How to Inspire Trust, Lust, and Devotion

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GS Youngblood shows men how to inspire trust, lust, and devotion of a strong woman. This will resonate with men and women who want a great relationship!

GS Youngblood is the author of The Masculine in Relationship: A Blueprint for Inspiring the Trust, Lust, and Devotion of a Strong Woman. He’s a coach who helps men in relationships learn to live, love, and lead from their Masculine core. He specializes in “nice guys” who want to find their personal power. His teachings combine deep embodiment work with the framework of the Masculine blueprint from his book. His work is based on 12 years as a student and creator in men’s work and authentic relating. He also draws on principles from psychology, the martial arts, tango, meditation, and BDSM.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • Why men (and women) are so confused about how to be in relationship today
  • How to inspire trust, lust, and devotion
  • The 3-part blueprint for men to develop their masculine core
  • What to do before you end a relationship
  • Why a lack of polarity can kill a relationship
  • How men can transition from ‘nice guy’ to a man who inspires a strong woman

What inspired you to write your book, The Masculine in Relationship: A Blueprint for Inspiring the Trust, Lust, and Devotion of a Strong Woman?

Failure! I was married for ten years. She was strong, and I didn’t know how to be with the intense parts of her. No one wants a relationship to end, and I was motivated to be different in the world moving forward. 

I entered into another seven-year relationship with a strong woman. I started taking notes about what worked and didn’t work, and I put it together in a book. Five years later, here it is!

Why are men today so confused about how to be in relationships?

Today’s men are confused about how to BE. After generations of patriarch and misogyny, we’ve become Nice Guys and doormats. And our women are underwhelmed.  And as he hangs back, she has to go into HER masculine energy and lead. Which usually leads (eventually) to her being irritable, critical, and less sexually open.

Your book offers men an easy to understand, 3-part blueprint for developing their masculine core. Can you tell us about the blueprint?

The three part blueprint is:  

1) Respond vs. React. This is the quality of stillness and groundedness. He chooses how he is with the world instead of reacting based on old wounds. They get defensive. I teach a daily practice of an embodiment exercise.

2) Provide Structure. This is the quality of a man who has clarity about what he wants and needs, and what his boundaries are. Most men have let go of all of that. They don’t feel in charge of their life. He knows what he wants and provides structure for the relationship.

3) Create Safety. This is the most important one. It’s common knowledge that a woman won’t open to a man if she doesn’t feel safety and trust. Physical, financial and emotional safety are outlined in the book. If a man doesn’t build connection at the beginning, it will be a difficult relationship. Tune in as to whether she feels connected. If there’s something impairing the connection. Ask her what’s going on.

A man responding with empathy is so important. When he feels what it’s like to be in her shoes and reflects it back to her, that’s key.

You teach men that “you may or may not be the problem, but you ARE the solution.” What do you mean by that?

This means to quit blaming their woman for relationship dysfunction, and make the choice to LEAD the two of you out of dysfunction and into connection.  Example?  Instead of shutting down to each other during a fight and withdrawing (which is usually a guy’s instinct…to wait until it blows over), the man might call for a pause and say “Babe, we’re both fired up right now.  Let’s take a 10 min pause and come back and figure this out.”  Then, at 10 min, the man might own his part of the dysfunction first as a way to open her up.  He’s make the choice to do the hard things that will bring the two back together, rather than the easy thing which is to withdraw.

What are your final words of advice to men who want to inspire trust, lust and devotion of a strong woman ?

  1. Things can be different. Even when a relationship feels bleak. Polarity is the path. Before you pull the plug on your relationship, try doing this work.
  2. Stop waiting for her to change. Stop blaming it on her. That makes you passive. When you change, a lot of your relationship will change. 


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Comments

1 Comment

  1. “Butthurt” is inappropriate.
    There were good takeaways.

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