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The Importance of Polarity in Relationships

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Did you know that polarity in relationships is what creates passion and attraction? Listen to this episode to learn more.

Gillian Harper is an author, speaker, coach, and entrepreneur. She knows firsthand that the boundaries that divide our careers and our home life are blurred. Finally, she discovered what she was looking for: the little-known Law of Polarity that brought her life back from the brink. Gillian has made it her mission to share her insights and continue her work helping others.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • What is the law of Polarity?
  • Why is Polarity important in a relationship?
  • How to go deeper into your Dragon and Tiger energy
  • How you can use Polarity to bring more passion into your relationships
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A Guide to Post-Dating Friendship

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Post-dating friendship – can it work? Discover when it’s okay to become friends and when it’s better to move on.

Does post-dating friendship work when there’s no romantic interest? What about after a relationship ends? Sometimes friendships can be successful after dating, but most of the time, it doesn’t work. In this video, I share when to suggest post-dating friendship and when to walk away.

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How to Prepare Your Brain for More Fun in Dating 

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If you want to have more fun in dating, listen to this podcast episode with Dr. Elaine Goldhammer. Get ready to enjoy dating so much more!

Want to have more fun in dating? Elaine Goldhammer, MD, is a physician turned hypnotherapist and life coach who works with clients’ subconscious and conscious brains. Her practice helps clients get past their inner struggles to live lives with less anxiety, fear, and reactivity.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • How to make dating more fun
  • The biggest lessons learned when dating after divorce
  • How to prepare your brain for more fun in dating
  • How hypnotherapy helps heal trauma and makes dating better
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If a Man Asks You to Plan the Date…

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Ladies, if a man asks you to plan the date, what do you do? In this video, I share my thoughts on this controversial topic.

What do you do when a man asks you to plan the date? A woman wrote a post about this topic in my Facebook group, Your Last First Date, this week, and it generated a lot of differing opinions, so I thought I’d share my thoughts. Here’s what she wrote: “I met a guy on Sunday. He seems put together, stable and intelligent. It was a very nice connection. At the end of the date, he asked me whether I wanted to go out again on Saturday. I agreed, and a few days later, he asked whether I had any ideas for Saturday’s date. He’s been busy and didn’t have time to think about it nor research. I agreed to do it. However, a part of me feels that I’m entering the pattern of doing all the work. I feel that if he really liked me he would text me and make the plans. I am the anxious type and don’t want to self sabotage with negative thoughts. Am I overthinking due to my past experiences?  Has anyone had a positive experience with a guy who didn’t initially plan or have check-in texts prior to date?”

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How to Heal Your Relationship With Yourself

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Before you can have a healthy relationship with others, you must heal your relationship with yourself. Dawn Kohler shows you how.

Dawn Kohler was an entrepreneur in the computer industry when she was abruptly summoned to take a life-altering course. What followed was an extraordinary journey that gave her profound insights and a deep understanding of the human dynamic. Combining these insights and her business experience, Dawn wrote a memoir, The Messages. She’s a sought-after Executive Coach. Her clients have included many of the most influential women in entertainment, as well as senior leaders at such companies as Sony Pictures, NBCUniversal, Lionsgate, DreamWorks, Fox, Snapchat, Disney, and Amazon.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • How to access our relationship with ourselves
  • How our relationship with ourselves influences our relationship with others
  • How to stop blaming our parents for how we turned out
  • How our relationship with ourselves affects who we date

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Do You Give More Love Than You Get?

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If you tend to give more love than you get, this video is for you. Learn how to create more balanced relationships.

There’s always give and take in a relationship. But if you give more love than you get, the relationship begins to become unbalanced. And that leads to big issues that are hard to repair. In this video, I share signs of over-giving, the consequences of giving more than you get, and how to restore balance if you give more than you get in relationships.

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We Attract What We Believe We’re Worth

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Jackie Chiodo says we attract what we believe we’re worth. When she increased her self-worth, she met her beloved. Listen to her story!

Jackie Chiodo is a leader in the field of mind-body wellness. Over the past 25 years, she has led thousands of clients through radical transformation. Through Hypnosis, she helps you discover your worth and align your relationships accordingly. Jackie guides others through the same process she has used in her own life, to attract a healthy, loving relationship. Jackie believes we attract what we believe we’re worth!

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • What patterns she identified that were repeatedly leading her into the same type of relationship
  • Her relationship triggers
  • Examples of love and marriage she was given as a child
  • How she broke the cycle
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4 Steps to Tame Your Inner Critic

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What if you could tame your inner critic, that judgmental voice that lives inside each of us? In this video, learn 4 steps to control it – so it doesn’t control you!

We all have an inner critic. It’s that nagging voice inside our heads that expresses disapproval, criticism, and judgment of our actions and thoughts. In this video, learn four powerful steps to tame your inner critic.

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Struggling With Body Image and Dating

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If you’ve ever struggled with body image and dating, listen to this episode. I coach Debra on how to be more confident in her body as she dates.

Debra wrote in to Last First Date Radio about her struggle with body image and dating. Here’s what she wrote:

“I am struggling with body image. My body has changed a lot over the past few years, and it takes a lot of courage and mental effort for me to get on the dating apps. Once I meet someone, I can forget about my “ physical body” and just be present with them.. until something ends the relationship- such as recently the guy significantly lied to me about his age.. So each time I try to get back online I have this battle with myself.. I shouldn’t date until I lose more weight, and I’ll feel more confident to choose different men. I think that men will not want me because of my size right now.

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Online Dating Safety Tips

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Follow these online dating safety tips to protect yourself when you date online. Stay safe on your journey to your last first date!

Many people shy away from online dating, because of the horror stories they’ve heard. Online dating is a GREAT way to meet people you’d never meet in real life. You just have to know how to vet people so you don’t fall for scammers or people who are unsafe in any way.

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