. A few weeks later, they set out on the road, taking turns driving for hours at a time. On day three, the radio broke. (This was in the 80’s, before you could plug an iPod or phone into your sounds system). It was Ellen’s turn to drive. Sam pulled out a book and began to read.

He was preparing for a big work project.

“Sam, I know you want to study for your project, but I’m bored. It’s too quiet in the car. Please talk to me,” she said. But Sam just grunted and went back to his book. (more…)

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Have You Been a Victim of Ghosting in Dating?

Posted by on July 18, 2015 in breaking up with grace, communication skills in dating, red flags in relationships | 0 comments

ghosting in datingHave you ever been ghosted? If you are not yet familiar with this term, the Huffington Post recently published an article about “ghosting” in dating. This excerpt explains the ghosting phenomenon.

After three months of dating, 23-year-old Michael was optimistic about his relationship with Linda*. They were together often, and he’d even met her parents. One night at dinner, the “where is this going?” conversation came up. Michael and Linda mutually agreed that they wanted to move forward in the relationship. He dropped her off at home, kissed her goodnight … and never heard from her again.

After his attempts to reach her went unanswered, Michael put on his cute-guy hat and delivered Linda’s favorite cupcakes to her office — only to find out his name had been removed from the guest list at the gate.

Ghosted.

We used to call it disappearing. Now there’s a fancier trendier word. Whatever you call it, if you’re single at this age, you’ve probably been ghosted or a ghostee at some point in your life. (more…)

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Learn From Mr. Wrong and Claim Mr. Right

Posted by on July 14, 2015 in breaking up with grace, dating a dangerous man, red flags in relationships, self-esteem in dating | 0 comments

mr wrongDo you keep attracting the wrong men? Daniella Blechner is an author, teacher, and speaker who is passionate about empowering women through the sharing of stories. After a decade of dating disasters, she decided to claim her story and use it to empower others. Her book, Mr. Wrong, is about uniting, inspiring and empowering others.

I had the pleasure of interviewing Ms. Blechner on Last First Date Radio.

I’ve loosely transcribed highlights of our interview so you can find out how to stop dating the wrong men and get yourself on a healthy path of self-discovery and the best relationships of your life! To listen to the episode, please click here.

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Recovering Addicts: Self-Disclosure in Dating

Posted by on July 14, 2015 in communication skills in dating, first date success, love after 40 | 0 comments

self-disclosureThis guest post was written by recovering addict, Mel Black. I thought it was an important topic to cover, as many people who date are in recovery. Timing is everything in dating, especially when disclosing the more difficult things about ourselves. I hope you enjoy this article. Please leave a comment and let me know if this is something you’ve dealt with.

For someone in recovery for an addiction, there are many challenges to overcome. Going through withdrawal, recovering physical and mental health, and above all, staying clean, are difficult processes, and recovery is more a work in progress than a discrete event. During all of this, there’s one aspect that often gets pushed aside in favor of more immediate problems, but for a former addict who’s in the process of rebuilding their life, this particular issue comes into sharp focus pretty quickly. The problem of self-disclosure about addiction and recovery, how to tell others and when to tell them, is something that all recovering addicts will eventually wrestle with.

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A Relationship Milestone: Your First Weekend Getaway Together

Posted by on July 8, 2015 in dating in midlife, love after 40 | 0 comments

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The two of you have been dating for a while now. You’ve had romantic dinners, allowing you to learn more about each other and explore the extent of your compatibility. Now you’ve reached the time where you and your significant other are ready for your first weekend getaway. Here are a list of places and activities that make for wonderful and memorable getaways. (more…)

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