10 Character Traits of Men Who Are Unsafe to Date

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Unsafe to DateHave you ever been with a man who seemed so wonderful at first—until the red flags showed up? Here are 10 character traits of men who are unsafe to date.

There are some crafty men who put on a good act. They seem amazing at the beginning—loving, showering you with gifts, introducing you to their family right away. Eventually, you find him to be unsafe to date. What I mean is he is unkind, untrustworthy, maybe even abusive.

Many of us are not trained to see the signs of someone who’s emotionally unsafe to date, especially early on. If you want to find EPIC love, you need to be able to quickly pick up on those red flags, especially the subtle ones.

This is something I spent a lot of time studying after my divorce. I not only wanted to save myself from future heartbreak, I wanted to help as many women as I could to date with dignity and self-respect, and to attract in a man of integrity, someone they could trust. That is my mission at Last First Date.

I’ve read many books on this topic. Some of my favorites are, How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved, by Sandra L. Brown, and, The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us, by Ross Rosenberg.

 The following tips come from Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren’t, by Henry Cloud and John Townsend.

Check out the video below, where I go into depth about each trait you should avoid.

10 Character Traits of Men Who Are Unsafe to Date

Here’s a quick checklist of those 10 character traits of men who are unsafe to date:

  1. They act like they have it all together.


  1. They are defensive vs. open to feedback.


  1. They are self-righteous vs. humble.


  1. When they apologize, it’s insincere/lip service.


  1. They avoid working on their problems.


  1. They demand trust vs. earning it.


  1. They believe they’re perfect vs. admitting their faults.


  1. They blame others vs. taking responsibility.


  1. They lie vs. telling the truth.


  1. They are stagnant vs. growing.

Have you ever dated a man who was unsafe to date? Please share your story in the comments.



1 Comment

  1. Thanks for sharing

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