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Dating in Midlife: Insights and Wisdom Gained

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If you’re dating in midlife, you’ve probably experienced your share of heartbreak. These four ladies share what they learned about dating at this age.

I had so much fun interviewing the four “And I Thought Ladies”, discussing dating in midlife. These women have been interviewed on numerous shows for their unique approach to love. They bring four decades of life experiences to document their progress in understanding the keys to attracting in love, which begins in increasing self-love. These women span the gamut of relationships, from those who are survivors of abusive relationships, to those who are now happily married for several years. These four ladies empathize with women at any stage of love, because they have been there and have literally written two books about it!

Here’s the line up of the “And I Thought Ladies”: ​Wilnona is divorced after an emotionally abusive relationship. Jade, the youngest, found her Prince Charming after many years of dating, and she’s been married for four years. Dr. Argent has two doctorates and has dated around the world. She runs many businesses and is also an author. Renee had two divorces and now owns her own cleaning service with an awesome name, Divine Destiny.

Highlights of Episode 243: Four Perspectives on Love and Marriage in Midlife can be found below.

 

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3 Reasons Why Men Are Scared to Commit—and What You Can Do About it

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Discover the top 3 reasons why men are scared to commit to you. Immediately know if he’s emotionally available or if it’s time to walk away and say, NEXT!

Wondering why men are scared to commit? I get it—dating after 40 can be challenging. Whether you’re online or offline, the process requires a lot of effort and time, and often, you’re left with a feeling of defeat, rejection, and just plain exhaustion. But then, every once in a while, you find someone special online. You connect and start to fall for him, only to find out that your potential partner doesn’t want to become exclusive. I want you to avoid this potential pitfall. With that in mind, here are three reasons why men are scared to commit to a relationship. (more…)

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How to Be a Woman of Value When a Man Stands You Up

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What do you do when a man stands you up? He seemed amazing, you made a date, and then he didn’t show up. He apologized the next day. Do you forgive him?

I want to share a “woman of value” story with you. It’s about when a man stands you up and what you can do about it so you don’t feel powerless anymore. It’s about standing in your integrity, even when you feel rejected by a man. It’s about something that just happened to me. I think it’s important to learn lessons from every experience we have in dating. So, here’s my teachable moment about how to be a woman of value, even when a man stands you up!
 
I met a guy a few weeks ago. The first date was amazing. We both didn’t want it to end. He walked me to my car like a gentleman. I liked that. And for the first time in a LONG time, I was interested in a second date. He really liked me, too, and asked me out for the following week. All was good. Or so I thought…

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The 6 Love Styles and How they Can Help You Find Lasting Love

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What are the 6 love styles, and how can they help you find love? Identify YOUR love style and discover which love style is your perfect match.

My radio guest, Dr. Kate Ferrick, is a Relationships Coach who studies the psychology of romantic love. She has helped singles find love for over ten years, and conducts workshops for singles in Southern California. Dr. Kate has been interviewed on numerous radio stations regarding her findings on romantic love and the 6 love styles.

Learn about the The 6 Love Styles and How they Can Help You Find Lasting Love on Last First Date Radio. Highlights of our show below… (more…)

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How to Be Your Own Best Lover

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Be your own best lover to attract your best partner. Try these wonderful exercises by coach, author, and nutritionist, Rebecca Clio Gould.

My radio guest, Rebecca Clio Gould is a Certified Holistic Health Practitioner, Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, Qigong and Meditation Teacher, Sexual Awakening for Women Facilitator, and Author of “The Multi-Orgasmic Diet.” She’s on a mission to help women live healthier lives, step into their power, love themselves more, experience more joy, and live life to the fullest. Rebecca has been running her own business, Elemental Harmony, PLLC since 2007 and lives in Seattle, Washington.

You can find highlights below for episode #241: How to Be Your Own Best Lover with Rebecca Gould.

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Dating a Widower: When Will He Be Ready to Love Again?

