Find the Love of Your Life in Midlife
‘Sharon’ (not her real name) thought her thirty-five year marriage was going along just fine when her husband suddenly asked for a divorce. She was blindsided. Their relationship was far from perfect, but she had made peace with their differences. She was in it for life. When she found out he was having an affair, she felt foolish and angry. “How dare he leave me for another woman? And why didn’t I see this coming?”
A year after her divorce, she came to me to help her get back into the dating scene. She had no idea where to begin. Her last date was 40 years ago! How does someone even date in the 21st century?
I guided her through my proven program for online dating success and wrote her online profile essay. I love capturing a person’s essence and making it sound like they wrote it themselves. I wanted the right guy to read Sharon’s profile and think, “I have to meet this amazing woman!”
I sent off the first draft, and five minutes later, Sharon called.
“Sandy, this is your calling. I felt like you really captured me. I had tears streaming down my face as I read the essays that you wrote. I want to date me!”
I was thrilled! Next, I asked her to make a list of the qualities in a man that she wanted to attract. She made a list of … 38 items! I asked her to narrow it down to three. “Why?” she asked. “Because it’s easier to filter your dates through three requirements than 38. Pick the most essential three, the ones you couldn’t live without. If they were missing, you’d get divorced.”
After only a few moments, she came up with her three: financially stable, emotionally mature, and intellectually curious. I would have to agree with her. They’re my top three, too.
Looks can fade, romance waxes and wanes. Your list should reflect the qualities you hope to have in your relationship as you pass the years together.
After many dates with men who were not her match, Sharon finally met a guy who had all 38 qualities on her original list! She is in love for the first time in her life. She can’t believe she was willing to tolerate a marriage with a husband who didn’t value or ‘get’ her. She had no idea a love like this was possible until she met ‘Rob’ (not his real name). They’ve been together for 2 ½ years now, and their love keeps growing stronger.
If Sharon can find love for the first time in sixties, you can find the love of your life in midlife, too. Please don’t give up on love. If you follow my coaching guidelines, you, too, can find epic love after 40.
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