Are You Ready for a Relationship?

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ready for a relationshipRichard Phu hails from Australia. He is the founder of Romantic Missions and his organization is on a mission—to help more people have true love so they can pass it on to their kids. He wants more kids to grow up feeling loved. 

I interviewed Richard on Last First Date Radio about what it takes to get yourself ready for a relationship. He even shared his own love story, about how he prepared to meet his fiancé! I love Richard’s emphasis on the importance of doing the inner work to “be the example you want your partner to be”.  

You can read highlights of our show below. And listen to the entire episode by clicking here. 

Are You Ready for a Relationship?

 

How does a person become ‘Relationship Ready’?

You may want to be in a relationship, but you may not be ready. There’s a big difference. It comes down to two things: 

1. You need to know what it takes to be in a relationship and keep it going

2. You need clarity about what a relationship looks like for you and what your ideal partner might be. Know what you want to feel like when you’re in that relationship.

I believe when you find the love of your life, it’s good to have a picture of what that is. It’s like a nest. Two birds court each other and then start building a nest, which serves as a foundation for the relationship. They fly out into the world and explore, grow, experience new things by themselves. Then they reconnect in the nest and learn through each other’s experience. The nest becomes a bird house as the foundation grows. 

How did you attract your partner?

I manifested my fiancé Rachel by doing a soul mate attraction technique. I built clarity. I spent a month getting really clear about what it would feel like to have this woman in my life. I didn’t know what she would look like, but I knew how I’d feel. I met her a month later at speed dating. 

But it wasn’t just that. It was all the effort I put into my life to learn from past mistakes in relationships. I uncovered the beauty in my life. I had to add things into my life to make myself better and bring up my value. 

Think about the traits you are looking for. That person is high value, so jump into their mind and look at you through their eyes. You want the best and not to settle. So bring up your value by building up yourself. I spent 5 years doing that. 

“Be the example you want your partner to be”. 

How can you bring up your value to attract their ideal partner?

I like to use the metaphor of a cup. We all have a cup of love. We all walk around with our cups. How full is your cup? A lot of people walk around with an empty cup, because we haven’t been conditioned to fill our own cup up. No one can do it for you. Pour your happiness and joy into your own cup. If you wait for someone else to fill it, you give someone the power to take away your joy and happiness. 

Identify what makes you feel really happy, loved, and joyous. Then go do it! 

How can someone who’s looking for a relationship become more confident?

You need to feel attractive to your partner and love yourself. Like who you are, and be the best you can be. Confidence is also about building boundaries. 

How can you build up boundaries?

1. Understand what you’ll accept in the relationship

2. Know what you won’t accept

3. Identify what will you tolerate in the relationship and let go of?

Listen to the entire episode by clicking here. 

Subscribe to Last First Date Radio on iTunes by clicking here. 

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