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When you’re dating a widower, how long does it usually take for him to feel he’s ready for a committed relationship again? 

Dear Sandy,

I have been divorced for three years. The first two years, I worked on myself to recover and get to know myself again. Last January, I felt I was ready to date, so I went on Match. In July, I met a man who was a widower of nine months. He knew I was looking for a serious relationship and wanted to meet me. 

We hit it off right away and are now very very close. However, he is still on Match, and I’ve shut my profile down. That bothers me. I am the first woman he has dated in 32 years. He has been honest with me and says he isn’t ready to settle down in a serious committed relationship, even though he knows that I am. (more…)

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5 Tips for Creating a Genuine Dating Profile

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Your online dating profile is the first impression you make with potential partners. Here’s how to boost your chances of making a lasting connection.

There are many factors you should take into account as an active online dater, though the creation of your profile is one of the most important. Your profile is the first impression you make with potential long-term partners — it could either boost or stifle your chances of making a connection.

If you’re tactful in the creation of your profile, you’re on the right path to finding your perfect match. Here is a step-by-step guide for how to create your online dating profile: (more…)

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Can These 36 Questions Make You REALLY Fall in Love With Anyone?

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Remember the viral Modern Love article about the 36 questions that will make you fall in love with anyone? Is it okay to ask them on a first date?

Sandy,

Arielle Ford has mentioned The 36 Questions That Lead to Love on several occasions. According to the study in the article, these 36 questions can make you fall in love with anyone. Arielle Ford says you should ask these questions of strangers on first or second dates. 

What is your opinion? Could it be too personal for date #2?  I recently had a first date with a new man. We had lunch, and for our second date, he wants to go to lunch or dinner again. 

Even though he is very handsome, my gut feeling says that he is still totally stuck on his late wife. She died eight years ago, but he wears his wedding band in his primary Match photo. What? When I confronted him about his photo, he was NOT defensive. He said that he wore his wedding band for five years after her death, and that he joined Match three years ago per his children’s insistence. 

In order to determine IF we are vaguely compatible, do you EVER recommend asking the 36 questions? He is also almost 70-years-old and wants to email or text and NOT have a phone conversation—even though we have already had a two hour first date. Oh, and he talked about himself the entire two hours. He only asked me one question about myself the entire time.  (more…)

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The No Nonsense Guide to Healthy Relationships After 40

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How do you have a loving, lasting, healthy relationship after 40? Start with being a mensch and communicating effectively with your partner. Here’s how…

How do you have a loving, compassionate, healthy relationship after 40? My radio guest, Jamie Greene has so many important things to say about this topic. Raised in England, Jamie survived boarding school, endured disastrous relationships, excelled as an 80’s pop drummer, hobnobbed with Royalty, you name it… he’s witnessed it all. His Zen-like approach to coaching combined with his British sense of humor and refreshing straight talk, has built a thriving reputation as a licensed psychotherapist, teacher, mentor and trainer. He was cast as a real-life marriage therapist on the show ‘Marriage 911′ helping save a marriage on the rocks. The couple is still thriving, years later. Jamie was recently featured as Therapist and Life Coach to Brad Womack on “The Bachelor”.

Pretty cool bio, huh? Following are highlights from my interview with Jamie Greene on the no nonsense guide for women and men to truly understand each other.

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Am I in Another Emotionally Abusive Relationship?

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Her boyfriend bolts when life gets complicated. Is this another emotionally abusive relationship? Yes, and here’s how she can put an end to it.

Hello Sandy,

I have been in a relationship with a man for six years now, and this is the second time he has broken up with me. The first time was almost a year ago. He said he left me because of my daughter and her issues. I feel as though he left for an old girlfriend who happened to come back into the picture around the same time. After not communicating for a month or two, I broke down and contacted him because I missed him. I think after she found out we were talking again, he moved back to his home. He insisted that he didn’t leave me for her, but because my daughter’s issues were too much for him. (more…)

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