Dating After 40: Is Telling the Truth Always a Good Idea?

Check out episode #302: The Power of Telling the Truth on Your Dating Journey. Robert Kandell shares his thoughts on honesty, male/female dynamics, consent, and more.

My radio guest, Robert Kandell, joined me to discuss whether telling the truth about yourself in dating and relationships is always a good idea. We talked about the feminine/masculine dynamic in today’s confusing world of relationships…and so much more.

Robert has been hailed as “part football coach, part loving dad, and part slightly crazed drill sergeant”. He has spent the last sixteen years helping people build better relationships through more honest and authentic connection. Robert is an accomplished teacher, coach, and lecturer. He brings his enthusiasm and acumen to his weekly podcast, Tuff Love, on subjects around relationships, intimacy, communication and gender dynamics.

Check out highlights below for episode #302: The Power of Telling the Truth on Your Dating Journey.

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How to Find Your Voice and Speak Up

My radio guest, Tammy Lee Schumacher’s marriage fell apart, because she didn’t know how to take care of her needs and speak up. In this episode, learn how to find your voice and save your relationships.

My radio guest, Tammy Lee Schumacher, was a teenage mother and bride. She had five children and 11 grandchildren, and her life looked rosy from the outside. But no one could guess that her 37-year marriage was on the verge of destruction. She triumphed over countless challenges from depression to lack of self-esteem, and pulled herself out of a gray cloud –physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually to become who she is today. She separated and reconnected with her husband since 2014. Schumacher is an optimist, author, healer, speaker, mentor, teacher and workshop facilitator inspiring and empowering women.

Show notes below for episode #299: How to Find Your Voice and Speak Up to Save Your Relationships.

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The Importance of Speaking Up

 Are you at a loss for words when it comes to expressing yourself—especially when it feels vulnerable or scary? In this video, I share an example of the power of speaking up with a story from my past.

What conversation are you avoiding? Maybe you’re afraid of speaking up to ask your boyfriend if he’s shut down his online profile (because you’re already sleeping together). Or you KNOW you deserve a raise, but your boss hasn’t given you a promotion in over a year. It’s scary to ask for what you want, to speak up and stand up for something that’s important to you. In this video, I speak about the importance of having your voice heard. And I share a vulnerable story about how I finally learned to SPEAK UP to someone from my past and get the closure I needed. 

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Boundaries: How to Deal With Unwanted Sexual Advances

Unwanted Sexual Advances

How do you deal with unwanted sexual advances? Do you ignore it and hope it goes away?
Do you freeze, not sure what you’re supposed to do? Watch this video for tips and tools!

This week’s boundaries video is about a heavy and sensitive topic: How to deal with unwanted sexual advances. What do you do if someone is coming on to you in a sexual way, either at work or in your personal life, and it makes you uncomfortable?

This can even be people saying sexual or inappropriate things to you that make you uncomfortable, which is still a kind/type of sexual advance.

The creep vibe.

The looks up and down or suggestive comments. Ick!

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Boundaries: How to Effectively Handle Unsolicited Advice

unsolicited advice

If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of unsolicited advice, you know how annoying it can be. In this video, we share our method for dealing with well-meaning meddlers!

Have you ever been the unwitting recipient of someone telling you what they think you need to do? Have you been “shoulded” on? Like you “should” this or that. Unsolicited advice comes at us all the time.

In today’s video we’re addressing unsolicited advice. This is a really common boundary violation, and the next time you’re faced with a well-meaning meddler, we want you to be able to deal with it with grace.

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How to Handle False Accusations

Have you ever been wrongly accused by someone?  It could have been in a work or personal situation or even on the internet where somebody misunderstood your intention or spread lies about you. How do you handle false accusations?

Do you become enraged? Do you shout and scream?

Do you block and delete the accuser?

Or maybe you shut down and doubt yourself, wondering, “Could they be right?”

I co-created a comprehensive program to help you set clear boundaries in life and love. It’s called, Boundaries for Beautiful Relationships. We’re excited to bring it back in March of 2018, and this is the first in a weekly series of videos about boundaries. 

My co-creator, Theresa Byrne, has a background in psychology/social work and is a 4th Degree Black Belt Master Instructor in martial arts, adrenal stress training & self defense. She teaches physical and emotional boundaries for all of their relationships. Over the past 17 years, she has trained people to harness that inner power so they can take control of their lives and find freedom.

In today’s video, we share helpful and practical tips and tools about how to deal with false accusations, a common boundary challenge.

How do you best deal with those false accusations, the times when you’ve been wrongly accused or lied about? Or how about when someone has questioned your character. How do you handle that?

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