My radio guest, Dr. Saida Désilets is a woman who personifies what it is to move from victim to thriving in life and love. You must check out this powerful episode!

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I had an inspiring and delicious conversation with my radio guest, Dr. Saida Désilets. She is a woman who personifies what it is to move from victim to thriving in life and love. She shared her powerful story of transformation after a near death experience at age 20. Dr.Désilets wants to live in a world filled with audacious, sexually sovereign women, living life on their own terms. I couldn’t agree more!

As a thought-leader and body-philosopher, she has published several books: The Emergence of the Sensual Woman, and The Illustrious Jade Egg and had her innovative method featured in Dr. Christiane Northrup’s bestselling books: Women’s Wisdom, Women’s Bodies & The Secret Pleasures of Menopause, as well as in Dr. Rachel Abrams books: Multi-Orgasmic Woman & BodyWise.

After two decades of dedicated, embodied professional practice, Saida is a visionary spokesperson for sexual sovereignty.

Highlights below for episode #300: How to Move from Victim to Thriving in Life and Love.

 Are you at a loss for words when it comes to expressing yourself—especially when it feels vulnerable or scary? In this video, I share an example of the power of speaking up with a story from my past.

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What conversation are you avoiding? Maybe you’re afraid of speaking up to ask your boyfriend if he’s shut down his online profile (because you’re already sleeping together). Or you KNOW you deserve a raise, but your boss hasn’t given you a promotion in over a year. It’s scary to ask for what you want, to speak up and stand up for something that’s important to you. In this video, I speak about the importance of having your voice heard. And I share a vulnerable story about how I finally learned to SPEAK UP to someone from my past and get the closure I needed. 

If you struggle with body shame, you must watch this video. My guest shares tips to help you truly love the body you’re in.

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As a love coach for women over 40, it’s my mission to help women value themselves first. I believe that a woman of value attracts her best partner and lives her best life.

Along comes that nasty saboteur…body shame. Why do so many women dislike their bodies so much? Unfortunately it often starts at a young age, and the shame is perpetuated by the media with unrealistic images of what women ‘should’ look like in order to be seen as beautiful and sexy. This body shame gets in the way of women having the love we deserve. It’s time to change that!

Shame is one of the most debilitating emotional reactions we have. Watch this video to learn how to stop the shame spiral and take your power back!

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Have you ever felt the shame of not being good enough, not measuring up to others’ expectations, or doing the wrong thing and wishing you could take it back?

In today’s video, Theresa Byrne and I are talking about how to stop the shame spiral. This is not about setting boundaries with others. Shame requires you to set boundaries with yourself first. We’ll show you how.

If you’ve ever been in a situation where people in positions of power, like teachers/bosses/spiritual leaders, put you down or made you feel small or insignificant, check out today’s video.

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Have you ever been in a situation where people in positions of power, like a teacher, a boss, or a spiritual leader, put you down or made you feel small or insignificant? What did you do?

Were you intimidated because of their position of power? Did you shut down? Did you think they must know what they’re talking about, so you questioned your instincts? Did you speak up?

Or did you just walk away to find another spiritual leader/teacher/boss?

In today’s video, Theresa Byrne and I share helpful and practical tips about what to do when faced with this common boundary challenge.

My radio guest, Dr. Jeanine Staples, shares how you can leave unhealthy relationship patterns behind, and move towards supreme love.

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In my radio guest, Jeanine Staples’ debut book, The Revelations of Asher: Toward Supreme Love in Self, she reveals women’s fragmented selves and the five ways women live as lovers: Main Chick, Side Chick, Bonnie, Bitch, and Victim. Her two-part, online quiz can easily help women uncover which lover identity they take on in relationships. Her subsequent work shows women a more conscious way of loving and living in the world.

This isn’t a lovey-dovey take on relationships or “self-help”. It is a raw look at how women heal from deep traumas using the tools of emotional literacy and emotional justice. Jeanine is on a mission to teach women how to turn toward supreme love in self, a concept that goes beyond the limits of self-love.

As an alternative-response to the five toxic lover identities, Jeanine presents a new way of loving and living. She introduces the Supreme Lover Identity and illuminates its integral connection to social and emotional justice for and through Black women’s wisdom.

Highlights below for a fascinating interview on Last First Date Radio, episode #287: Moving Toward Supreme Love with Jeanine Staples.