10 Signs You’re Dating a Sociopath
Donna Andersen is the founder of Lovefraud.com, a website that teaches people how to recognize and recover from sociopaths. She’s just come out with a new book called, “Red Flags of Love Fraud—10 signs you’re dating a sociopath.” She shared highlights of her book on this week’s radio show. If you’ve ever dated a sociopath, or want to make sure you never date a sociopath, please read on…
Red Flags of Love Fraud — 10 signs you’re dating a sociopath
By Donna Andersen
Yes, when it comes to relationships, everyone has issues, but some people have more than issues—they have personality disorders. Donna Andersen explains how to spot the true problem partners in her new book, “Red Flags of Love Fraud — 10 signs you’re dating a sociopath.”
Sociopaths are not all deranged serial killers. But they are social predators—both male and female—who live their lives by exploiting people, and some of their favorite targets are unsuspecting romantic partners. So what are the danger signs?
1. Charisma and charm. These people have appealing energy/magnetism. They never miss a beat. Who doesn’t want to be with someone who is charming?
2. Sudden soul mates. They seem to be the person you’ve always wanted to meet. They’re not. They study you and make themselves into the person they think you’re looking for.
3. Sexual magnetism. You may feel an immediate intense attraction. They have high levels of testosterone, which makes them highly sexual.
4. Love bombing. They shower people with attention and affection. He’ll call you a lot. You’ll get a lot of attention at first, which lures you in.
5. Blames others for everything. They will talk about their problems, and nothing is ever their fault. They blame their boss, their ex, their parents for all their issues. They don’t take responsibility for their problems.
6. Lies and gaps in the story. They tell big and small lies. They neglect to tell you things they should tell you like they’re married.
7. Intense eye contact. They look at you with a predatory stare. They’re checking you out for a ‘next meal’. It’s a creepy stare.
8. Moves fast to hook up. They move to quickly get sexual. They might be pushy about it.
9. Pity play. These people make you feel sorry for them. They tell you about their abusive childhood and their psychotic ex to appeal to get into your heart and under your skin.
10. Jekyll and Hyde personality. One minute they love you, the next minute they hate you. You have no idea how this happened. It’s totally confusing.
Check out Donna Anderson’s website, LoveFraud.com to join her community of people who have been victim to love fraud.
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