5 Things you Should Never Do When Online Dating

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Online dating doesn’t have to be so hard or confusing. Check out these online dating don’ts by today’s guest blogger, Rachel Esco.

Today’s guest post is by Rachel Esco, a lifestyle blogger who specializes in dating and relationships. Her articles have been featured in publications including “Huffington Post”, “Life Hacker” and “Women’s Post“.

For many of you ladies, it may feel like you’re constantly losing out on great catches. While this problem can be related to poor dating choices or just unlucky circumstances, the problem may also be you. So if you’re often fretting over your tally of losses, you might want to start reconsidering your dating decorum. Sometimes the subtlest comment or action can send you deep into the undesirable column of ‘no call-backs’.

To help you avoid falling into this category, consider these five things you should never do when online dating.

5 Things you Should Never Do When Online Dating

#1. Don’t Post Skimpy Photos

A confident, classy lady does not bare her goods for everyone to see. Although you’ll get your five minutes of online fame, you’ll just seem way too overzealous and perhaps even a tad desperate for some male attention. Plus, you also risk coming across as someone who is only looking for a physical relationship. Weigh the cons carefully before posting your latest photo in that little (emphasis on little) black dress.

#2. Don’t Misrepresent Yourself

With the pressure to stand out among the masses, people will often lie on their profile to appear more attractive. This includes sprucing-up your physical description or digitally enhancing your display picture. Don’t do this! Although it’s tempting, it’s also deceptive and completely pointless!

The harsh truth is that lying will not improve your chances of finding a relationship and will likely irritate the person who was misled into pursuing you. Be upfront and proud of who you are because relationships should start out with honesty, not lies.


#3. Don’t Cyber Stalk

Make sure you never aggressively message or cyber stalk a person you barely know from online dating. It’s unhealthy to mentally invest so much into someone you’ve never met. Instead, treat yourself like a woman who deserves to be chased. If he’s interested, he’ll ask you out and pursue you—but excessively checking in and looking for confirmation of his interest will scare him off.


#4. Don’t Play Games or Build Walls

As we all know, online dating can be a fickle place to find love. Often, women try to protect themselves (and their egos) by building walls or pretending to be semi-interested. But don’t give in to this charade!

You’ll only have this issue if you’re using notorious hookup apps like Tinder which are filled with careless date collectors. Yet, apps like WhoWinkedMe or LunchMeet tend to focus on long-term dating, removing the need for game playing. Ultimately, it helps to meet men in the right context in order to date online confidently.


#5. Take Your Time

Treat dating as a discovery phase. Just because you find a man you like, doesn’t mean you cut off all other options, close your dating account and mentally attach yourself to this man for the foreseeable future. You don’t even know if he feels this intensely about you!

Rather, you should set your sights on a couple of potential suitors, and take the time to learn about them to discover who you enjoy most. Once you have developed a mutual connection with one, you can then invest your time into nurturing one single match.


Which of these online dating don’ts have you done in the past? Please share in the comments below.




  1. When dating online it s always best to meet asap, because you dont want to fantasise about something that is not there.. neither about somebody that is nothing of whom he says he is…

  2. Always think what you are going to write 🙂

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