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Are You Codependent?

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Are you codependent? In this video, I define codependency behaviors and how they show up in dating and relationships.

Are you codependent? When dating or in a relationship, do you tend to put a man’s needs before your own? Do you lose a sense of self? If so, you may be behaving in codependent ways. In this video, I reveal the signs of codependent behavior and how you can have healthier relationships.


The Thrill Of Dating in Your 40’s and Beyond

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Dating in your 40’s and beyond can be wonderful. In this episode, Suzannah Galland shares why dating at this stage can be amazing.

Suzannah Galland is a British-born empath and internationally acclaimed intuitive life advisor. She has written for Huffington Post, Harper’s Bazaar, Goop, Thrive Global, and Medium. She’s also been featured in Forbes, Vogue, New York Magazine, USA Today, and is co-author of Goop’s The Sex Issue. Suzannah has been featured on the Today Show and as a frequent guidance expert on America’s Next Top Model. 

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • What’s different about dating in your 40’s and beyond?
  • How can people in midlife date with more confidence?
  • How can we tell the difference between ‘trust your gut’ and fear?
  • Why is it important to get comfortable with uncertainty?

5 Assumptions to Avoid While Dating

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Here are five assumptions to avoid while dating if you want to go on your last first date. Watch the video to learn what to do instead.

Dating online can be challenging. We’re meeting total strangers, and it’s easy to assume many things about them before we even meet. Assumptions actually make dating even more difficult. We eliminate so many possible matches when we paint men with a broad brush.

In this video, I share five assumptions to avoid while dating if you want to find love. Because your assumptions are probably keeping you single.


Surviving a High Conflict Divorce Without Losing Your Sanity

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If you’re going through a high conflict divorce, you’re going to want to listen to this episode with Karen McMahon!

Going through a high conflict divorce? Karen McMahon is a Certified Relationship and Divorce Coach and Founder of Journey Beyond Divorce. She leads a team of divorce coaches in supporting men and women around the world to become calm, clear and confident as they navigate divorce. Karen has since spent the last decade helping thousands of men and women navigate the emotional and practical difficulties of relationships, breakups and divorce.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • What can divorcees do to cope with feeling powerless? 
  • How can a parent divorcing a high conflict spouse find peace when they must coparent post divorce? 
  • What are some helpful boundaries that will keep people sane post divorce? 
  • What unique challenges do men face in divorce? How do these challenges differ from women?
  • How can you recognize codependent behavior and have healthier engagement in all relationships?

5 Signs You’re Dating an Avoidant

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Are you dating an avoidant man? Pay attention to these 5 signs. If he is an avoidant, use these tips to create a successful relationship.

Have you ever dated a man who seems warm, kind, sweet, but when intimacy increases, he began to distance himself. You might have been dating an avoidant. Pay attention to these five signs!

But first, let’s quickly review attachment theory and the three main attachment styles: secure, anxious and avoidant.


The Fine Line Between High-Status and Hard-to-Get

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Why do women still play hard-to-get? Tune in to hear Dr. Duana Welch discuss the difference between high status and hard-to-get.

Should women still be playing hard-to-get to ‘get the guy’? Dr. Duana Welch is a relationship coach and author known for applying social science to real life relationship problems. She wrote the Love Factually books, is an expert for the couples app Paired, and an international dating coach.

In this episode of Last First Radio:

  • Why do we still talk about hard-to-get? 
  • What is men’s usual mating psychology?
  • What is high-status dating and why is it better?
  • What are some examples of how a woman can feel better–more confident and calm–as she dates, while appealing to men’s desires for her?

5 Mindset Shifts for Attracting the Right Partner

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Did you know that five mindset shifts will help in attracting the right partner? Watch the video to learn what they are.

Why do so many people find attracting the right partner so challenging? The answer lies in shifting your mindset in these five areas of your life. Watch the video below…


The Sexy Science of Falling in Love Forever

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Want to know the science of falling in love forever? Tune in to this episode to hear from experts, Drs. Barbara and Michael Grossman.

For over twenty-five years, Drs. Michael and Barbara Grossman have taught thousands of couples practical skills to create a fulfilling romantic partnership. They have appeared on CBS, NBC, Fox, and CW, sharing their secrets to having a fulfilling long-term romantic partnership with a genuine love that lasts forever through all the phases of life. 

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • Three secrets to falling in love forever
  • ​How to understand and support your partner’s requests and needs
  • ​How to overcome conflict in a loving way to connect deeply again
  • What makes romantic love so different from other types of love
  • ​How to accept your partner’s changes over the years

Free HIV Testing!

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Many people have HIV and don’t know. In honor of HIV awareness day, you can get free HIV testing in June and July. is raising awareness for National HIV Testing Day on June 27 by offering free HIV tests to our blog readers for June and July.

Over 1 million Americans are living with HIV today. According to, 13 percent of them don’t know they’re infected and need to be tested.


The Pitfalls of Modern Dating

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Learn some of the key pitfalls to modern dating in this episode of Last First Date Radio with Marlisse Testa!

Marlisse Testa has been a psychotherapist in Boca Raton, Florida for over twenty years. She is trauma trained, a certified Nutritional and Integrative Medicine mental health professional, and a qualified clinical supervisor. She enjoys helping people heal from their past to find the healthy, happy love they deserve. In her book, Stow Your Luggage When Dating, Marlisse shares a unique set of tools for successful dating without bringing their old luggage along with them.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • When and how can we share our past ‘luggage’ on dates?
  • What are some pitfalls of modern dating?
  • What are some good questions to ask on dates to see if they are available?
  • How can people begin to heal from their past?
  • What is a healthy mindset to help with finding lasting love?