5 Hacks to Instantly Increase Your Confidence in Dating

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confidence in dating“Just be confident!”


Men and women struggle with self-confidence when it comes to dating and eventually attracting the right partner. Many people deal with insecurities and crippling anxieties when they think about going on a date with someone they’re very attracted to.


But it doesn’t have to be this way. You don’t have to think that you are not confident enough to approach her or to smile at him. There are ways to feel confident within minutes or even seconds, without overcompensation and without faking it.


5 Hacks to Instantly Increase Your Confidence in Dating

1. Clothes Make the Man (and the Woman)

Want to look fantastic? All you need are the right clothes.

Of course we all want to be appreciated for our values, our personality and our emotional strength, but the harsh truth is that the first impression is directly influenced by the way we dress.

When you dress average, you’ll feel average. When you dress confident, you’ll feel confident. It is really that simple.


2. Smile and Be Happy

It’s no secret that a smile makes you look confident and successful.

Yes, even if you feel depressed and lonely, a smile can not only change your mood, it can also change the way other people see you. A simple smile has the power to skyrocket your dating success.

Can’t think of something to smile about? Try this: bite on a pencil and to hold it between your teeth for at least thirty seconds. With this method you are forced to smile, even when you don’t want to. Give it a shot, and enjoy the internal change that this weird but highly effective exercise causes.


3. Meditate for 5 Minutes

Meditation has so many benefits. It is a great way to reduce stress. It helps you to focus. It allows you to become more aware of yourself and of your environment. While these are all incredible benefits, there is one benefit that improves your dating life more than anything else.

Meditation helps you to build self-confidence. Yes, you actually become more confident and therefore more attractive to the opposite sex by breathing in and out.

And don’t tell me that you don’t have time to meditate. Everyone has five minutes a day to meditate and become the confident man or woman you’ve always wanted to be.


4. Walk Straight With Your Head Held High

A man or a woman who looks as if he or she doesn’t deserve love won’t be able to attract love.

In order to attract amazing people who have the confidence and the emotional strength to give love and to allow love into their lives, you have to be on the same energy level as they are.

Changing your posture to “confident mode” might feel weird at the beginning, but after a while, your brain will accept your new way of presenting yourself as completely normal.

After consistently walking with your head held high for a couple of minutes, you will slowly but steadily feel like a confident person. That’s the moment when attracting an amazing partner becomes effortlessly easy.


5. Observe the People around You

You have the perfect clothes, a beautiful smile, and you have corrected your posture right after your first meditation session.

There is one more thing you can do to become more confident that doesn’t require you to change anything about yourself. All you have to do is to observe the people around you. Taking a closer look at the people you interact with and the people who stand close to you allows you to see them as they truly are.

As a woman you might see the perfectly dressed businessman and think to yourself that such a confident man would never date a woman like you. As a man you might look at the perfectly styled woman and think to yourself that she would never go out with a guy like you.

What you don’t see are the beads of sweat on the forehead of the “confident” businessman while he talks to a group of people. What you don’t see is how the “confident” woman nervously looks at her phone whenever a guy tries to make eye contact with her.

Observing the people around you allows you to see them as human beings just like you. They have the same fears and insecurities. The only difference between them and you is that you know the 5 hacks that instantly increase your confidence and they don’t.


This article was contributed by guest blogger, Sebastian Harris.

Photo: Flickr/Chris & Karen Highland


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