What it Means to Lean Back in Dating

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Do you believe women should ‘lean back’ in dating? In this video, learn how leaning back can actually keep you from true love.


‘Lean back’ is a term used by many dating experts. Some say it means women shouldn’t initiate anything with men. Let men chase women. They believe it’s natural for men to be the pursuer and the protector. So, men should be excited to win you over, because you are the prize.

The problem I have with this definition of leaning back is it has women step into roles that are inauthentic and fake. Women become passive and anxious, relinquishing all control, waiting for men to initiate everything. This is in complete opposition to most women’s natural tendencies to take charge of everything else in their lives.

Don’t even get me started about women being the PRIZE. If women are the prize, what does that make men? And what makes women the prize and not men? Don’t women and men both have value? And doesn’t that set women up to look down on the very men who they want to pursue and claim them?

Even if you did lean back and let a man chase you – aka the prize – it doesn’t guarantee he will value you in the long run. In fact, many men who play this cat and mouse game are on to the next chase once they get the prize. Ouch!

I believe in a different, healthier, more realistic definition of leaning back in dating.

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Communication Skills in Dating and Relationships

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Dr. Jeanne Michele is an expert in communication skills. She helps people live happier lives by talking everything out. Listen in!

Dr. Jeanne Michele is a teacher, modern day philosopher, change agent, and coach. Her coaching is dynamic, engaging and deeply transformative. She helps individuals and couples gain the clarity they need to create powerful, intimate, and creative lives, relationships and partnerships.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • How women and men process differently
  • Why all men are not from Mars, and what that means for you
  • How infidelity can be the positive catalyst to transforming your relationship
  • The importance of communicating about the hard stuff
  • The secrets to going on your last first date
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Understanding Men Over 50

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Trouble understanding men over 50? This episode with Lisa Copeland will help. Get actionable tips to help you find love with a mature man!

Lisa Copeland is an expert in communicating with and understanding men over 50. She’s a leading internationally recognized Love Coach and Dating Expert for women over 50. She’s the Amazon Best-Selling Author of The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50. Has been seen in Huffington Post and has appeared on ABC and Fox. She inspires and teaches women how to feel confident, empowered and joyful dating after 50.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • Do older men really only date younger women?
  • What men over 50 look for in a woman
  • How women and men can improve their communication
  • How women unconsciously emasculate men
  • Why women need to ask men for help…and receive it graciously
  • How to go on your last first date!
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The Relationship Check-In Method

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The Relationship Check-In method helps you improve your relationship using cards, prompts, and fun games. Listen to this episode!

Jocelyn Johnson, founder of the Happy Partners Project, created the Relationship Check-In method by drawing upon over 10 years of her own personal development practices, mindfulness, and her training in Cognitive Behavioral Coaching, Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy. 

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • What Check-Ins are and why we need them in our relationships
  • The five categories of Check-Ins
  • Conscious relationship habits to help your relationship
  • The types of agreements that strengthen our relationships
  • What happens when only one partner wants to do the work
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Are You Expressing a Feeling or an Opinion?

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Feeling or an opinion? Learn the difference, and how to speak up courageously without putting the other person on the defensive.

How good are you at expressing a feeling? Do you find it hard to speak up when you feel hurt? Most of do. And it’s difficult to understand the subtle difference between expressing a feeling or an opinion. Watch this video to learn what to look for, and how to express yourself in a way that’s connected and calm…even when you have something delicate to bring up.

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Are You Trying to Force Your Relationship?

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If you’ve ever worked too hard to try and force your relationship, this video is for you. Learn how to STOP forcing a relationship!

Have you ever been in a relationship where you felt you were doing most of the work? Where you weren’t sure how he felt, because he wasn’t putting in the same effort?

In this video, I share 7 signs you’re trying to force a relationship, and what to do if you want to have a more equitable relationship.

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