Blog
Hot tips, tools and dating advice
If you’re a single woman over 40, follow the blog to learn how to attract quality men, sustain a healthy relationship, break up with dignity, understand and communicate with men 40 +, and much more…
What Are Your Arguments Really Trying to Teach You?
Every argument you’ve ever had was trying to tell you something about yourself, if you were willing to listen. Learn more on this episode of Last First Date Radio!
—
What are your arguments trying to teach you? My podcast guest, Dr. Sue Morter, is a New York Times bestselling author, Bio-Energetic Medicine pioneer, and founder of the Morter Institute for Bioenergetics. With over 40 years of experience bridging quantum science, energy medicine, and ancient wisdom, she has helped thousands worldwide unlock the body’s innate healing intelligence. She is adjunct faculty at Michigan State University Medical School and host of The Art of Awakening podcast.
In this episode:
- How conflict is the key to personal transformation
- Why we keep having the same types of arguments
- What happens in the body during conflict
- How doing inner work helps you fight fair
How to Spot AI on the Dating Apps
How do you know if it’s AI on the dating apps or a real person? Here are five things to look out for when dating online and what to do about it.
Picture a man whose messages are so lovely you read them twice. He asks about your garden, your love of travel, and how much he admires your courage for putting yourself out there. Then you talk on the phone, and the warmth you felt on the page is nowhere to be found.
There is a good chance a helpful assistant was sitting in that conversation. AI tools now draft opening lines, reply to messages, and polish entire profiles. Some men use them as a gentle nudge when the right words feel hard to find. Others hand over the whole conversation. Either way, you deserve to know who you are really getting to know, and a few signs can help you see it.
(more…)Why She Finally Said “I Do” at 49. Lisa Cheek’s Love Story.
Lisa Said “I do” at 49 because she gained deeper self-awareness and the emotional maturity to choose the best partner. Here’s her story.
—
Lisa Cheek said “I do” for the first time at 49. She is an author and former film and television editor known for her humorous, candid writing about relationships and identity. Her debut memoir, Sit, Cinderella, Sit, received much acclaim. Her latest memoir, THE BIG DAY: Saying I Do, Only To Discover I Didn’t, is a funny and vulnerable look at love, marriage, and the complicated question of whether to stay or walk away. She lives in Los Angeles with two dogs, two cats, and her husband, Big Johnson.
In this episode:
- The difference between chemistry and true compatibility
- Why we attach to certain types before doing the inner work
- How to become aligned with the right people
- Why it’s never too late to go on your last first date
How to Stop Overfunctioning and Watch How He Really Shows Up
Five tips for women who are overfunctioning in dating. Observe, state your needs clearly, and date with a calm nervous system.
A reader recently wrote in with a question you might relate to. She spent years in a long-term relationship where she planned, tracked, and managed nearly everything. Now she’s dating again, and she wants to see how a man shows up on his own before she steps in to fill the gaps. Her question: how do I stop overfunctioning in dating and doing the emotional labor for someone who isn’t naturally proactive?
If you tend to overfunction in dating, here are five tips to help you stop and let a man show you who he really is.
(more…)What Low Desire Really Means For People Over 50
What does low desire really mean for people over 50? Is it low libido or something else? Learn more in this episode with Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus.
—
Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus is a nationally recognized sex therapist, author, educator, and sexual health advocate. Formerly the Clinical Director of a leading sexual health center, she is the author of Satisfaction Guaranteed and was profiled in The New York Times Magazine as “The Orthodox Sex Guru.” She is known for her warm, candid, and practical approach.
In this episode:
- The biggest myths people believe about low desire and low libido
- Why low desire is rarely just psychological or physical
- How hormones, medications, and medical conditions quietly affect someone’s sex life
- Why therapy or medicine aren’t always enough on their own, and how combining the two helps
- Practical, science-backed strategies that can help people reignite intimacy at any age or stage of a relationship
Online Dating for Introverts – Meet Your Match Without Draining Your Energy
Four gentle strategies for introverts to help you enjoy online dating at your own pace, including how to recharge after dates and turn small talk into real conversation.
If you recharge in quiet moments and feel most like yourself in calm settings, you might be reluctant to date online. Online dating can be the perfect way for you to meet someone. A little advanced preparation will make it more enjoyable. I’m sharing how to make online dating work if you’re an introvert.
(more…)How Can Jealousy Actually Strengthen Trust and Intimacy?
What if jealousy could actually strengthen your relationship? That’s what we explore in this episode of Last First Date Radio.
—
Did you know that jealousy can strengthen a relationship? That’s what my guest, Ally Iseman, believes. She is an award-winning creator, author, Certified Relationship Coach and Kink Aware Professional who specializes in modern relationship design, unlocking erotic jealousy, and consent and communication. She has been featured in The New York Times, LADbible, Cosmopolitan, AskMen, and more. Ally works with couples and individuals all over the world who are at transition points in dating and relationships. Whether they want to open their relationship to include more people, explore play parties together, or just open up more authentically to each other about their kinks and curiosities, Ally helps them open up without breaking up.
In this episode:
- Is jealousy nature or nurture?
- How understanding jealousy can be beneficial to our relationships
- What jealousy tells us about ourselves and our partners
- Why some people get more jealous than others
5 Online Dating Mistakes Keeping You From Finding Love
Are you making any of these five online dating mistakes? Check out this video to learn how to turn them around and find love!
If you’ve been swiping and messaging for months (or years) without much to show for it, it’s not because love isn’t out there for you. It’s usually because a few fixable habits are quietly getting in your way.
I see the same five online dating mistakes over and over with the women I coach, and the good news is that every one of them is completely within your control to change. Here they are, along with what to do instead.
(more…)The REAL Reasons Why People Cheat: The Science of Betrayal
Why do people cheat? In this episode, we discuss the science of betrayal and why even happy couples sometimes cheat.
—
What drives people to cheat? Dr. Glenn Hutchinson is a clinical psychologist and behavioral researcher whose upcoming book, Unfaithful Minds: The Science and Psychology of Infidelity (Prometheus, August 18, 2026), uses infidelity as a window into a much bigger question about human behavior.
In this episode:
- What people misunderstand about why people cheat
- The role of the unconscious mind in infidelity
- Why many happy couples cheat
- How and why people justify cheating
- Early warning signs of possible cheating and what to do about it
Over-functioning in Your Relationships: How to Stop Before You Lose Yourself
Do you have a pattern of over-functioning in your relationships? Do your partners under-function? Let’s break this pattern now!
Debbie came to a session excited and a little unsettled. She had been dating Alan for a few months, and everything about him felt different from what she was used to. He texted back. He made plans. When he said or did something that landed wrong, he apologized and corrected course without being asked twice or getting defensive.
That should have felt like relief. Instead, it felt unfamiliar enough to make her a little nervous.
Debbie’s last long-term relationship was with a man I’ll call Richard. She did most of the emotional heavy lifting in that relationship: she planned, reached out first, smoothed things over, and read his moods so she could adjust hers.
Over time, that became her definition of what it takes to keep a relationship together…until she broke up with him. So when her new boyfriend started initiating dates and planning ahead on his own, part of her was waiting for the other shoe to drop, and another part was uncomfortable with him initiating everything. She was ready to start managing things the way she always had, but she didn’t want to go there.
This is one of the most common places I see clients get stuck. They finally meet someone secure, and their nervous system, trained by an old relationship, doesn’t know what to do with the calm.
Here is what we worked on, and what I want to offer you if you see yourself in Debbie’s story.
(more…)