How the Father Wound Impacts Your Relationships

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In this episode, learn how the father wound impacts your romantic relationships with my guest, Dr. Karin Luise.

Dr. Karin Luise is an award-winning Author, Speaker, Master Life Coach, Soul Guide and Course Creator with a PhD in Counseling & Education. She blends 20 years of practice and research with her spiritual gifts as a Medium, Intuitive and Channel to guide people through mind-blowing transformations. She is obsessed with helping people release the programming of their past, remember who they are and tap into the power and purpose that they are here to enjoy in all levels of their lives – while having the time of their lives! Her retreats have brought healing and transformation to hundreds of men and women ready to live their purpose.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • What is the father wound and how does it impact our romantic relationships?
  • How can women heal from a father wound?
  • How many women have a father wound?
  • What are the top two coping mechanisms for those who have a father wound?

EP 577: Dr. Karin Luise – How the Father Wound Impacts Your Relationships

What inspired you to write this book?

I wrote the Fatherless Daughter Project because I had three dads. I’ve also been divorced twice. There’s been a lot of father wounding in my life. Writing this book was healing for me. I interviewed over five thousand women, and at least ⅓ of women have a father wound. It’s written for women who lost their dads, whether they passed away or were not present, they didn’t get what they needed in their father/daughter relationship, and that gets reflected in their romantic relationships.The number one coping mechanism is isolation. The second is promiscuity. 

Where does your father wound begin?

It begins in childhood. It’s not dealt with when we’re young. Most people didn’t go to counseling. So we didn’t understand the impact of the loss. The mother takes care of everything, and the girl caretakes with the mom. She learns how to stuff her wounding. Her grades start falling.

How does the father wound show up for women in adulthood/relationships?

There’s a fear of abandonment. And we look for people who can fill the void of a father: security and safety. We become successful in other areas of life, because we’re trained to do it all. If you don’t have safety and grounding, and you’re looking for your partner, you’ll attract someone who seems to fill the void. But we see it doesn’t fill the buckets we need.

What is your advice to women who have a history of unhealthy relationships and are stuck in a cycle of unhealthy attachment?

Source from within. You have gifts and strengths inside. Get support. What’s your friend group like? How much of your life is spent telling your story? Are you going to be a victim the rest of your life? Surround yourself with people who celebrate you.

What are your final words of advice for anyone who wants to go on their last first date?

Understand how valuable and powerful you are. Know that when you go on dates, you have permission to ask for what you need. Speak up. Think about what you want and BE that from the beginning. Don’t hide behind your fears. Let yourself shine. Pay attention to how stuck you are in your victim story. 

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