The Cost of Staying With a Toxic Bad Boy

toxic bad boyThe sex might be off-the-charts, but the toxic bad boy may break your heart. Don’t let him.

“Jane” is working with me to get over an abusive ex-boyfriend. They broke up a year ago, and she can’t stop thinking about Mr. Toxic Bad Boy. The sex was hot. She fell in love quickly. He came on strong at first, and then dropped her like a hot potato when she began to express what she needed in the relationship. She was left with a broken heart.

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Is It Ever OK To Have Sex With An Ex?

sex with an exThis morning, I woke up to this exciting email:

Sandy,

I just had to share the good news – what a fantastic way to start my day. Your article was picked up by BuzzFeed, and has been shared from sites like The Chive, and Essence! This is huge, so we are going to continue to promote the piece and keep an eye on it. Very well done! 

Rochelle, YourTango Associate Experts Editor

Yay! It’s such an honor to have a post go viral. Here’s an excerpt from that article about whether you should have sex with an ex.

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Should I Get Back Together With My Ex?

reunite with exHi Sandy,

I’m really struggling here. My ex and I went out for 2 years, it didn’t get serious until about a year or more in. Last year, he dumped me about 9 times. Every time we had a disagreement or argument (caused by him), he would end it saying it’s not working and I deserve better and he didn’t want to hurt me. Then he would come back apologizing profusely, saying he didn’t want to lose me. Finally in June this year, when we were due to move in together, he left our hotel room when I was in the shower and flew home. He later contacted me, saying he would always love me but felt he was too young (he’s 24, I’m 28). 

He got back in touch 4 months later begging to see me again. I got back with him for about 6 weeks before he dumped me by text over a really stupid disagreement. He texted again saying sorry, none of it was my fault. He knows he’s got a problem, he’ll always have a special place for me in his heart and head, that he knows he’ll never find anyone as beautiful, special, kind, caring again, goodbye and wishes me the best in life. 

I worry he’ll be back in touch again. I love him so much and he told me he wanted to be with me forever. We had made all these plans. 

Do I forget all about him? Or do I get back together with my ex and try again?

Thanks, 

Stephanie

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The #1 Problem with Singles Today

Suzanne MullerI loved having love coach, Suzanne Muller on my radio show this week! She is such a positive, upbeat woman and a great example of finding love once you put a few key principles in place. Over the past ten years, Suzanne has been engaged twice and never married. She’s been heart-broken, stood up, cheated on, broken up with—over text and voice mail, stalked and been on the delivery end of a few broken hearts. She’s dated multiple people at the same time and dated online. You name it, and she’s probably been through it! Today, she’s deeply connected to her heart, gifts and divine feminine energy, and lives with her amazing boyfriend Stefan in Switzerland in a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Following are loosely transcribed highlights of our radio segment on the #1 problem with singles today – & how to quickly turn it around.

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Tips for Building Positive Relationships

leah careyIt was great fun to interview Leah Carey on Last First Date Radio last week. Leah is a transformational author, speaker, and life coach. Far from being born a natural optimist, she spent over two decades struggling with chronic depression. Having finally found her way to mental, emotional, and spiritual balance, she now blogs at The Miracle Journal (www.TheMiracleJournal.com) about the large and small things that are RIGHT in her life. She help others to look for what’s RIGHT in their lives through coaching and public speaking. She shared many great tips for building positive relationships on our show. I’ve loosely transcribed highlights of the show so you can get the gist of what we covered. Enjoy!

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