How to Fight Fairly in Relationships

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Discover the keys to fight fairly in relationships. If you’re afraid of conflict, you must watch this video!

Do you know how to fight fairly? Most of us grow up in homes where conflict was either avoided altogether, which is stonewalling, or there was defensiveness, criticism, or contempt. Arguments don’t have to be scary or avoided. They can actually bring us closer to our partner so we can share greater intimacy.

In this Instagram Live video, I spoke with Mary Jo Rapini about how to fight fairly.

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How To Ask For What You Want And Need In A Relationship

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Do you find it hard to ask for what you want and need in a relationship? Watch this video to learn how to speak up for better relationships!

Do you struggle to ask for what you want and need in dating and relationships? The top three reasons people don’t speak up are 1. Fear of rejection 2. Fear of seeming too needy, and 3. Assuming if they cared about you, you wouldn’t have to ask.

Unfortunately, if you don’t ask, you don’t receive. BUT, it’s important to ask the right people in the right way at the right time. In this video, I break down how to be assertive and improve all your relationships!

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5 Signs You’re Unconsciously Sabotaging Relationships

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Do you unconsciously sabotage relationships? Learn these 5 signs and the keys to finally find the love you want.

Are you unconsciously sabotaging relationships, wondering why your relationships don’t seem to work out? Everything seemed great until you began to fight…you didn’t feel heard, and he didn’t feel respected.

It’s easy to blame men for what’s gone wrong in your relationships. But, that doesn’t help you have the love you want. Many of us unconsciously sabotage our relationships. That’s because of our earliest experiences with our caretakers/parents. That’s where we learn how to view relationships. Our core beliefs are forged in childhood. But, it’s never too late to heal from our childhood wounds and feel worthy of the love we want. Recognizing these 5 signs can help save your future relationships.

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How to Date With an Avoidant Attachment Style

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Do you have an avoidant attachment style? Highly independent and feel suffocated by too much closeness? Watch this video!

If you have an avoidant attachment style or have ever dated someone who is emotionally unavailable, this video is for you. First, if you aren’t familiar with the term, let’s define ‘attachment style’. There are four attachment styles, which are the ways we ‘attach’ to our romantic partners. These forms of attachment began in early childhood. Most of us have one of the following three: Secure, anxious or avoidant.

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The Four Most Destructive Ways to Argue

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Want to know the four most toxic ways to argue? In this video, I reveal what they are PLUS the antidotes so you can learn to fight fair!

Renowned psychologist, Dr. John Gottman, coined a term to describe the four most toxic ways to argue. He called them the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, as they can lead to the end of a relationship if they go unchecked. In this video, I review the Four Horsemen and give you the antidotes so you can learn how to resolve conflict with grace!

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4 Tips for Having a Difficult Conversation

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Why do we avoid having a difficult conversation? In this video, I share 4 tips for easing our way into speaking about the hard stuff.

It’s easier to avoid and deflect than to be direct and kind. The first thing we need to do is stop pretending things are okay when they’re not. We lie to ourselves about many things in relationships, including sex. Rationalizing and avoiding the important things begins to erode the relationship.

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