Why Did I Become a Dating Coach?
Ever wonder what made me want to become a dating coach? It all started when I was getting married in my late twenties. As a child of divorce raised in a dysfunctional home, I set out to do better. I didn’t trust my heart to choose my husband (it had steered me wrong so many times). So, at age 28, when I thought I was past my prime (what was I thinking?), I picked my future husband by using a mental checklist. He’s crazy about me? Check! He’s good with his niece and nephew? Check! He’s honest and kind? Check! I believed I could somehow divorce-proof my marriage if my heart wasn’t doing the picking. After we got married, things began to fall apart almost immediately.
One year into our marriage, our first son was born with a genetic disease. After multiple surgeries, our precious little boy suddenly developed a brain tumor and died within a week. He was five-years-old.
Losing a child can unravel even the best marriages, and ours was no exception. Even so, I hung in that bad marriage for 23-years. I’m not a quitter. Although I was very unhappy, I was worried that my kids would fall apart if I left.
At age 52, I met a man at work with whom I had an amazing connection. For the first time in decades, I felt alive and seen. Having an affair was against my principles, but I am grateful that this man woke me up to what I was missing in my marriage. I knew I had to leave my husband. Not for this guy. But for myself. I was losing bits of myself every day that I stayed.
Divorce wasn’t easy, but we took the high road. Thankfully, my kids are thriving. And after my divorce, I was free to finally pay attention to what made me happy. I pursued a passion I had put on the back burner. I was always the go-to person for helping people figure out their problems. I wanted to help people live fuller, happier, more resonant lives. I wanted more people to discover their passions, to connect to their core values, and stop giving up bits of themselves for others. So, I became a certified life coach and fell madly in love – with my work.
After I began dating, I realized that my coaching skills had a surprise benefit – they made me a better dater. I was more confident. I knew myself and had developed clear boundaries. I now knew how to speak up and assert myself when my feelings were hurt.
I wanted other women to have the same success I was experiencing. So, I focused my coaching practice on helping divorced women over 40 attract and sustain lasting love the second time around. I became a dating coach to help women attract true love – without giving up bits of themselves. Through my own self-growth, I learned how important it was to be confident, to know your worth, and to recognize and understand the key elements to relationship success.
I provide the tools to help women increase their self-worth, understand and connect to the hearts of men, and become open to giving and receiving love from the highest quality men. I’ve been dubbed the “man whisperer” for my ability to translate “man-speak” and help women communicate with men so they feel heard and respected – something I struggled with for years before learning how to speak up and connect when I was most vulnerable.
As a dating coach, I am passionate about helping with every aspect of dating success both online and offline. I feel more alive and vibrant today than ever before. I believe it’s never too late to find the love of your life and a life you love.
In the video below, I share what prompted me in my own life to become a dating coach.