Hello Pretty: Beware of this Online Dating Email Scam

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If you’re dating online, you’ve probably received an email like this one. I call it the Hello Pretty online dating email scam. Stay away!

Online dating is an incredible tool for finding love after 40. About 1/2 of all marriages today begin with an online connection. And while there are mostly decent people online, there are also a fair share of creeps and scammers. If you’ve been dating online for a while, you’ve probably received emails from some of these guys. You know the emails that sound too good to be true? A guy professes his love for you before you’ve exchanged a single email. He flatters you. He can’t believe his good luck in having stumbled upon your outstandingly gorgeous face. Have you ever received an email like this one? I call it the “Hello Pretty” online dating email scam.

The “Hello Pretty” Online Dating Email Scam

“Hello Pretty,Wow i am sure you don’t mind me calling you “Queen”…LOL,Anyway that’s the only words i could use to describe your beauty…And i cant hold my tongue than to tell you how i feel….Amid the gloom and travail of existence suddenly to behold a beautiful being; and as instantaneously to feel an overwhelming conviction, that with that fair form, our destinies must be entwined, this is love and i believe it was fate to check your profile soon as i saw you i feel you were the one wish to talk and looking forward to know more about you. But i don’t get on here much and i will prefer if you mind adding me up on Instant Yahoo Messenger Chat ——- or text my mobile phone on ———–..would really love to know you better. So care for a chat?”

Let’s analyze this.

The opening: “Hello Pretty,Wow i am sure you don’t mind me calling you “Queen”…LOL,Anyway that’s the only words i could use to describe your beauty…And i cant hold my tongue than to tell you how i feel….”

You don’t mind me calling you “Queen”? Not sure what rock this guy’s been hiding under, but a queen? Really? Find something more flattering (and realistic) to get my attention. How about, “You have a great smile” or “I love the photo of you waterskiing. I love to waterski, too.”

The body of the email:

“Amid the gloom and travail of existence suddenly to behold a beautiful being; and as instantaneously to feel an overwhelming conviction, that with that fair form, our destinies must be entwined, this is love and i believe it was fate to check your profile soon as i saw you i feel you were the one wish to talk and looking forward to know more about you.”

Poetry. So romantic. NOT! This is a mumbo jumbo bunch of words strung together to sound flattering. It doesn’t even make sense. It’s a run-on sentence. And he professes love before knowing anything about her. Oh, and then he says he’s looking forward to knowing more about her. First comes love, then comes getting to know her better? I think not.

The closing:

“But i don’t get on here much and i will prefer if you mind adding me up on Instant Yahoo Messenger Chat ——- or text my mobile phone on ———–would really love to know you better. So care for a chat?”

This is the scam clincher. I sometimes see emails like this on paid sites like Match.com. An unpaid member emails that he wants you to chat with him offsite. This email was on OKCupid, a free site. There’s no reason to ever get offsite before developing some rapport and trust with a man.

While it’s easy to laugh this email off as a joke, many women fall for the flattery and email or text the scammer. It’s not a joke when a man steals your identity by obtaining your email address. It has happened.

Bottom line:

Follow your gut. If an email sounds like it’s too good to be true, it probably is.

If he asks for personal information on a first email, don’t give it to him.

Make sure to protect yourself when dating online. 

Create an email address specifically for online dating. I recommend that you use your screen name. Example: Tee4two@gmail.com

Obtain a Google Voice number. If you have a gmail account, it’s free to set up a Google Voice number that can be linked to your landline or mobile phone. When you’re ready to share your phone number with your online match, give him this number. You can find out the details about how it works here. 

I don’t want you to stay away from online dating because of fear. I want you to be informed. Knowledge is power. Remember that online dating is a fantastic way to find love. But stay safe. Don’t fall for the online dating email scam.

Have you ever received an online dating email scam? If so, how did you handle it?

 

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  1. Playing words with friends I got one of those “ hello pretty”. He wanted my e-mail address right away, they always have a great job, “
    A mechanical and petroleum engenier, nice looking picture.
    I looked him up as a matter of fact the guy exist, but it wasn’t him, then he changed his name, go figure, I told him that I don’t give my e-mail out and that I thought he was not whom he said he was. He stopped playing with me

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