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Using Psychological Flexibility to Improve Your Relationships

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Learn how to use psychological flexibility to improve your relationships in this episode with Dr. Diana Hill.

Dr. Diana Hill is a clinical psychologist, podcaster, and expert in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), a cutting-edge, evidence-based approach to living with psychological flexibility. Diana’s new book, co-authored with Dr. Debbie Sorensen, is ACT Daily Journal. It offers an 8-week program that breaks psychological flexibility into practical steps that guide you in living a life that aligns with your values. 

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • What’s ACT and the research supporting its effectiveness
  • What’s psychological flexibility
  • The 6 core components that makeup psychological flexibility
  • What are values, and how are they different from morals and shoulds
  • How is psychological flexibility helpful in maintaining successful relationships
  • What are some specific practices to identify our values and start living them

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What it Means to Lean Back in Dating

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Do you believe women should ‘lean back’ in dating? In this video, learn how leaning back can actually keep you from true love.


‘Lean back’ is a term used by many dating experts. Some say it means women shouldn’t initiate anything with men. Let men chase women. They believe it’s natural for men to be the pursuer and the protector. So, men should be excited to win you over, because you are the prize.

The problem I have with this definition of leaning back is it has women step into roles that are inauthentic and fake. Women become passive and anxious, relinquishing all control, waiting for men to initiate everything. This is in complete opposition to most women’s natural tendencies to take charge of everything else in their lives.

Don’t even get me started about women being the PRIZE. If women are the prize, what does that make men? And what makes women the prize and not men? Don’t women and men both have value? And doesn’t that set women up to look down on the very men who they want to pursue and claim them?

Even if you did lean back and let a man chase you – aka the prize – it doesn’t guarantee he will value you in the long run. In fact, many men who play this cat and mouse game are on to the next chase once they get the prize. Ouch!

I believe in a different, healthier, more realistic definition of leaning back in dating.

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Communication Skills in Dating and Relationships

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Dr. Jeanne Michele is an expert in communication skills. She helps people live happier lives by talking everything out. Listen in!

Dr. Jeanne Michele is a teacher, modern day philosopher, change agent, and coach. Her coaching is dynamic, engaging and deeply transformative. She helps individuals and couples gain the clarity they need to create powerful, intimate, and creative lives, relationships and partnerships.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • How women and men process differently
  • Why all men are not from Mars, and what that means for you
  • How infidelity can be the positive catalyst to transforming your relationship
  • The importance of communicating about the hard stuff
  • The secrets to going on your last first date

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Overcoming Fear of Abandonment in Dating

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Do you have a fear of abandonment in your romantic relationships? You’re not alone. In this video, you’ll learn how to overcome your fears!

Many of us have a fear of abandonment, especially when it comes to our romantic relationships. In this video, you’ll learn where this fear comes from and the steps you can take to overcome your fears to have the healthy relationship you yearn for.

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The Challenges of Dating as a Solo Parent

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Colleen is dating as a solo parent. I coached her on Last First Date Radio to help her overcome her biggest challenges. Listen in!

In this episode of Last First Date Radio, I coach Colleen on how to deal with the struggles she faces as a solo parent who wants to date. Whether you’re a solo parent, or you’re overwhelmed with a very busy life for other reasons, you’ll gain value from this show.

You’ll learn:

  • How to gain more balance when you’re overworked
  • How to create more time for dating as a solo parent by delegating, deleting what’s not necessary, and asking for more support
  • The importance of dreaming bigger about life and love
  • Small steps you can take to identify your dreams 
  • How to identify your TRUE must have list
  • How to ask the right people in the right way for the support you need
  • How to assure men that dating is a priority even though you’re a solo parent who’s very busy

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What to Do If You’re Getting Mixed Signals in Dating

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If you’re getting mixed signals in dating or relationships, here’s what you can do about it to save your dignity and sanity!

Have you ever dated or been in a relationship with a man who gave you mixed signals? Maybe he said one thing and meant something else. Perhaps he came on strong at first but sometimes seemed disinterested. Mixed signals can make you overthink, overanalyze, and confuse the heck out of you. 

In this video, you’ll learn why people give mixed signals, and what we can do about them.

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Understanding Men Over 50

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Trouble understanding men over 50? This episode with Lisa Copeland will help. Get actionable tips to help you find love with a mature man!

Lisa Copeland is an expert in communicating with and understanding men over 50. She’s a leading internationally recognized Love Coach and Dating Expert for women over 50. She’s the Amazon Best-Selling Author of The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50. Has been seen in Huffington Post and has appeared on ABC and Fox. She inspires and teaches women how to feel confident, empowered and joyful dating after 50.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • Do older men really only date younger women?
  • What men over 50 look for in a woman
  • How women and men can improve their communication
  • How women unconsciously emasculate men
  • Why women need to ask men for help…and receive it graciously
  • How to go on your last first date!

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