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Making Friends as an Adult

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Do you struggle with making friends as an adult? You’ve come to the right place! Ursula Mentjes has fabulous tips for you.

Ursula Mentjes is a leading expert on success and business growth and a USA Today bestselling author of UpLevel NOW and five other non-fiction books. She is a business strategist and coach who works with entrepreneurs to double their monthly revenue in as little as 30 days while working less! She is also a keynote speaker and certified as an NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) Coach. Ursula helps her clients release the limiting beliefs and blocks that hold them back from their greatest success.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • Why loneliness is the new pandemic
  • Why it’s more difficult to make friends as an adult
  • Tips for developing new friends as an adult
  • What to do if spouses or kids don’t like your new friend


10 Signs of a One-Sided Relationship

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Have you ever been in a one-sided relationship – feeling anxious, questioning their interest in you? If so, watch this video!

If you’ve ever been in a one-sided relationship, you know how awful it feels. You’re always on edge, wondering if they really like you. In this video, I share 10 signs that the relationship is not working, because they’re just not that interested in you.


How to Bullet-Proof Your Relationship

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Is it possible to bullet-proof your relationship? Yes, according to my podcast guest, Dr. Shawn Haywood on Last First Date Radio!

Dr. Shawn Haywood is the founder of Reimagine Love Coaching for individuals and couples. She’s a speaker and author of Living For Love, Set Yourself Free from the Daily Stress, Worry, & Hurry that Wears You Down. Dr. Haywood works with couples whose marriage has fallen asleep or fallen apart, and helps them adopt a fight-free, conflict free relationship, raise sexual intimacy and desire, and become the best of friends and teammates.

Her husband, Chris is Shawn’s biz partner and full time travel companion, traveling the country as nomads for the past nine years in their camper. She’s been coaching high-achieving perfectionistic women and their amazing husbands for over twenty-three years.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • How do you bullet-proof your relationship as a full-time traveler for nine years? 
  • What’s one thing you teach that most people do not believe or agree with? 
  • What’s your favorite thing to teach women or couples who want a healthy, lasting relationship? 
  • Who does your team LOVE working with? 

How Polarity Leads to Attraction in Relationships

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Are you looking for your clone when dating? Polarity is what leads to attraction and passion. Learn more in this video!

What is polarity and why do we need it in relationships? To feel emotionally connected to your partner, it’s important to have similar values and interests. What makes a relationship passionate is polarity – having differences in core energies. The more opposed the energies are between two people, what’s known as masculine vs. feminine energy, the stronger the attraction is within the relationship. 

In this video, I share why we need polarity to help a relationship thrive.


Master Your Stress, Improve Your Relationships

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When you master your stress, you’ll improve all your relationships — especially the one with yourself. Listen to this episode to learn how.

Dr. Doni Wilson is a Naturopathic Doctor, certified professional midwife, certified nutrition specialist, and bestselling author of Master Your Stress, Reset Your Health. For more than 22 years, she has helped thousands of patients overcome health challenges and achieve wellness by using specific strategies that address the whole body and ultimately resolve the underlying causes of distress.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • How do you figure out what kind of unique stress type you are and how that affects your day-to-day life and relationships?
  • What are some tips and tricks on how to calm your—and your partner’s—specific stress types?
  • How can someone personalize your science backed C.A.R.E. program and include their partner so they can get the benefits, too?
  • Why do simple activities like more frequent hugging and sex promote stress recovery?
  • What are some health-boosting recipes couples can make together for date night or a lazy morning in?

5 Ways to Find Love if You’re too Busy to Date

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Are you too busy to date? In this video, you’ll discover 5 ways to find love even if you have a very full life!

Some people say they don’t have time for dating in their life right now, but they want to find love. How do you find a partner if you don’t date? The answer is obvious. No matter how busy you are, if you make love a priority, you can find the right match for you.

In this video, I share 5 tips for for those who say they are too busy for love, because you’d be surprised at how many clever ways you can fit dating and romance into your very full life!


How to Handle Finances When Going Through a Divorce

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How do you handle finances if you’re going through a divorce? Attorney Lisa Zeiderman shares important tips to protect your assets.

Lisa Zeiderman is a matrimonial attorney and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst who handles complex financial and custody divorce matters, as well as pre- and post-nuptial agreements. 

She has been on many “best-of” peer-nominated lists in the New York metro area. She’s a founding member of the American Academy of Certified Financial Litigators, and a member of the Forbes Business Council. She has also been published in Forbes, Psychology Today, Financial Advisor Magazine, and the New York Law Journal. 

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • What are a few common mistakes people make before asking for a divorce?
  • If you suspect your spouse might be hiding income or assets, what should you look for?
  • What constitutes financial abuse?
  • Is there real value in a prenup?

The Ultimate Guide to Dating With Children

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Dating With Children

Dating with children can be challenging, but with the right preparation and compassionate communication, single parents can find love again.

Dating with children…You’re a single parent dating someone, and you like each other. He knows you have kids. Maybe he has kids. Once you’re exclusive, how do you navigate a budding relationship with children in the picture? In this video, I cover everything you need to know about dating with children.


Five Green Lights to Look for When Dating Someone New

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These five green lights from Dr. Ramon Presson will help you choose a better partner when dating again after divorce or loss.

Dr. Ramon Presson is a licensed marriage and family therapist with over 30 years of experience. He’s in private practice in the Nashville, TN area where he is also a regularly featured newspaper columnist. He is the author of a dozen books, including three co-written with Dr. Gary Chapman, the author of the international best-seller The Five Love Languages.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • Why a marriage therapist is an expert in divorce and dating
  • Why the divorce rate is higher for second marriages
  • How to have successful remarriages
  • How to heal after divorce
  • 5 green lights to search for when dating again

5 Steps to a Sincere Apology

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Offering a sincere apology takes humility, honesty, and the ability to request for forgiveness from someone you hurt. Use these 5 steps!

A sincere apology can repair a relationship if it’s done well. To the receiver, an apology is a powerful way to heal a fracture in the relationship. For the person who apologizes, saying I’m sorry in a way that’s sincere and well-planned can go a long way towards soothing hurt feelings. Watch this video for a 5-step plan to a sincere apology.