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Why Your Assumptions Are Keeping You Single

Posted by on April 21, 2015 in communication skills in dating, dating after divorce, first date success | 0 comments

assumptions You’ve probably heard the old adage, “assumptions make an ass of you and me”. And while you may think you understand how bad it is to make assumptions about people, you’re probably still doing it occasionally on a subconscious level. It’s hard not to. Our primal brains judge others because they want to keep us safe. If we sense danger, we keep our distance. And that can be a very good thing.

But it can also be dismal, especially in dating. Your assumptions might very well be the reason you’re still single. (more…)

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Help! My Daughter is Dating a Narcissist

Posted by on April 17, 2015 in dating a dangerous man, dating a narcissist, red flags in relationships | 2 comments

daughter is dating a narcissistHi Sandy,

I need your advice on how to help my 17-year-old daughter stop dating a textbook narcissist. He is controlling, manipulative, and a relentless mental abuser.

She is addicted to his texts, even though he calls her a slut and curses. She stands up to him a bit but always ends up apologizing. She constantly tells him how great he is and that she loves him so much.  (more…)

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The Challenge of Speaking Up in Dating

Posted by on April 8, 2015 in communication skills in dating, dating a narcissist, dating after divorce, dating in midlife, first date success, understanding men over 40 | 3 comments

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I’m sharing something I read on Facebook. The woman who wrote it is a successful entrepreneur who went on a date that ended terribly. She regrets that she didn’t have the courage to speak up and let this man know that it wasn’t okay to do what he did. It’s a great illustration of the challenge of speaking up in dating, even on the very first date…


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4 Tips to Make Moving in Together a Breeze

Posted by on April 6, 2015 in dating after divorce, dating in midlife, love after 40 | 0 comments

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Moving into a new space at any age can be stressful. However, there are some unique concerns that couples over 50 face. Consider these interior design tips as you move into your new home with your partner. (more…)

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Shocking News: Emojis Improve Your Sex Life

Posted by on April 2, 2015 in dating after divorce, dating in midlife, flirting, online dating after 40 | 0 comments

improve your sex lifeIn a recent study by, it was revealed that singles who used emojis in texting had more sex than those who did not. I’m not kidding. “54% of emoji users had sex in 2014 compared to 31% of singles who did not,” said Dr. Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist at Rutgers University who helped lead the study. Emojis can improve your sex life? (more…)

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7 Tips for Effective Co-Parenting After Divorce

Posted by on March 27, 2015 in breaking up with grace, dating after divorce, love after 40, single women over 40 | 0 comments

coparenting after divorceDivorce can be one of the most stressful events you’ll ever experience. There are practical matters such as dividing property and moving, as well as the emotional issues such as mourning the dream of a happy marriage and wondering if you’ll ever find love again. For your children, however, divorce has its own challenges. Their world seems to be falling apart, and nothing will ever be the same for them. Your marriage may be crumbling, but your children need you and your former spouse to hold their world together. Keep the following in mind as your plan for the next steps in co-parenting your children.  (more…)

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4 Tips to Reignite Your Relationship

Posted by on March 25, 2015 in communication skills in dating, dating in midlife | 0 comments

your relationshipBeing in a relationship can be incredibly rewarding and wonderful. Many people who are single daydream of someday having a partner they can share everything with, from their most mundane thoughts to their life’s goals and dreams. That doesn’t mean that being in a relationship is all peaches and cream though, and it certainly doesn’t mean that it’s always easy. I know this from experience in my own relationships.

In fact, experience has taught me that relationships are hard work, and even when you do your best to maintain them, that spark that you had early on in your relationship can feel like it’s starting to fade from time to time. It can happen even if your relationship isn’t having any problems. (more…)

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How to Finally Break Free of Toxic Dating Patterns

Posted by on March 23, 2015 in communication skills in dating, dating after divorce, love after 40, red flags in relationships | 0 comments

toxic dating patternsI recently interviewed Cindy Holbrook, a certified divorce coach, supporting women as they traverse the emotional roller-coaster of divorce to heal. She helps them let go of the past and rebuild their life with less stress, more clarity and confidence about their future.

Cindy has been the guest of many telesummits and radio shows including Huffington Post Live. Her articles have been published on eHarmony, Huffington Post, Fox Magazine and MSN. She created, a website filled with tips and techniques to educate and empower women as they make the transition to being a single woman and re-entering the dating field. Following are loosely transcribed highlights of our radio interview on Last First Date Radio, where Cindy talked about how to finally break free of toxic dating patterns. (more…)

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5 Ways to Survive – and Thrive – After a Breakup

Posted by on March 20, 2015 in breaking up with grace, dating after divorce, dating in midlife, red flags in relationships | 0 comments

after a breakup(This article first appeared in They say that breaking up is hard to do. It was difficult in your twenties, and it doesn’t get much easier when you’re over 50. The days and weeks after a breakup can take a toll on your mental and physical health. In extreme cases, the breakup can be physiologically similar to withdrawing from an addiction. So, yes, breakups are hard to do. But with the right tools, you can survive and even thrive after a breakup. (more…)

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4 Date Ideas for When You’re Low on Funds

Posted by on March 18, 2015 in dating after divorce, dating in midlife, single women over 40 | 0 comments

shutterstock_181267994Just because you’re on a tight budget doesn’t mean you can’t date. You’ve got goals, motivation and most of all, so much love to offer a partner. If you can’t travel or spend a ton of money on dating, here are four creative date ideas that are proven to impress. Keep in mind that most of these tips are not good for a first date. They are intended for those of you who have been on a few dates and have established some trust and rapport. (more…)

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