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How to Stop the Crazy-Making Cycle of People Pleasing

Are you a people pleaser? Listen to this episode of Last First Date Radio, and learn how to stop the cycle of people pleasing!

My podcast guest, Amy E. Smith, is a certified confidence coach, masterful speaker, and personal empowerment expert. Founder of TheJoyJunkie.com, Amy uses her roles as coach, writer, podcaster, and speaker to move individuals to a place of radical personal empowerment and self-love.

With acute focus on helping people “find their voice”, she is highly sought after for her uncommon style of irreverence, wisdom, and humor and has been a featured expert on Fox 5 San Diego and YourTango.com.

Check out highlights below for episode #314: How to Break the Cycle of People-Pleasing with Amy Smith. 

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10 Character Traits of Men Who Are Unsafe to Date

Unsafe to DateHave you ever been with a man who seemed so wonderful at first—until the red flags showed up? Here are 10 character traits of men who are unsafe to date.

There are some crafty men who put on a good act. They seem amazing at the beginning—loving, showering you with gifts, introducing you to their family right away. Eventually, you find him to be unsafe to date. What I mean is he is unkind, untrustworthy, maybe even abusive.

Many of us are not trained to see the signs of someone who’s emotionally unsafe to date, especially early on. If you want to find EPIC love, you need to be able to quickly pick up on those red flags, especially the subtle ones.

This is something I spent a lot of time studying after my divorce. I not only wanted to save myself from future heartbreak, I wanted to help as many women as I could to date with dignity and self-respect, and to attract in a man of integrity, someone they could trust. That is my mission at Last First Date.

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The Power of Letting Go to Let Love In

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An uncommitted boyfriend and the fear of letting go kept her stuck. Jill Sherer Murray recounts her story of letting go to find lasting love.

My podcast guest, Jill Sherer Murray, is a TEDx speaker, author, award-winning journalist, and founder of Let Go For It®. In her TEDx talk, “The Unstoppable Power of Letting Go”, she helps people let go in order to have love and a better life. Her column Big Wild Love: Let Go For It® helps viewers who’ve reached out to her for advice and inspiration after seeing her talk. She’s studied improv at the famous Second City Training Center in Chicago, wrote a popular blog called “Diary of a Writer in Mid-Life Crisis” for www.wildriverreview.com, and documented her year-long journey to lose weight for Shape Magazine.

Check out highlights below for episode #313: How to Let Go to Let Love In with TEDx Speaker, Jill Sherer Murray.

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Why You Should Lower Your Expectations in Dating

Lower Your Expectations in Dating

Lower your expectations in dating. What? Yes, your expectations are probably keeping you single. Find out why in this video!

If you’re a single woman over 40, you may be sabotaging your love life by having too many expectations. That’s why I suggest you lower your expectations. What? Lower your expectations in dating? Yes, you read that correctly. Here’s why…

Let’s say you expect men to always pursue you, and you never initiate contact, you will miss many opportunities to connect online and offline with quality men. (HINT: Men over 40 don’t chase like younger men do).

If you expect men to have advanced degrees in education in order to prove their intelligence, you’ll miss all the brilliant men who never went to college. Do you see what I mean? Watch this video to learn more.

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How to Have More Love and Less Conflict in Relationships

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Want more love and less conflict in your relationships? Learn how to communicate effectively with my guest, Jonathan Robinson.

My podcast guest, Jonathan Robinson, is a psychotherapist, a bestselling author of 12 books, and he has been a frequent guest on Oprah and CNN. In addition, his work has been featured in USA Today and Newsweek. He recently wrote a book called “More Love, Less Conflict”, and he was on my show to talk about all things related to relationships, communication, and how to create more love and less conflict in your life.

Check out the show notes below for episode #312: More Love, Less Conflict Using Effective Communication Tools.

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How to Find Lasting Love at 50 and Beyond!

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My podcast guest, Treva Brandon Scharf, was a late blooming bride. She was finally able to find lasting love at 50. Listen to her inspirational story!

My podcast guest, Treva Brandon Scharf, is a writer, dating coach, and fitness professional who was able to finally find lasting love at 50. With over 35 years in the fitness industry and 50 years as a single woman, Treva helps people achieve peak performance in life and love.

As a first-time bride at 50, Treva writes about finding love later in life at her blog, The Late Blooming Bride. She’s also a dating advice contributor at Huffington Post, Hollywood Progressive, Midlife Boulevard, Curves Connect, and BetterAfter50.

She currently hosts the internet radio show, DONE BEING SINGLE on VoiceAmerica Network, with her husband, Robby Scharf.

Check out the show notes and highlights for episode #311: How to Find Love Later in Life with Treva Brandon Scharf.

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Stop Choosing the Wrong Men and Trying to Make Them into the Right One!

Choosing the Wrong Men

Have you been guilty of choosing the wrong men and hoping they’ll become the right one for you? Watch this video to learn how to choose the right man!

One of the biggest challenges in dating is knowing how to choose the right partner for you. What I’ve seen women do over and over in my ten years as a life and dating coach, is choosing the wrong man, and then trying and make him into the right one. That never works. I’ve certainly done the same thing. But, then I learned how to choose the right man…from the very start. In this video, I show you how.

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