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How to Know When It’s Time to Leave a Relationship
Should I stay or should I go? How do you know if you should leave a relationship? We dive deep in this episode of Last First Date Radio.
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Wondering if you should stay or leave a relationship? My podcast guest Francesca Zoia, is a relationship and self-love coach that helps women in long-term relationships feeling confused and stuck in the “should I stay or leave” mental loop, figure out whether they’re in the right relationship.
In this episode:
- How to know if you should stay or leave
- Why it’s so hard to leave a relationship
- How to tell the difference if a relationship needs work or it’s over
- How to deal with family and friends who don’t support your decision to stay or leave
Rewriting Your Love Story: From Old Wounds to Healthy Choices
How do you rewrite your love story to choose a healthy partner this time around? Spoiler alert: heal your trauma!
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How can you rewrite your love story so you end up in a healthy relationship? Owen Smithyman works with self-aware people who have done significant work on themselves – talk therapy, somatic work, plant medicine, coaching — and still feel something running in the background, making decisions for them or making life difficult. As a Peak States Therapy Practitioner, he helps clients resolve emotional wounds permanently, relate more authentically, and live a more vibrant life.
In this episode:
- How past trauma shapes our choices in dating and relationships
- The relationship between beliefs and trauma
- What are peak states, and how are they relevant in dating?
The Subtle Red Flags Nobody Talks About in Dating
Have you ever overlooked red flags in dating? In this episode, you’ll discover the subtle red flags you might have missed in the past.
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Which red flags in dating have you missed? Katharina is an Attachment-Based Specialist and an Emotionally Focused Individual therapist with over 25 years of experience helping couples and individuals build stronger, more resilient relationships. A graduate of Columbia University, she is the Founder and Clinical Director of Love Frontier Therapy Group and has dedicated her career to helping people understand the patterns behind conflict, repair emotional disconnection, and create lasting intimacy.
In this episode:
- The subtle red flags in dating many people miss
- Warning signs couples ignore early on
- Deal breakers that might be an opportunity for repair in disguise
- Instead of running away from conflict, get curious instead
The Surprising Challenges of Dating a People Pleaser
If you ever dated a people pleaser, you probably know it’s not all rainbows and roses. Here are the top five challenges to look out for.
We tend to think of people pleasers as the easiest ones to love. They say yes to almost everything. They go along with the plan. They never seem to want anything that gets in the way of what you want. That sounds like a dream, right? Wrong!
In real life, loving a people pleaser is one of the most frustrating and confusing dynamics you can find yourself in. I’ve coached so many people who describe the same thing: a partner who is kind, agreeable, generous with compliments, and somehow still leaves them feeling unseen. If that’s your story, I feel you. That’s why I’m sharing the top five challenges of dating a people pleaser, and what to do if you find yourself in a relationship with one.
(more…)How to Build Extraordinary Relationships By Design – Not By Chance
Would you like to be in an extraordinary relationship? In this episode, learn how to build them by design, not by chance.
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Learn how to build extraordinary relationships! Jena Jake is a Compatibility Strategist, speaker, and author who helps successful professionals stop choosing relationships by chance and start creating them by design. Through her signature Love Smarter™ methodology, she helps clients identify true compatibility, break unhealthy patterns, and build extraordinary relationships rooted in alignment—not luck.
In this episode:
- The difference between chemistry and compatibility
- Why we attach to certain types
- How do we become aligned with the right people
- How to set boundaries in relationships from the start
- How to become the person you want to meet
Stop Dating Potential. Start Dating Who They Actually Are.
Are you dating potential or paying attention to who they are right now? Dating someone’s potential can lead to heartache. Do this instead.
Have you ever fallen for someone’s potential instead of who they are right now? You really like them (except for a few small or not so small things), and you start building a fantasy relationship with that imagined future person. You overlook a few of the very important deal breakers that are showing up today.
It feels like you’re just seeing the best in them. But it relies on someone changing instead of what is actually true about them right now, and over time that gap between the imagined future and the actual present is where a lot of relationships fall apart.
Here are five common ways that dating someone’s potential shows up so you can prevent heartache in the future.
(more…)The Five Lust Languages For Lifelong Erotic Pleasure
How do you increase erotic pleasure? Practice the five lust languages, says Susan Bratton. Learn more in this episode!
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How do you increase erotic pleasure? Practice the five lust languages, says Susan Bratton, “Intimacy Expert to Millions”. She is a champion and advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long. Susan has spent over two decades doing something that censorship and shame have long tried to silence: teaching people the pleasure-based sex education they never received. As CEO of Better Lover, Personal Life Media, and The20, she publishes the world’s most comprehensive library of orgasmic lovemaking education and formulates precision sexual vitality supplements built on the science of blood flow and desire.
In this episode:
- How to turn communication into foreplay
- The biggest mistakes couples make when giving feedback about intimacy
- What is the Sexual Soulmate pact?
- The myth about spontaneous desire
- The importance of curiosity in creating more erotic pleasure
Men Who Waste Your Time Do These Five Things
Stop dating men who waste your time! Learn how to recognize these 5 signs early on so you can finally go on your last first date.
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You’ve felt it before. The conversation that goes nowhere for three weeks. The plans that keep almost happening. The guy who seems interested, then vanishes, then reappears with a “hey beautiful” like no time has passed at all.
If you’re dating after 50, you don’t have time to waste, and you know it. You’ve built a life, you know your worth, and you’re looking for a real connection, the kind worth investing your time in.
Here’s what I’ve noticed after nearly 20 years of coaching women through this exact frustration: men who waste your time tend to show the same patterns. Once you can name them, you can spot them early on and save yourself the guesswork.
(more…)How to Reprogram Your Brain to Stop Dating the Wrong People
How do you stop dating the wrong people? My podcast guest, Misha Saidov, says you need to reprogram your brain. Here’s how!
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Stop dating the wrong people! Misha Saidov is a modern philosopher, mystic, entrepreneur, and author focused on personal transformation and human potential. Founder of Institute of Metacognitive Programming, his work has reached 150,000+ people in 93 countries. Blending trauma healing, identity, and meaning with business rigor from roles at Konica Minolta and Phenom People, he helps people break inherited patterns and live with greater clarity, intention, and authenticity.
In this episode:
- Why so many of us keep dating the wrong people
- What people get wrong about chemistry
- What is Metacognitive Programming and how does it help people retrain their brains?
- Why self-awareness is not enough to create lasting change
5 Surprising Ways to Turn a Situationship into a Relationship
Can you turn a situationship into a relationship? Sometimes. Follow these five steps to learn how.
If you’ve been dating someone for a while but you haven’t yet defined the relationship, you’re probably in a situationship. Maybe you see each other every week. Maybe you’ve met a few of their friends. But if you want to be exclusive and haven’t discussed it yet, you might be feeling anxious or insecure about where you stand.
Here’s the good news. Situationships can absolutely turn into committed relationships. It happens more often than you’d think, and it’s not because someone gave an ultimatum. It happens because one person shifted the dynamic in a way that made commitment feel like the natural next step rather than a demand.
Here are five surprising ways to make that shift from situationship to relationship.
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