Dating in Midlife: The Importance of STI Screening

STI screening

If you’re sexually active, it’s important to have STI screening. Check out this comprehensive study on sexually transmitted infections.

Every year in the United States, more than 20 million new sexually transmitted infections (STIs) are reported, half of which occur in young people between the ages of 15 and 24. Reports from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention also show that one out every 208 people in America has chlamydia, equating to more than 1.5 million people.

These statistics show just how frighteningly common STIs are and indicate a degree of naivety about sex, especially amongst midlife daters. A one-night stand may be spontaneous, but it could easily lead to undesirable long-lasting consequences. Likewise, if you or your partner in a relationship don’t fully know each other’s sexual history before engaging in intercourse, there could be some horrific news to be broken in the future.

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When to Start Dating After Divorce?

Many experts say wait at least a year before dating after divorce, but is this really a one-size-fits-all issue? Check out this infographic and find out!

Getting back into the dating game can be tough, especially after a divorce. There is of course no one-size-fits-all way to decide when to start dating after a divorce, but you do need time to heal. A year might be the sweet spot for many, but only you will know when you’re ready to date again.

I believe it’s important for us to identify our contribution to a failed marriage. Not for the purpose of blaming, but because we attracted this person into our life for a reason.

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A 52-Year-Old Guy Dishes on Dating in New York City

The one thing that threw this divorced single dad for a loop? Dating in New York City in his fifties. Turns out it can be both challenging and fun. 

My radio guest, Matt Sweetwood, is the U.S. CEO and President of beBee, Inc. He is well known for his innovative and transformative ideas in marketing, social media, and business development. He was President of Unique Photo, NJ’s premiere camera store, for over 28 years. However, by far, his greatest achievement is having raised five successful children to adulthood as a single dad. He’s the creator of the Man-Up Project, helping other men though fatherhood and life. He is a regular contributor on national TV and to several publications in the social media, photography, business, ethics, politics and parenting arenas.

52-year-old Matt recently moved to Manhattan after living his entire life in New Jersey. We had a lively discussion about his experience with dating in New York City in midlife. Read highlights below of episode #258: A Manhattan Middle Aged Man’s View of Dating. 

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The Rules for Dating When You Have Children

How do you navigate dating when you have children? Dating after divorce or loss can be tricky, especially if you have kids. Here are my thoughts…

What are the rules for dating when you have children? In this short video interview with Sarah Hiner, president of Bottom Line, Inc., I share that while there are no hard and fast rules about this subject and you need to do what works best for you, be aware that your children see and hear that everything that takes place in your house. I urge people to set appropriate boundaries and suggest that parents who are dating have an open and honest conversation with their children.

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Are You Choosing Your Pet Over Your Partner?

This guy has been attracting women who have a pet priority problem. Are you subconsciously choosing your pet over your partner?

Hi Sandy,

Being a recently divorced man starting out to find my second and hopefully final true love, I enjoyed listening to your podcast and started reading about the reasons men pull away.

One reason I pull away from women is that they put far too much energy and time on pets and treat them like their children. Should my first date questions include, “Are you choosing your pet over your partner?”

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How to Know if He’s a Keeper?

he's a keeper

In this video, I share my best tips on how to assess a potential mate and find out if he’s a keeper, or it’s time to walk away.

After you’ve been dating a while, you may find yourself ready to settle down with a long-term mate. But how can you determine if this person is suitable for you? In this short video interview for Bottom Line, Inc., I uncover some of the red flags to look for in a potential mate.

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