21st Century Dating for Baby Boomers: Tips on dating now vs. then
The most obvious difference in dating today is the advent of online dating, in my opinion a must for anyone dating. Period. If you had to rely on being fixed up by friends, you would probably have very few (if any) dates.
In the old days, there were dating ads that people could place in newspapers and magazines. “SWF seeking SWM for dating/marriage”. Many people met their spouses that way. Dating online opens the possibility of meeting someone more like you, and easily connects you to people all over the world. It expands the dating world and brings people together who might never have met. Sure, it can feel creepy and you may not be so comfortable putting yourself out into the world wide web, but online dating has become one of the top ways to meet your spouse. If you need help, click here for my online dating profile essay packages. I offer several ways to make it easier for you.
Another difference is the level of self-knowing and confidence that comes (hopefully) with the wisdom of aging. Being able to communicate more clearly – knowing who you are and what you need – all make for better relationships.
When does a relationship move from casual to serious?
I think that middle-aged people are usually more clear about what they want/who they click with, so if there is chemistry and you share common goals/values, relationships can get serious pretty quickly. Conversely, if the key elements are missing, they often don’t progress past a first date. Next!
How do you deal with adult children?
I believe in introducing your girlfriend/boyfriend only when you are certain that it’s a serious relationship. No matter how old your kids are, they usually don’t want to meet your boyfriend/girlfriend right away. It can make them very uncomfortable. You can always check in with them and see when they are ready. Of course, it depends on your personal situation, so if a person is widowed or divorced for a long time, the kids may welcome a partner in your life.
I hope you find these tips to be helpful. As always, I welcome your ideas. Please share your thoughts and comments below. And happy dating!