Sexual Shame and How to Overcome It

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Sexual shame can keep us from experiencing the pleasures of a healthy sex life. Here are 5 signs of sexual shame and how you can overcome it.

Sexual shame can keep us from fully experiencing the pleasures and benefits of a healthy sex life. But, many of us have shame around sex without even realizing it. The messages we receive about sex growing up and through our sexual experiences greatly influence how we view sex. In this video, I cover five signs of sexual shame and how we can overcome that shame to have the best sex of our lives!

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10 Ways Women Emasculate Men (without even realizing it)

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Women can emasculate men without even realizing it. Here are ten ways you might be emasculating men, and why it drives men away.

What does ’emasculate men’ mean? defines emasculation as castration, but that’s not what we’re talking about here. I’m referring to The Urban Dictionary definition of emasculation: “…the removal of a male ego, pride, empowerment.”

Women are often unaware when they do this. They wonder why men get so angry, defensive, or shut down. A common example of emasculation is when a man is driving with his significant other. He turns left to get on the highway, and she says, “You’re going the wrong way. The back roads are faster.” She’s making him wrong and herself right, and this leads to a big fight. “But, I was just trying to help”, she says. By trying to help, she’s subconsciously trying to control him. He feels emasculated, because he now believes he can’t do anything right in her eyes. This can lead to the fracturing of many relationships.

Watch this video to learn how to stop emasculating men and create the loving relationship you want.

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How to Make Dating Fun Again

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Jeff Harry shows you how to make dating fun again. Get inspired and learn how to play and be more vulnerable!

Want to know how to make dating fun again? Jeff Harry combines positive psychology and play to help organizations navigate difficult conversations and assist individuals in addressing their biggest challenges through embracing a play-oriented approach to work. For his work, Jeff was selected by BambooHR & Engagedly as one of the Top 100 HR Influencers of 2020 and has been featured in the NY Times, Mashable, Upworthy, and Shondaland.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • Why play is so important in dating
  • Jeff’s definition of play
  • Why dating has become a chore
  • How people can become less guarded
  • Fun play experiments you can try today
  • Why you should be ‘nerve-cited’ in dating
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How Strong Successful Women Can Attract Their Match

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Strong successful women struggle to find their match. Watch this video & learn how to attract a quality man without diminishing your strength.

Are you a strong, successful woman dating to find a man who’s your equal? How’s that going for you? Are you finding men who are intimidated by your strength and success? Do you feel like you have to change who you are to attract the man you’re seeking? In this video, you’ll learn why it’s hard for women like you to find love, and what you can do to improve your success in love.

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What to Do When Your Ex Wants You Back

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What do you do when your ex wants you back? It depends. Here’s what you need to think about before saying yes to your ex.

When your ex wants you back, it’s easy to fall back into his arms. He might say he’s sorry, he can’t stop thinking about you, he’s changed, or he feels bad he hurt you. Do you believe him, remembering only the good times you had, and how much you loved each other?

Do you open your heart and body to this man once again? In this video, you’ll learn what to consider before letting your ex back into your heart again, or closing the door for good.

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What it Means to Lean Back in Dating

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Do you believe women should ‘lean back’ in dating? In this video, learn how leaning back can actually keep you from true love.


‘Lean back’ is a term used by many dating experts. Some say it means women shouldn’t initiate anything with men. Let men chase women. They believe it’s natural for men to be the pursuer and the protector. So, men should be excited to win you over, because you are the prize.

The problem I have with this definition of leaning back is it has women step into roles that are inauthentic and fake. Women become passive and anxious, relinquishing all control, waiting for men to initiate everything. This is in complete opposition to most women’s natural tendencies to take charge of everything else in their lives.

Don’t even get me started about women being the PRIZE. If women are the prize, what does that make men? And what makes women the prize and not men? Don’t women and men both have value? And doesn’t that set women up to look down on the very men who they want to pursue and claim them?

Even if you did lean back and let a man chase you – aka the prize – it doesn’t guarantee he will value you in the long run. In fact, many men who play this cat and mouse game are on to the next chase once they get the prize. Ouch!

I believe in a different, healthier, more realistic definition of leaning back in dating.

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