Help! I can’t afford to date!

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Dear Sandy,

I have a problem. I want to date, but my job doesn’t pay enough for me to take a woman to fancy restaurants or out for drinks (they cost a fortune!).

Coffee dates are fine for a first meeting, but if I really like a woman, I want to be able to show her that I care by taking her to nice places.

How can I date if I am not rolling in dough?  ~ Paul

Dear Paul,

Saving money on dating is easy when you know how. From online dating specials to coupons and deals, it’s all about being creative and in the know.

Here are some tips I recommend:

1) Most online dating sites run specials on a regular basis. You don’t have to spend a lot on dating online. Look for special deals around holidays, such as Thanksgiving, Fourth of July, or Memorial Day. Some also offer seasonal specials, at the start of each season. There are also many good free sites, such as and

2) Saving on dinner and a movie is easy. Subscribe to or, where you can often purchase a coupon for 50% or more off dinners at nice restaurants. Hint: you may want to save these for a third or fourth date. Your date may think you’re cheap, not merely frugal.

3) Many cities offer coupon books for discounts on local dining and entertainment. Check with your town for a list of places that might participate in these coupon books. For a small fee, you’ll save plenty of money.

4) Cablevision in the New York area offers subscribers discounts to many events. There’s a special for their ‘triple play’ members (those who have cable, phone and internet). Every Tuesday you get two free tickets for any movie at Clearview Cinemas. They also offer discounts to concerts and sporting events. Check your local cable TV companies and see they offer similar discounts.

5) AAA members can purchase significantly discounted movie coupons for many theaters.

6) NYC has free museum night at most museums. Check your town and see if they have similar deals.

As you can see, if you think out-of-the-box and get creative, you can save a lot of money and still date in style. Dating certainly doesn’t have to break the bank.

Anything to add to my list? Please feel free to share.




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