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How to Heal Trauma

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My podcast guest, Lisa Erickson, shares how to heal trauma through chakras. She also speaks about empowerment, mindfulness, and more.

Lisa Erickson is an energy worker specializing in women’s energetics and sexual trauma healing. She’s the author of Chakra Empowerment for Women. Lisa helps women maximize and balance their energy during key life transits such as pregnancy, post-partum, perimenopause and menopause.

She also works with women to heal from abuse and assault. Lisa is certified in a variety of energy healing modalities and is a practitioner with The Breathe Network, a non-profit dedicated to supporting holistic healing for sexual trauma survivors. Lisa is passionate about helping women connect with their feminine energy.

In episode 393: How to Heal Trauma and Own Your Power, you’ll hear about:

  • Women’s energetics and how they’re different from men’s
  • How women’s energy bodies change during peri-menopause and menopause
  • Why women need to have clear boundaries
  • Simple exercises to help you protect your energy

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[Podcast episode] How to Date For Marriage

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Rabbi Manis Friedman shares his thoughts on how to date for marriage. You’ll hear about intimacy, sex, and why free love has made us more lonely than ever.

Rabbi Manis Friedman spoke with me on Last First Date Radio about how to date for marriage. While his perspective is conservative, and we don’t always agree, I think you’ll find this episode to be thought-provoking.

Rabbi Friedman is a world-renowned author, counselor, lecturer and philosopher. He uses ancient wisdom and modern wit as he captivates audiences around the country and the world. Rabbi Friedman started an organization called “It’s Good To Know” which reaches thousands of people every month through his online classes and events.

His first book, Doesn’t Anyone Blush Anymore? published by Harper San Francisco in 1990, is widely praised and is currently in its eighth printing.

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Throw Your Dating Rules Out the Window!

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I don’t believe in dating rules. They keep us from figuring out what’s right for US in dating. Because relationships are not a one-size-fits-all.

Recently, someone in my private Facebook group, Your Last First Date, posted this graphic image: 10 Dating Commandments 2020. I was happy to see so many women in the group did not agree with these dating rules.

Instead of dating rules, I suggest incorporating dating principles. Here are mine…

Last First Date Dating Principles


1. Work on your stuff so you don’t project fears and past relationship issues on the new guys you meet.
2. Cast a wide net: be as open as you can about the things that don’t matter and as narrow as possible on the things that do.
3. Learn to communicate clearly and kindly.
4. Know your standards, and set clear boundaries to protect what matters from the start.
5. Don’t try to fix men. What you see is what you get.
6. Walk away from men who don’t treat you with kindness and respect.
7. Don’t give up hope. Believe he’s out there waiting for you, and you will find him.
8. Live your best life and be grateful for what you already have.
9. Forgive those who have hurt you so you can move on.
10. Have fun and laugh as much as you can.

Watch the video for more detail on why you should throw out those dating rules.


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[PODCAST EPISODE] How to Tame the Inner Critic

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Amy Smith shares great tips on how to tame your inner critic so you can live your best life. Check out the show notes and recording here.

Is your inner critic sabotaging your life? My podcast guest, Amy E. Smith, is a certified confidence coach, masterful speaker, and personal empowerment expert. Founder of TheJoyJunkie.com, Amy uses her roles as coach, writer, podcaster, and speaker to move individuals to a place of radical personal empowerment and self-love.

With acute focus on helping people “find their voice”, she is highly sought after for her uncommon style of irreverence, wisdom, and humor and has been a featured expert on Fox 5 San Diego and YourTango.com.

Listen to EP 392: Amy Smith – How to Tame the Inner Critic, as Amy returns to the show to talk about how to tame the that critic so you can access your highest self.

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Can Social Media Ruin a Relationship?

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My podcast guest, Doctor David Simonsen, has been helping couples and families for 20 years. He understands the many challenges that arise in relationships, especially with social media issues today. He uses a humor-filled direct approach to help people become more authentic and more emotionally intimate. He’s been married 25 years, and he has seven kids to prove his approach works!

In this episode, you’ll learn how social media can ruin a relationship, how to stop that from happening, and much more.

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