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Dating Do’s and Don’ts From a Single Divorced Dad

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As a divorced dad of two adult daughters, podcast host Jeff Kimes is here to share the good, the bad, and the ugly about the dating scene!

Jeff Kimes is a single divorced dad of two college-age girls. He’s in his 50s and dating in Denver, Colorado. Jeff is the host of the podcast Dating Daze, where he and his guests talk about sex, love, breakups, divorce, and everything related to dating.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • What is dating in Denver like for post-divorce midlife singles? 
  • What are some dating dos and don’ts for divorced single dads?
  • Are dating apps a good way for single dads over 40 to meet their match?
  • What are some tips to make dating in midlife more successful?
  • How long should a woman wait to sleep with someone?

3 Habits That Are Keeping You Stuck

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You may not be aware that these three habits are keeping you stuck. Learn how to turn them around to have the life and love you want.

“I’m worried about what might happen if I say no.” “I wish I was wealthier/smarter/sexier/funnier.” “Why do these bad things always happen to me?” If you’ve ever found yourself saying anything like those three statements, you may have some habits that are keeping you stuck in life and love.

In this video, I reveal these three habits and what you can do to turn them around and live a life of empowerment, peace, and joy.


How to Get Your Man to Wear the Pants

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Ladies, are you wondering how to get your man to wear the pants so you don’t have to? Listen to this episode to find out!

Elliott Katz is a relationship coach and author of “Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants: Timeless wisdom on being a man” which has been translated into 24 languages, and “How to Get Your Man to Wear the Pants … So You Don’t Have To : Inspiring him to take the lead, make more decisions and STOP LEAVING IT ALL TO YOU!” 

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • Why Elliott wrote a book about how a woman can get a man to wear the pants
  • Why don’t men know they should be doing more 
  • When a man asks a woman out and doesn’t have a plan to suggest for the date — what should the woman do?
  • What should a woman do when she asks a man for his input on a decision and he says, “Whatever you want, you decide”?
  • What should a woman do if a man won’t help plan a vacation?

3 Mindset Shifts that Will Change Your Life

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These three mindset shifts will not only change your life, they will greatly improve your success at love.

I came across an inspirational video on mindset shifts by Tim Han, international speaker, world-renowned human behavior expert, and founder and CEO of Success Insider. He was talking about life and business success, but these three mindset shifts can easily be applied to your dating life.


Attending to and Expressing Our Needs in Relationships

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Mara Glatzel’s book, “Needy”, addresses the importance of advocating for and expressing our needs in relationships.

Mara Glatzel, MSW is an author, intuitive coach, and podcast host who helps humans stop abandoning themselves and start reclaiming their humanity through embracing their needs and honoring their natural energy rhythms. Her superpower is saying what you need to hear when you need to hear it and she is here to help you believe in yourself as much as she believes in you. 

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • Why we’re so uncomfortable with our neediness
  • The difference between the self-care we are sold and the self-care we actually need
  • The first steps to take to advocate for your needs when you’re in a relationship that has deeply ingrained expectations
  • What we can do with our “ugly” needs – the ones that we worry will be too overwhelming and burdensome for others
  • How to create a blueprint for what you need in your relationships

Are You Missing These Less Obvious Red Flags?

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When you’re dating, it can be difficult to recognize these ten less obvious red flags. Watch the video to learn more!

It’s easy to recognize big red flags that are clearly waving in your face when you’re dating, like signs of verbal, emotional, physical or sexual abuse.

But what about the less obvious red flags? In this video, I share the more subtle red flags that could save you heartache and pain if you recognize them early on in the dating process.


How to Keep Monogamy Hot

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It can be challenging to keep monogamy hot. That’s why Ashleigh Renard has inspired millions of couples to get their sexy back!

Ashleigh Renard, creator of the viral How to Keep Monogamy Hot video series, is the Carrie Bradshaw for married people. After sharing her own story of rehabbing a shabby marriage in her memoir, Swing, she now answers hundreds of requests from her audience each day on how they can improve their relationships. As a synchronized skating coach and choreographer, she spent over two decades fostering cooperation and teamwork for adolescent girls. Part coach, part storyteller, part cooperation whisperer, Ashleigh has inspired millions of couples to radically reimagine the connection and joy available to them in their marriage. Her memoir, Swing, has been optioned as a streaming series and Keeping it Hot with Ashleigh Renard, an unscripted marriage fixer upper show, is also in development.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • What did you think swinging would add to your relationship?
  • What was the biggest lesson you learned through the process?
  • How has communicating your needs changed your relationship and personal goals?
  • What is the biggest piece of advice you can offer couples who are in a rut in the bedroom?

Are You Dating in Goblin Mode?

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Goblin Mode was the buzzword of 2022. In this video, I explain what it means and why many people believe it’s the perfect way to date.

In 2022, the Oxford word of the year was ‘goblin mode’, which means being unapologetically you without worrying about what others think. It was inspired by living through the pandemic, and realizing the only way to live is in goblin mode. According to a TikTok post in December of 2022, it’s “when you wake up at 2am and shuffle into the kitchen wearing nothing but a long T-shirt to make a weird snack, like melted cheese on saltines. It’s about a complete lack of aesthetic.”


How to Overcome Body Shame

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Body shame can hold us back from the life and love we want. In this episode, Juliette Karaman helps us overcome it and heal.

Juliette Karaman-van Schaardenburg is a UK-based mind and body coach and teacher on relationships, sex, intimacy, healing, and trauma. She specializes in the reinvention of the most intimate relationship in life – the one we have with ourselves. Juliette helps highly successful women rediscover who they are outside of being an entrepreneur, a wife, and a mother and experience all the pleasures and possibilities of life again.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • What is body shame, and why is it so prevalent today?
  • Who struggles most with body shame?
  • How does body shame impact our daily life? 
  • How is body shame connected with trauma?
  • What are some ways to begin to break free of body shame?

Are You Compromising or Settling?

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Are you compromising or settling? If you’ve ever felt like you compromise too much or settle for the wrong person, watch this video.

Every healthy relationship requires each partner to negotiate differences and overlook certain habits and quirks. But you should never settle for a relationship that doesn’t honor the values and principles that are most important to you. In this video, I share how to tell if you’re compromising or settling in a relationship.