How to Reclaim Your Self-Esteem After a Breakup

After a breakup, your self-worth can suffer greatly. Take these small steps every day to reclaim your self-esteem and build your confidence. 

Reclaiming your self-esteem after a breakup can be one of the hardest challenges you face in your life. Your happiness and peace of mind revolve around your self-esteem, which is why it is so vital to not only reclaim your self-esteem after a breakup, but to retain it.

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3 Reasons Why Men Are Scared to Commit—and What You Can Do About it

Discover the top 3 reasons why men are scared to commit to you. Immediately know if he’s emotionally available or if it’s time to walk away and say, NEXT!

Wondering why men are scared to commit? I get it—dating after 40 can be challenging. Whether you’re online or offline, the process requires a lot of effort and time, and often, you’re left with a feeling of defeat, rejection, and just plain exhaustion. But then, every once in a while, you find someone special online. You connect and start to fall for him, only to find out that your potential partner doesn’t want to become exclusive. I want you to avoid this potential pitfall. With that in mind, here are three reasons why men are scared to commit to a relationship.

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How to Be a Woman of Value When a Man Stands You Up

What do you do when a man stands you up? He seemed amazing, you made a date, and then he didn’t show up. He apologized the next day. Do you forgive him?

I want to share a “woman of value” story with you. It’s about when a man stands you up and what you can do about it so you don’t feel powerless anymore. It’s about standing in your integrity, even when you feel rejected by a man. It’s about something that just happened to me. I think it’s important to learn lessons from every experience we have in dating. So, here’s my teachable moment about how to be a woman of value, even when a man stands you up!
 
I met a guy a few weeks ago. The first date was amazing. We both didn’t want it to end. He walked me to my car like a gentleman. I liked that. And for the first time in a LONG time, I was interested in a second date. He really liked me, too, and asked me out for the following week. All was good. Or so I thought…

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Why Do Men Disappear and Reject Me?

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Ever wonder why men disappear? Whether it’s after a few texts or phone calls, or even a few weeks of dating, when men disappear, it sucks. Try this.

Dear Sandy,

I think I am in the beginning stages of a new man disappearing. We’ve only been talking for five days. Wednesday and Thursday he texted me all day long, he called me, sent kiss emoticons. Today, I didn’t hear from him until I texted him this morning. His replies to anything I sent were short, no emotion, certainly no kisses. We haven’t met in person yet, but I already felt spoiled by his attention. So, I straight up asked him if something was wrong because he seemed distant today. I got no reply.

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Dinner Date: When to Invite Him Over

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When’s the right time to invite a man over for a dinner date? This man invited himself over after the first date. Too soon?

One of my Facebook group members posted this question about when to invite a man over for a dinner date:

I had what I thought was a very nice first date tonight..lasted 3 hours and we talked easily about all kinds of subjects and laughed quite a bit. He said he’d like to see me again. When I got home he sent a very sweet email about all of the reasons he liked me.

I said I had a nice time too and then he sent me this: “I think you should invite me over for a nice home cooked meal in the not too distant future. Ball’s in your court…”.

Really? After a first date? We had talked about cooking, and he asked if I was a good cook. I said yes, but this seems a bit inappropriate to me after a first date. I responded that I wasn’t ready to invite him over my house yet and I needed to get to know him better and feel more comfortable. Thoughts?

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Dealing with Breakup or Rejection Like an Adult

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If you’ve ever gone through a breakup, you know how painful it can be. These four excellent tips will help you recover and heal.

When you get dumped or turned down for a date in high school or college, you go through a lot of highs and lows. You may become irrational or depressed, and it can be difficult to know how to cope. But as we get older and gain more relationship experience, we are capable of growing emotionally and learning how to recover gracefully from a breakup or rejection without letting it consume our lives.

If you’ve ever gone through a breakup, you know how painful it can be. Nonetheless, there are many mature ways to cope with the disappointing emotional roller coaster of breaking up, allowing you to recover quickly and move on with your life.

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