My second husband was a narcissist (more specifically a legend in his own mind as the Emotional Vampires author put it). I very carefully read that Emotional Vampires book to try and make better decisions, but unfortunately, I got snagged by another one!
This one is much more slick and much quicker than ever before. I met him online on Plenty of Fish. We’re in our late 40s. His last marriage lasted a year. I am a very compassionate a person and have a strange attraction to helping broken people. Within about 6 weeks he figured out how to play my sympathy card and moved in. It’s been four months now.
About a month ago, I told him I was miserable, the relationship wasn’t working for me, and I thought it best that he find his own place. All serious conversations happen over text, because he can’t even look at me during a conversation about our relationship. Then he starts fixing a few things that were making me unhappy and pulls the great sex night card and figures the move-out subject is tabled. He has barely taken me out these four months except for a few dinners at the same restaurant. He’s never introduced me to his friends, and has blown off every outing I’ve tried to plan.