Why Ultimatums Don’t Work

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If you want to know why ultimatums don’t work, watch this video. I share some examples of common ultimatums, and what you can do instead.

We issue ultimatums in relationships when we want someone to change or do something we want, like move in together, get married, or have kids. The problem is, ultimatums don’t work. In this video, I’m going to share what an ultimatum is, why people think they’re a good idea, and a more effective strategy for getting what you want in your relationship.

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What It’s Like to Date as a Flight Attendant

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Author Lisa Wilkes shares how to date as a flight attendant, which will help anyone who’s ever considered a long-distance relationship.

Lisa Wilkes is an American author, flight attendant, animal rescuer, and licensed social worker (LMSW). Her debut romance novel, Flight Path, was published in 2020. Lisa’s second novel, Mid-Flight, was released on March 31, 2023. She serves on the leadership board of her airline’s nationally-recognized animal transport team, fostering healthy communication among volunteers, 501(c)(3) nonprofits, and community partners.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • What it’s like to date as a flight attendant
  • How to make time for a significant other while on the road
  • How to make long-distance dating work, especially with an unconventional work/travel schedule
  • How her romantic relationships influence her literary works
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How to Get Your Man to Wear the Pants

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Ladies, are you wondering how to get your man to wear the pants so you don’t have to? Listen to this episode to find out!

Elliott Katz is a relationship coach and author of “Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants: Timeless wisdom on being a man” which has been translated into 24 languages, and “How to Get Your Man to Wear the Pants … So You Don’t Have To : Inspiring him to take the lead, make more decisions and STOP LEAVING IT ALL TO YOU!” 

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • Why Elliott wrote a book about how a woman can get a man to wear the pants
  • Why don’t men know they should be doing more 
  • When a man asks a woman out and doesn’t have a plan to suggest for the date — what should the woman do?
  • What should a woman do when she asks a man for his input on a decision and he says, “Whatever you want, you decide”?
  • What should a woman do if a man won’t help plan a vacation?
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Attending to and Expressing Our Needs in Relationships

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Mara Glatzel’s book, “Needy”, addresses the importance of advocating for and expressing our needs in relationships.

Mara Glatzel, MSW is an author, intuitive coach, and podcast host who helps humans stop abandoning themselves and start reclaiming their humanity through embracing their needs and honoring their natural energy rhythms. Her superpower is saying what you need to hear when you need to hear it and she is here to help you believe in yourself as much as she believes in you. 

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • Why we’re so uncomfortable with our neediness
  • The difference between the self-care we are sold and the self-care we actually need
  • The first steps to take to advocate for your needs when you’re in a relationship that has deeply ingrained expectations
  • What we can do with our “ugly” needs – the ones that we worry will be too overwhelming and burdensome for others
  • How to create a blueprint for what you need in your relationships
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How to Handle Finances When Going Through a Divorce

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How do you handle finances if you’re going through a divorce? Attorney Lisa Zeiderman shares important tips to protect your assets.

Lisa Zeiderman is a matrimonial attorney and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst who handles complex financial and custody divorce matters, as well as pre- and post-nuptial agreements. 

She has been on many “best-of” peer-nominated lists in the New York metro area. She’s a founding member of the American Academy of Certified Financial Litigators, and a member of the Forbes Business Council. She has also been published in Forbes, Psychology Today, Financial Advisor Magazine, and the New York Law Journal. 

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • What are a few common mistakes people make before asking for a divorce?
  • If you suspect your spouse might be hiding income or assets, what should you look for?
  • What constitutes financial abuse?
  • Is there real value in a prenup?
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