Is online dating just a numbers game? My guest blogger says this approach can be detrimental to finding love. Find out why…

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It pains me greatly whenever I read about or listen to men cite—usually in annoyed tones—the precise number of dates they’ve been on through an online dating site. “It’s all a numbers game,” they say with frustration and annoyance. They’ll quote a number relative to the allotted time they’ve been online—six months, one year, as in, “I’ve been on 56 dates in ten months and…nothing!” And then I wince. Is online dating really just a numbers game? (In all fairness, I’m sure there are some women out there who follow this same approach to dating.)

Are you dating with clarity and focus? My radio guest, Love Coach Dina Robison, shared useful tips on how to deliberately attract your soul mate.

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My radio guest, Dina Robison is a Deliberate Love Coach, Certified Law of Attraction Coach, Certified Yoga and Meditation instructor. She inspires women to deliberately attract your soul mate and love you truly desire. Joyfully married, Dina has two beautiful daughters and lives in Sunnyvale, California.

You can listen to the show via the player at the bottom of the post. And check out highlights below for episode #286: How to Deliberately Attract Your Soul Mate with Love Coach, Dina Robison.

Frustrated with online dating? Megan Murray, editor in chief at Zoosk, shares how dating data can help you succeed at finding true love.

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My radio guest, Megan Murray, spoke with me about how we can learn about success at love through dating data. She is the Senior Content Strategist and Editor-in-Chief at Zoosk. She splits her time between product management work and writing, editing and managing Zoosk’s online publication, The Date Mix. Megan also collaborates with user researchers, product managers and engineers to develop new features and create content that improves the user experience.

Highlights below for episode #274: Can Dating Data Restore Your Faith in Love?

With over 1,000 new dating services opening yearly, how do you choose which dating website is a good fit for you? Check out this infographic to find out.

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Online dating was once seen as a shady, murky activity where users were taking substantial risks with prospective partners and would often cover up their presence on an online dating website, given that these were taboo. In recent times, though, numerous online dating platforms have emerged and the stigma of old has largely dissipated. Indeed, so rich is the selection of dating sites now that it isn’t just about picking one which seems trustworthy.

Before you sign up to an online dating website, you should establish the overriding goal of your online dating experience. Do you only want to dip your toes into the realm of casual dating or do you have intentions of plunging deeper into a lasting relationship? For women in their 40s, it’s more likely to be the latter, as the desire for a long-term relationship tends to grow with age. Also, the likelihood of striking gold on Tinder is rather slim, but it does happen every day.

I went on the Fast Metabolism Diet this week, and it got me thinking about how dating is like dieting. Want to know how? Check out today’s post.

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Most of my life, I didn’t even think about weight loss. I was so thin, I was called a skinny string bean (ouch!). That is until I went on my gap year to Israel. The food was awful at my school, my friends and I lived on bread and cake. Surprise, surprise…I came home 7 pounds heavier and felt awful. I think I weighed about 129 pounds on my 5’6″ frame. Far from fat, but that’s not how I saw it.

I was depressed. So, my mom took me to Diet Workshop (like Weight Watchers), and I lasted two meetings. The thought of getting up and announcing my weight loss every week made me want to scream.

Anything was better than that! I eventually discovered how to eat in a healthy way that worked for me. I gave up sugar. I ate whole grains. And I began to exercise. The weight came off because I took positive action. I made some big changes in my lifestyle. I was rewarding my body with delicious nutritious foods that made me healthier and happier, not depriving myself of delicious foods as many diets proscribe.

What does this have to do with dating?

Do you struggle with writing online dating emails that get opened and answered? My radio guest, Martin Dumbleton, is here to help!

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My radio guest, Martin Dumbleton, began online dating after his divorce. Sometimes he would find a girlfriend and suspend the quest, but he’d start again once he had been dumped. So many of the women told him he was good at writing online dating emails that were funny, he began to collect the 

dialogues. After five years of on and off dating, he looked at the material and realized there was enough to write a book. All the dialogues in his book, I’m willing to lie about how we met: Dating Dialogues with Martin Dumbleton, are based on exchanges with real women. Their words have been changed in order to protect their identities.

You can read highlights of our conversation Last First Date Radio about how to write online dating emails that work below!