How to Attract a Great Guy (and stop attracting negative people)

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Tired of whiners, victims, and other people who drag you down? Placing your attention, energy and focus on the negative aspects of people can be a drain and bring you more of the same. Simply put, you attract the energy that you put out into the world.

When you shift your attention to the kinds of people you DO want in your life, that shift, coupled with your clear desire to STOP attracting negative people into your life, will set the energy in motion for new results to show up.

When you shift from what you don’t want to what you do want, your vibration changes. And know this; you can only hold one vibration at a time.

Ideally, you want to be in vibrational harmony with the people you are attracting into your life. If you plot your vibration on a scale that measures from 1-100, with 100 being the highest calibration, you are currently attracting other people into your life that match your score on this scale.

In other words, if your vibration measures 75, and a person in your life measures closely to that, you are a close vibrational match.

Your intuition will always tell you if you are in vibrational harmony with another person. When you meet someone with a significantly lower vibration than yours, you often feel dragged down by that person. The experience just doesn’t feel good. On the other hand, when you are with someone who vibrates closely to your score, you are in vibrational harmony with that person. You feel uplifted.

Suppose you are the one with the much lower vibration. If you experience a person with a significantly higher vibration, you may feel uplifted and raise your vibe to match theirs, or you may feel uncomfortable being around them.

In short, the distance between your score and the score of another person equals the extent to which it doesn’t feel good. This is called resistance. The greater difference in the scores, the greater resistance there is.

Here’s a great tool to help you next time you experience a negative person in your life. While you are having a conversation with that person, perhaps listening to them describe (in great detail) what they don’t want and how negative their life is, ask them the following question: “So, what do you want? How would you like it to be different?”

They will probably stop talking about what they don’t want, and start talking about what they do want. In that very moment, their vibration will shift and they’ll start raising their vibration to match yours.

Remember too, people treat you the way you allow them. This means that you can set your vibrational boundaries so that you will only participate in and maintain positive conversations. Feeding into somebody’s negative conversation will bring your vibration down.

You can decide today to maintain your high vibration and stop feeding into other people’s negative vibes. This will go a long way to maintaining your high, positive vibration, which will in turn, attract other people with high, positive vibrations into your life.


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