How to Make Him Love You

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You’re dating a man who’s scared to commit. Are you wondering how to make him love you? Listen to this video to hear what I think…

A woman wrote to me about her boyfriend, asking for advice:

Hi Sandy,

I’m writing concerning my boyfriend. His last relationship is still affecting him. He got dumped by her after waiting several years hoping it would lead to marriage. Now he’s scared about our relationship. Sandy, please can you tell me how to make him love me. How to make him happy. How to make him forget all he has gone through. I really love him , I want us and I want to make him happy.

How to Make Him Love You

Here are my thoughts:
You said, “…the thing is his last relationship is still affecting him. He got dumped by her after waiting several years hoping it would lead to marriage. Now he’s scared about our relationship.”

If his last girlfriend dumped him because he couldn’t commit to marriage, what is he scared about? That he’ll get dumped again by you? My concern is he’s not taking responsibility for his lack of commitment, but he’s blaming it on her, as in ‘she dumped me’.

That is a big red flag. Do you want to be with someone who is afraid of commitment? Believe a man’s words. He’s a victim of his last relationship. And that will not bode well for your relationship.

You also said, “tell me how to make him love me. How to make him happy. How to make him forget all he has gone through”.

It’s not your job to make him happy, and you can’t make anyone love you. It’s up to him to get healthier emotionally so he can be ready for the next relationship. It’s up to YOU to make yourself happy. Otherwise, you’re in a codependent relationship, and that’s not healthy for either of you.

Here’s the good news: The right man won’t need to be ‘saved’. You will both fall in love with each other, and you won’t feel like it’s one-sided. You won’t be anxious. You’ll feel secure in your love for him and his love for you. Don’t settle for anything less!


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