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Why the Slow Fade Is Worse Than Ghosting

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Here’s why the slow fade is worse than ghosting, and what you can do if you’ve been on the receiving end of a slow fader.

You thought the relationship was developing. Maybe you even slept with him. And then the slow fade began. He didn’t text or call the next day. When you texted him, he texted back ten hours later. He called the next day and acted like nothing was wrong. And then crickets. 

The slow fade in a relationship is worse than ghosting. Here’s why…

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How to Transform Your Relationship in 30 Days

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Annabel and Meshach Spooner teach how to transform your relationship in only 30 days! Listen to this inspirational podcast episode.

Annabel and Meshach Spooner are Intimacy Alchemists and have been together for 20 years. They have a vision to make ‘1% Love’ a global phenomenon. They empower couples to transform their relationships into Sacred Unions of ‘1% Love’ within 30 days.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • The inspiration behind 1% Love
  • The principles of 1% Love that will transform your relationship
  • How to communicate through conflict in relationships
  • What to do if your partner gives you the silent treatment
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5 Benefits of Older Women Dating Younger Men

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What are the benefits of older women dating younger men? And why is there a stigma with these age-gap relationships?

Older women who are dating younger men are more satisfied in their relationships, according to a survey of 200 heterosexual couples by Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller. When a man is much older than his partner, people don’t blink an eye. However, people tend to criticize older women dating younger men. Why is there such a double standard among age-gap relationships? And what are five benefits of older women dating younger men?

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Why Do I Keep Dating Men Who Aren’t Kind?

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Why does Mary date men who aren’t kind? In this episode, I coach her to be able to choose men who respect and value her.

This is a one-time coaching session with “Mary”, who’s not a client. She wrote in to the show: “Most of my life I’ve dated and had been married to men that have not been kind yet I would continue to give them chance after chance and think that it would get better. It never would, yet I have found myself in the same type of relationships over and over again. I would like to figure out why I give men chances when they have hurt me more than once.“

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • How to stop giving the people you date the benefit of the doubt
  • Why it takes seven times to leave an abusive relationship
  • Why it’s important for people to earn their way back into your life if you breakup and they want to come back
  • How our childhood influences our romantic relationships
  • How one deal breaker makes all the good qualities null and void
  • Why it’s important to ask more questions at the start of a relationship
  • Curiosity is key in getting to know your dates better
  • A great question to ask someone you’re dating to find out why their relationship ended
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Do You Need to Heal Before Dating Again?

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Do you need to heal before dating again after loss or a breakup? In this video, you’ll learn how to heal and when to move on to date again.

Do you have to heal completely before dating again after a breakup, divorce, or loss? The short answer is no, because we are never completely healed, and there’s a risk of doing so much healing, you put off dating altogether. But, the longer answer is it’s important to do some healing and self-reflection before jumping into a new relationship, or you will run the risk of repeating unhealthy dating patterns. In this video, you’ll learn about the type of healing that’s necessary and how to assess when you’re ready to start dating again.

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Healing From Emotional Abuse

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How do you heal from emotional abuse? Dr. Christine Murray, an expert in this field, shows you how to begin to heal!

Dr. Christine Murray is the Director of the Center for Youth, Family, and Community Partnerships at the University of North Carolina at Greensboro. She has worked with clients impacted by various forms of family violence, including current and past intimate partner violence, childhood physical and sexual abuse, and emotional and verbal abuse. Dr. Murray is also the author of Triumph Over Abuse: Healing, Recovery, and Purpose after an Abusive Relationship.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • What is emotional abuse?
  • How emotional abuse impacts the victim
  • Why is it so hard to leave an abuser?
  • Steps to heal from abuse
  • What a partner of someone who’s been abused can do to create a safer relationship
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How to Build Trust in Dating

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If you want to learn how to build trust in dating, this video is for you. If you’ve been betrayed or cheated on in the past, watch this!

Has your trust ever been betrayed in dating or in a relationship? If so, it can be hard to trust when you date again. You will probably be on high alert for any potential threats to the relationship. When you don’t trust the people you date, you become hyper-vigilant, looking for what that person could do to hurt you, and that could sabotage a potentially healthy relationships. I’m going to share why it’s hard to trust and how to build trust in dating.

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Sexual Health After Menopause

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Are you struggling with your sexual health after menopause? Listen to this inspirational episode with gynecologist, Dr. Shyama Mathews.

Dr. Shyama Mathews is a Board Certified OB/GYN, Minimally Invasive Gynecologic Surgeon, and NAMS Certified Menopause Specialist. As both a mother and wife herself, her goal is to help women of all ages maintain their own quality of life while keeping up with the day to day needs of their families and careers. Her practice emphasizes the importance of patient education and empowerment to make the best possible decisions for themselves and their bodies. Her areas of expertise include Endometriosis, Fibroids, Chronic Pelvic Pain, Laparoscopy, Polycystic Ovary Syndrome, and Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • The most common questions about sex after menopause
  • How to maintain libido post-menopause
  • How to deal with lack of arousal
  • The importance of lubricants post-menopause
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Chemistry or Compatibility – How to Choose a Partner?

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Chemistry or compatibility – do you need both? How do you balance the two in a relationship? Watch this video!

Which is more important – chemistry or compatibility? Are they equally important? One of the biggest challenges in romantic relationships is finding the balance between chemistry and compatibility. Here’s how to choose a partner based on both.

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The Power of Premarital Counseling in Shaping Lasting Relationships

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Premarital counseling can drastically increase the success rate of any relationship. Listen to this episode to learn more.

In 2013, Casey and Meygan Caston founded Marriage365. After their own marital struggles, their aim was to strengthen other people’s marriages. They authored four books about building connections and developed online courses. In 2020, Marriage365 revamped its platform, growing to 10k members in 1.5 years, which inspired them to develop a mobile app to enhance user experience.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • How premarital counseling sets couples on a path to healthier marriages
  • Common misconceptions about counseling before marriage
  • The 6 keys of premarital counseling
  • Success stories of couples who had counseling before marriage
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