Experts tell us we should have unconditional love in our romantic relationships. I believe that’s a really bad idea. Here’s why…

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We’re told to aim for unconditional love and to accept our romantic partners as they are. In this video, I share why I think unconditional love can be toxic, and what we can aim for instead.

Unconditional love sounds beautiful. Many experts say it’s the ideal, the golden ticket to love someone unconditionally, and accept them with all their flaws. 

I do believe it’s important to choose a partner who has your must-haves and no deal breakers. Once you accept that this is the person you want to be with, accept them for who they are and don’t try to change them. But, there’s a big difference between that and unconditional love. 

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Want to improve your confidence and body image? Listen to this fun and engaging episode with Rebekah Buege to feel good in your body!

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Rebekah Buege supports women’s empowerment through body image healing. Starting her career in B2B software sales, Rebekah is the creator of Confidently She, a podcast, community and premium subscription platform bringing a practical guide to modern femininity. She offers private coaching to high end clientele with a focus on body confidence and self-trust, and feminine energy.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

• What causes body image issues in high performing women
• How can women feel good in their skin wearing anything (or nothing at all)
• How can we disarm body image triggers from childhood?
• How can we give compliments without hurting someone’s body image?

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Is body shame keeping you from dating or getting naked with a new partner? In this video, you’ll learn 5 ways to overcome body shame.

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So many people have body shame, especially when it comes to getting naked in front of a partner. With all the toxic messaging in our culture that being thin is ideal for women, it’s hard not to feel ashamed of your body’s perceived imperfections. Some of us get those shaming messages that we’re eating too much and getting too chubby as early as five years old. And those external voices become internal voices, no matter what we look like.

Those voices sound like, ‘I hate my body, I need to lose 20 pounds before I date, I need to whip my body into shape, I need to change my body in order to feel attractive.’ And that leads to a spiral of self-loathing that keeps us stuck and single.

Both men and women are susceptible to body shame. But it’s never too late to start overcoming shame about your body and start working toward body acceptance.

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Dr. Frederica Noble became an expert at cross-cultural dating when she met and married a British man. Listen to her story here!

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Frederica Hendricks Noble is a trained psychologist and life coach. Born in Detroit, she met her Englishman while living in Los Angeles. Frederica left the U.S. and moved to England to live and work. Frederica is now the Principal Consultant and Lead Life Strategist at Noble & Noble Consulting, where she coaches private clients through personal and professional transitions.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

• How Frederica met her husband from ‘across the pond’
• Why she wrote ‘The Special Relationship’
• How dating someone from a different culture give her a new perspective on being American
• Why a map and technology can help you with cross-cultural dating
• How you can date across cultures with greater ease

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Love Coach Junie Moon speaks about the shadow side of love. In this episode, learn what it is and how it might be keeping you from love.

Junie Moon, aka The Love Coach, teaches women in midlife how to magnetize their ideal partner and experience what she calls Next Level Love. She’s an award-winning international speaker, best-selling author of Loving the Whole Package: Shed the Shame and Live Life Out Loud, director/producer of the film Shed the Shame, host of the podcast Midlife Love Out Loud and a Certified Shadow Work® Facilitator.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

• How Junie went from a 200-pound unhappy wife to losing weight, divorcing, and becoming a love coach
• What is Shadow Work, and why is it important in dating?
• What are some of the top reasons people struggle in relationships?
• What are the four Love Shadows
• How can people heal from their self-sabotage in love?
• How can people break unhealthy patterns in love?

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Listen to Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick, the DateAble podcast host’s opinions about modern dating on this week’s Last First Date Radio episode.

Who knows more about modern dating than Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick, hosts of Dateable, one of the top rated podcasts about dating, love and sex? As active daters turned dating sociologists, they’ve talked to thousands of real life daters and experts to explore modern dating culture and why people date the way they do. Before the podcast, Yue was a dating coach with clients all over the world. Julie was an app designer and researcher using technology to help people form connections. Together they have been #stayingdateable since 2016.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

• The biggest struggles in dating this past year
• The difference between ‘relationshipping’ and ‘relationshopping’
• Why you should take yourself on ‘masterdates’
• The new dateable mission: date without hate
• The three ‘whys’ and how they help you bust limiting beliefs
• Some surprises that Yue and Julie have discovered through making the podcast

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