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If you’re a single woman over 40, follow the blog to learn how to attract quality men, sustain a healthy relationship, break up with dignity, understand and communicate with men 40 +, and much more…

How to Be Your Own Best Lover

Be your own best lover to attract your best partner. Try these wonderful exercises by coach, author, and nutritionist, Rebecca Clio Gould.

My radio guest, Rebecca Clio Gould is a Certified Holistic Health Practitioner, Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, Qigong and Meditation Teacher, Sexual Awakening for Women Facilitator, and Author of “The Multi-Orgasmic Diet.” She’s on a mission to help women live healthier lives, step into their power, love themselves more, experience more joy, and live life to the fullest. Rebecca has been running her own business, Elemental Harmony, PLLC since 2007 and lives in Seattle, Washington.

You can find highlights below for episode #241: How to Be Your Own Best Lover with Rebecca Gould.

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Dating a Widower: When Will He Be Ready to Love Again?

When you’re dating a widower, how long does it usually take for him to feel he’s ready for a committed relationship again? 

Dear Sandy,

I have been divorced for three years. The first two years, I worked on myself to recover and get to know myself again. Last January, I felt I was ready to date, so I went on Match. In July, I met a man who was a widower of nine months. He knew I was looking for a serious relationship and wanted to meet me. 

We hit it off right away and are now very very close. However, he is still on Match, and I’ve shut my profile down. That bothers me. I am the first woman he has dated in 32 years. He has been honest with me and says he isn’t ready to settle down in a serious committed relationship, even though he knows that I am.

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5 Tips for Creating a Genuine Dating Profile

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Your online dating profile is the first impression you make with potential partners. Here’s how to boost your chances of making a lasting connection.

There are many factors you should take into account as an active online dater, though the creation of your profile is one of the most important. Your profile is the first impression you make with potential long-term partners — it could either boost or stifle your chances of making a connection.

If you’re tactful in the creation of your profile, you’re on the right path to finding your perfect match. Here is a step-by-step guide for how to create your online dating profile:

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Can These 36 Questions Make You REALLY Fall in Love With Anyone?

Remember the viral Modern Love article about the 36 questions that will make you fall in love with anyone? Is it okay to ask them on a first date?

Sandy,

Arielle Ford has mentioned The 36 Questions That Lead to Love on several occasions. According to the study in the article, these 36 questions can make you fall in love with anyone. Arielle Ford says you should ask these questions of strangers on first or second dates. 

What is your opinion? Could it be too personal for date #2?  I recently had a first date with a new man. We had lunch, and for our second date, he wants to go to lunch or dinner again. 

Even though he is very handsome, my gut feeling says that he is still totally stuck on his late wife. She died eight years ago, but he wears his wedding band in his primary Match photo. What? When I confronted him about his photo, he was NOT defensive. He said that he wore his wedding band for five years after her death, and that he joined Match three years ago per his children’s insistence. 

In order to determine IF we are vaguely compatible, do you EVER recommend asking the 36 questions? He is also almost 70-years-old and wants to email or text and NOT have a phone conversation—even though we have already had a two hour first date. Oh, and he talked about himself the entire two hours. He only asked me one question about myself the entire time. 

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The No Nonsense Guide to Healthy Relationships After 40

How do you have a loving, lasting, healthy relationship after 40? Start with being a mensch and communicating effectively with your partner. Here’s how…

How do you have a loving, compassionate, healthy relationship after 40? My radio guest, Jamie Greene has so many important things to say about this topic. Raised in England, Jamie survived boarding school, endured disastrous relationships, excelled as an 80’s pop drummer, hobnobbed with Royalty, you name it… he’s witnessed it all. His Zen-like approach to coaching combined with his British sense of humor and refreshing straight talk, has built a thriving reputation as a licensed psychotherapist, teacher, mentor and trainer. He was cast as a real-life marriage therapist on the show ‘Marriage 911′ helping save a marriage on the rocks. The couple is still thriving, years later. Jamie was recently featured as Therapist and Life Coach to Brad Womack on “The Bachelor”.

Pretty cool bio, huh? Following are highlights from my interview with Jamie Greene on the no nonsense guide for women and men to truly understand each other.

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Am I in Another Emotionally Abusive Relationship?

Her boyfriend bolts when life gets complicated. Is this another emotionally abusive relationship? Yes, and here’s how she can put an end to it.

Hello Sandy,

I have been in a relationship with a man for six years now, and this is the second time he has broken up with me. The first time was almost a year ago. He said he left me because of my daughter and her issues. I feel as though he left for an old girlfriend who happened to come back into the picture around the same time. After not communicating for a month or two, I broke down and contacted him because I missed him. I think after she found out we were talking again, he moved back to his home. He insisted that he didn’t leave me for her, but because my daughter’s issues were too much for him.

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Why Do Men Disappear and Reject Me?

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Ever wonder why men disappear? Whether it’s after a few texts or phone calls, or even a few weeks of dating, when men disappear, it sucks. Try this.

Dear Sandy,

I think I am in the beginning stages of a new man disappearing. We’ve only been talking for five days. Wednesday and Thursday he texted me all day long, he called me, sent kiss emoticons. Today, I didn’t hear from him until I texted him this morning. His replies to anything I sent were short, no emotion, certainly no kisses. We haven’t met in person yet, but I already felt spoiled by his attention. So, I straight up asked him if something was wrong because he seemed distant today. I got no reply.

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