5 Ways to Survive a Breakup

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how to survive a breakupBreaking up is hard to do. That’s quite an understatement! Well, let’s clarify. Breaking up is far easier for the one who decided to leave. And it’s not the actual breaking up that’s as challenging as getting through the days and weeks following a breakup. Breakups can take a toll on your mental and physical health.

If you’ve been dating a toxic person for several months, scientists say it can be physiologically similar to withdrawing from an addiction. So, while breakups are complex, I will share five basic ways to survive a breakup.

5 Ways to Survive a Breakup (without losing your self)

get a massage 1. Take time for yourself. After a breakup, it’s important to give yourself some extra TLC. Pamper yourself. Get a massage. Go away with close friends. Read a great book. Watch a fabulous movie ~ just not a romantic one! Keeping busy in luxurious activities will prevent you from the mind chatter that can bring you down.

2. Don’t date!! Now is NOT the time to date. No matter what others tell you about getting back in the ‘game’, don’t date right away.

You don’t want to date on the rebound. You’re too vulnerable right now. Wait at least a few months before dating again.

You wouldn’t believe how many second marriages fail because people dated too soon and made the same mistakes all over again.

write a letter3. Write a letter to your ex. And don’t send it! It can be cathartic to write out your feelings. It might help to make a bonfire afterwards and burn the letter. Releasing your ex is a healthy step towards making space for the next love of your life.

You must close one door before opening the next. Leaving your ex behind is a healthy step towards finding love again in the future.

4. Give yourself some lovin’. A breakup can wreek havoc on your self worth. Make a list of your positive attributes. Focus on the parts of yourself that you love and appreciate them. Focus on the parts of yourself that you don’t love as much, and be kind to them. Ask your friends what they love about you. If you are seriously doubting your self-worth, seek help from a therapist or coach.

5. Move on. After you’ve grieved the loss of your ex for a few months, do move on and begin dating again. If it was a long-term relationship of a year or longer, wait at least a year to date. Don’t wallow in anger or sadness for too long. Taking action and dating again is a great way to feel better.

Once you’re ready to date again, just be in the moment. Have fun. Don’t project your ex’s bad qualities onto the next man. Treat each date as someone new, a clean slate, someone with possibility.

What have you done to survive a breakup? Please share below!

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1 Comment

  1. Amy,

    It’s not just about waiting. It’s about healing, taking time to get to know yourself and your needs. I’ve seen too many people jump into dating too soon and make the same mistakes again. Second marriages often are a result of rebounding before you’ve healed.

    You might want to reframe the time you think you’ve lost. When the time is right, when you’re at your best and feel whole and good about yourself, you’ll attract the right person. Isn’t that worth some extra time?



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