Five Assumptions to Stop Making in Dating

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In this video, I share five assumptions you must stop making if you’re searching for lasting love. Check it out!

Do you find yourself making a lot of assumptions about men? Dating in midlife can be challenging. Dating online can be even more challenging. We are meeting total strangers, and it’s easy to prejudge the men we meet.

But, having assumptions actually makes dating harder. We eliminate so many possible matches when we paint men with a broad brush.
In this video, I share five assumptions to stop making if you want to find love. Because your assumptions might be keeping you single!

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Create a Great Relationship During Quarantine and Beyond

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Brendon Watt shows us how to create a great relationship during quarantine…and beyond! This episode will make you think about what you want to create.

Brendon Watt spoke with me about how to create a great relationship during quarantine. He is a speaker, entrepreneur and life mentor. He’s the co-author of the best-selling book, Relationship: Are You Sure You Want One? and is co-founder of the Relationship Done Different workshop series. Brendon is the CFO of Access Consciousness®, transforming lives in 174 countries, facilitating classes and workshops all over the world, encouraging others to step out of judgement and into a more authentic, fulfilling life.   

In this episode:

  • How to deal with a partner who’s getting on your nerves when in quarantine
  • Creative ways to keep the peace when sheltering at home
  • If you’re single and lonely during quarantine, how can you thrive?
  • What is Relationship Done Different?       

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How to THRIVE in Today’s Dating and Sex Culture

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Dr. Nancy Lee returns to Last First Date Radio to help women stand up for themselves and thrive in today’s dating and sex culture!

My podcast guest, Dr. Nancy Lee, is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Beverly Hills, California and the author of Don’t Sleep With Him Yet: A Badass Guide to Dating in 10 Empowering Steps.  A Vitals Patients’ Choice award recipient, Dr. Lee applies a unique blend of clinical and scholarly expertise to interpersonal relationships, depression and anxiety, and psychosexual desire and functioning.  Dr. Lee has been interviewed by the Los Angeles Times, Cosmopolitan, Oprah magazine, Bustle, Yahoo News, Betches, Tinder.com, KNBC, FOX, and KTTV, among others. She has also been featured on the Jenny McCarthy Show, iHeartRadio, Deborah Kobylt Live, LA Talk Radio, and this is her second appearance on Last First Date Radio!

In EP 394: Dr. Nancy Lee – How to THRIVE in Today’s Dating and Sex Culture:

  • How to empower women to thrive in today’s confusing dating and sex scene
  • Why women often don’t trust their instincts around men and relationships
  • How women can learn to trust their instincts
  • Surprising things men share about dating and relationships
  • Why so many women have sex out of obligation
  • Men to avoid
  • And more

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Transforming How We Speak About and Experience Sex

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My podcast guest, Ian Ferguson is transforming how we speak about and experience sex. He is a Master Trainer of the Erotic Blueprint™ Methodology, and cofounder of Jaiya, Inc., a company dedicated to radically transforming how society discusses and experiences sex. His mission, along with over 100 Certified Erotic Blueprint Coaches™, is to release shame around sex, helping people empower themselves to reclaim the pleasure and true erotic expression that is their birthright.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio, you’ll hear:

  • What is an Erotic Blueprint, and why do we need to know
  • What are the 5 Erotic Blueprints, and what do they mean
  • What to do if you’re sexually ‘incompatible’ with your partner
  • How to connect deeply during the coronavirus pandemic of physical separation
  • And much more

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Throw Your Dating Rules Out the Window!

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I don’t believe in dating rules. They keep us from figuring out what’s right for US in dating. Because relationships are not a one-size-fits-all.

Recently, someone in my private Facebook group, Your Last First Date, posted this graphic image: 10 Dating Commandments 2020. I was happy to see so many women in the group did not agree with these dating rules.

Instead of dating rules, I suggest incorporating dating principles. Here are mine…

Last First Date Dating Principles


1. Work on your stuff so you don’t project fears and past relationship issues on the new guys you meet.
2. Cast a wide net: be as open as you can about the things that don’t matter and as narrow as possible on the things that do.
3. Learn to communicate clearly and kindly.
4. Know your standards, and set clear boundaries to protect what matters from the start.
5. Don’t try to fix men. What you see is what you get.
6. Walk away from men who don’t treat you with kindness and respect.
7. Don’t give up hope. Believe he’s out there waiting for you, and you will find him.
8. Live your best life and be grateful for what you already have.
9. Forgive those who have hurt you so you can move on.
10. Have fun and laugh as much as you can.

Watch the video for more detail on why you should throw out those dating rules.


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How to Date in the Age of Trump

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My podcast guest, @JulieSpira, shares great tips for how to date in the age of Trump. This is crucial in our politically polarized climate.

My podcast guest, Julie Spira, spoke about our polarized political climate and how challenging it is to date in the age of Trump. She’s America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker, and has been coaching singles on finding love online for 25 years. She’s the author of the bestseller, “The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online,” and the upcoming release, “Love in the Age of Trump: How Politics is Polarizing Relationships.”

Listen to/download Episode 386: Julie Spira – How to Date in the Age of Trump

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