20 of The Best Dating Tips

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There’s a lot of conflicting dating advice out there, so I’m sharing 20 of the best dating tips I’ve learned over the years.

What are the best dating tips you’ve ever heard? How do you make sense of all the dating advice out there? Do you listen to your best friend? Your mother? The “experts”? I’ve compiled a list of my top 20 tips, with a shout out to a few dating coaches and relationship experts who influenced me the most as I was first starting out.

Thank you to:

  • David Steele of the Relationship Coaching Institute (http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com/david-steele) who taught me about the mindset shift that daters are choosers, not just hoping to be chosen.
  • Matthew Hussey, author of ‘Get the Guy’, (http://www.gettheguy.co.uk/) who taught me about the importance of being a high value woman and setting clear boundaries with men.
  • Evan Marc Katz, (http://www.evanmarckatz.com/) a dating coach whose common-sense approach to dating taught me about not putting people on a pedestal because you can only look down on them.

I am also grateful to the work of Allison Armstrong, Pat Allen, Bobbi Palmer, and LiYana Silver, who taught me the importance of understanding feminine and masculine energy. They’ve shared the secrets of how to speak to men so they’ll listen, and how to be the type of woman who inspires a man to choose them.

Thanks to all of the coaches and therapists above, and the many I did not mention. You have helped me become the coach I am today.

I’ve compiled a list of 20 of the best dating tips I’ve learned along the way. Do you agree? Disagree? Do you have any dating advice to add to the list? Please share in the comments below.

20 smart dating tips

  1. If you tend to attach quickly, date a few people at a time until you’re ready to become exclusive with one.
  2. When words and action don’t align, ignore the words and pay more attention to actions.
  3. The three most important traits of a partner are kindness, consistency, and character.
  4. Don’t make assumptions about your date — get curious and ask questions.
  5. Don’t project your past relationships onto the people you date. See each person as a clean slate.
  6. When someone first reveals themself to you, pay close attention. That’s when you learn most of what you need to know.
  7. In a healthy relationship, you’ll feel good when you’re together AND apart.
  8. If you’re tired of men who don’t take initiative, stop always taking the lead, and be clear about what makes you happy. See how he responds.
  9. Stop going into dates with the expectation that he might be the “one”. Keep your long-term goals in mind, and see every date as an opportunity to discover more about yourself and others.
  10. A woman doesn’t have to have a “perfect” body and face to be attractive. An irresistible woman is fun, drama-free, intelligent, and sensual.
  11. Don’t invest more in a man more than he invests in you.
  12. When you put someone on a pedestal, they can only look down on you.
  13. Enter a relationship with your eyes wide open. The character and values you see in the beginning are what you get at the end.
  14. Stop dating projects and trying to “fix” the people you date. Move on to find a better fit.
  15. Don’t waste time in a relationship with someone who doesn’t value you.
  16. Don’t plan the future before there’s a present.
  17. Each date is an opportunity to learn something about yourself, about your date, and about dating. Have fun and learn as you go.
  18. As grandma said, every pot has a lid. Yours is out there.
  19. A profile is not a person. Don’t fantasize about someone based on their online presence. Discover who they are in person and over time.
  20. Remember you are the chooser. Don’t just wait to be chosen.

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