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Are You in Love or Seeking Validation?

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Are you in love or seeking validation? In this video, you’ll learn the difference between a healthy attraction and an unhealthy one.

You’re dating someone who blows hot and cold, and you’re trying to win them over. You believe they would love you more if you improve yourself just a little bit more. Maybe you think you’re in love with them, and they just needed to see how amazing you are. Are you really in love, or are you seeking validation? 

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3 Keys to Becoming Secure in Love

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What does it mean to be secure in love? My podcast guest, Madeline Charles, reveals her secrets to being more secure to find lasting love!

Blending her professional experience as a licensed psychotherapist with intuition, Madeline Charles shares equal parts practical and spiritual guidance to support women in creating sexy, secure relationships.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • How to define being secure in love
  • Why being secure in love is important for a thriving relationship
  • What it looks like when someone is not feeling secure in love
  • The 3 keys to a secure way of relating
  • Unique challenges and opportunities spiritual, successful women have in love
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Obsessing After a Great First Date?

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You had a great first date. Now you’re obsessing over this person, and you can’t wait to see them again. Slow down! Here’s why…

You finally meet someone amazing, someone who seems like they’re your perfect match. The attraction is off the charts. The conversation flows. You leave the date with a kiss goodnight and a big smile on your face. You’re obsessing, you can’t get this person out of your mind. You can’t wait to see them again. You might have met the “one” – or maybe not. Obsessing after a great first date? You’re not alone. And it’s important to not get carried away after that initial date. Here’s why…

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 How to Move On After Infidelity

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How do you move on after infidelity? Can you repair your relationship? My podcast guest, therapist Lisa Brateman, has the answers!

If you’ve ever experienced infidelity, it can be hard to recover. My podcast guest, Lisa Brateman, LCSW, is a psychotherapist, relationship specialist, public speaker, and media commentator with more than two decades of experience. She’s also the author of “The Courage to Walk Away: Move on After Infidelity by Mourning What You Lost, Identifying Your Relationship Needs, and Empowering Yourself for the Future“. She offers individual, couples, and group therapy in New York City.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • How to trust again after your partner cheats
  • How to trust your judgment after infidelity
  • How to tolerate uncertainty and unanswered questions
  • What is financial infidelity and how do you identify it?
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The Difference Between Standards and Expectations in Dating

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What’s the difference between having high standards and expectations in dating? They’re both important. Here’s why…

It’s important to have both standards and expectations in dating. What’s the difference between the two? How can you create clear and realistic standards, and how can you manage your expectations so you don’t get hurt? 

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What Type of “Work” Do I Need to Help Me Find Love?

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“Help me find love”, says my podcast guest. Listen as I help Beth focus on the right type of “work” so she finds her romantic match.

Beth wrote into the podcast: “I’m fifty-four-years-old and have been divorced for five-and-a-half years. I’ve had two long-term relationships and several others that have fizzled out for one reason or another. This last round of online dating, I thought I was very intentional. I found one man who had all the qualities I’m looking for, and we had lots in common, but the attraction was mediocre and did not grow much in the two months of dating. I just ended things with him.  

I want to have chemistry and compatibility. My therapist has helped me see that I need to step away from dating and do more work on myself.  I am willing to do the work, I just don’t know what that work is and when I should try dating again? I want to find the right romantic partner. Please help!”

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Love or Lust? 5 Ways to Tell the Difference

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Do you feel love or lust? In this video, you’ll discover 5 ways to tell the difference so you can have healthier relationships.

Are you falling in love or lust? How can you tell the difference? There are several scientifically-backed ways to figure this out early on. In this video, I share five of the top ways to discover if it’s love or lust.

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How to Achieve Greater Intimacy (by asking the right questions)

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How do we achieve greater intimacy in all relationships? By asking the right questions. Topaz Adizes shares 12 questions on the podcast.

Topaz Adizes is an Emmy Award-winning writer, director, and experience design architect. He is the founder and executive director of the experience design studio The Skin Deep. He is also the author of 12 Questions for Love: A Guide to Intimate Conversations and Deeper Relationships, where he reveals how every relationship can be deepened through the 12 carefully crafted questions featured in his documentary series {THE AND}.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

● Where the initial idea for the book came from

● Why asking the right kinds of questions creates greater intimacy

● Dating advice that will change how you date

 

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Who Pays on the First Date?

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Who pays on the first date? It depends. Listen to this video to learn how this topic is being handled in the modern dating world.

The age old question: who pays on the first date? What is considered “proper etiquette” in dating today? The answer has changed over the years, and it’s time to revisit this issue once again. It depends on several factors: age, income level and gender of the daters, to who initiated the date, and when splitting the cost of a date might make sense. Let’s dive in!

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Simple Solutions to Common Relationship Issues

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My podcast guest, Kelli Miller, has simple solutions for common relationship issues. Tune in to learn more!

Kelli Miller is a psychotherapist, best-selling author, and radio host. She is the author of the couples relationship book “Love Hacks: Simple Solutions to Your Most Common Relationship Issues” and the award winning best-selling author of “Thriving with ADHD”. She was a relationship host on Balance by Nature TV and is currently a writer and relationship host for wikihow.com. Kelli was a co-host on LA Talk Radio with over 1 million listeners, 250 guest celebrities and authors, and an expert radio personality for SIRIUS/XM Radio. She was the “Women’s Relationship Expert ” on the Examiner.com and was recently quoted in Oprah magazine in three relationship articles.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • Why it’s harder now for couples to work together than a decade ago
  • Why couples stop having sex and the top three tips for dealing with sexual issues
  • Advice for coping with addiction, anger, and past trauma that enters into relationships
  • Why time-outs aren’t just for children
  • What is the fast-food communication method?
  • The number one recommendation to rekindle connection
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