Glasses or Contacts: How Do You Prepare for a First Date?

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glasses or contactsDating. The word alone can conjure a mix of fear and anxiety. But it doesn’t have to. Dating can be fun and exciting. Not only is it an opportunity to meet new men, it is also an opportunity to learn so much about yourself. Dating also gives you a chance to get dressed up, have adult conversation, and reveal a new and improved YOU. How do you prepare for a first date?

Mirror, Mirror on the Wall

When getting back into the dating scene, the first step is to honestly look at yourself. It can be hard to be confident when confronting a first date, but remember that inner beauty, self-love and confidence shine from the inside out.

One of the best techniques to boost your confidence and self-esteem is self-affirmation. If your self-confidence is lacking (most of us doubt ourselves from time to time), simply create and repeat a series of phrases designed to affirm who you are and who you want to be, even if you don’t necessarily believe them at first. This can be the first step in preparing for your date. Tell yourself:

  • I am lovable.
  • I am confident.
  • I am worthy of the relationship of my dreams.
  • I deserve to be happy.

The basic truth is that no one can ever love you until you love yourself. So before getting ready, be sure to show yourself a little love.

Prepare for a First Date: What Should I Wear?

Deciding what to wear can be the most excruciating part of dating. Many people tear through their closets and agonize over the perfect outfit. And if you wear glasses or contacts, it can be an ordeal. So what do you choose? Glasses or contacts?

Glasses can be a great addition to any wardrobe and not just for fashion’s sake. Often times, glasses portray an air of intelligence and wisdom, and a well designed pair of frames can show a sense of sophistication and class. During an awkward moment, you can take them off and clean them to give you a few seconds to think or catch your breath. If you normally wear glasses, they can bring a sense of down-to-earth comfort even if you are dressed up. Be careful, though, because glasses also can be a distraction, especially if they don’t fit well and keep falling off your face.

The alternative to glasses are, of course, contacts. You may experience a higher sense of confidence and self-esteem when wearing contacts, especially if it is something new and different. You also can experiment with contacts such as using colored lenses to change your eye color. For a while, I wore contacts that changed my eye color from brown to blue. I enjoyed feeling like a blue-eyed brunette for a few years. The downside is that contacts can dry out or become dirty/cloudy, which will definitely take away from your dating experience.

If you still can’t decide, order both glasses and contacts from an online company like Vision Direct. You can then enlist support from a friend to help you tweak your style. Try on all of your date outfits with the glasses and contacts so you can see the ensemble together. Then, go for what makes you most comfortable and confident.

Remember, dating is all about confidence. Regardless of what style you choose or accessories you add or subtract, the most important thing is how you feel about yourself.

How do you prepare for a first date?



  1. Contacts are great a long as you don’t feel itchy, teary, and dry eyed. Glasses were once considered a deal-breaker, but now they are an accessory just like a great necklace. With so many cool and colorful frames available, they now improve an outfit and express the personality of the wearer in a positive way.

  2. Scarlett,

    Thanks for your comment! I used to wear only contacts on a first date, but now wear glasses because they make me feel so much more comfortable. I have cool glasses, and I feel great in them. They are a fabulous accessory, as you say. You’re smart to help your clients with their glasses.

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