Do you believe women should ‘lean back’ in dating? In this video, learn how leaning back can actually keep you from true love.
‘Lean back’ is a term used by many dating experts. Some say it means women shouldn’t initiate anything with men. Let men chase women. They believe it’s natural for men to be the pursuer and the protector. So, men should be excited to win you over, because you are the prize.
The problem I have with this definition of leaning back is it has women step into roles that are inauthentic and fake. Women become passive and anxious, relinquishing all control, waiting for men to initiate everything. This is in complete opposition to most women’s natural tendencies to take charge of everything else in their lives.
Don’t even get me started about women being the PRIZE. If women are the prize, what does that make men? And what makes women the prize and not men? Don’t women and men both have value? And doesn’t that set women up to look down on the very men who they want to pursue and claim them?
Even if you did lean back and let a man chase you – aka the prize – it doesn’t guarantee he will value you in the long run. In fact, many men who play this cat and mouse game are on to the next chase once they get the prize. Ouch!
I believe in a different, healthier, more realistic definition of leaning back in dating.