How to Prevent Burnout in Long-Term Relationships

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burnout in long-term relationships

How do you prevent burnout in long-term relationships? My podcast guest, Mary Jo Rapini, shares several tips on preventing burnout.

Have you ever experienced burnout in long-term relationships? My podcast guest, Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC, is a leading psychotherapist specializing in intimacy, sex, and relationships. She’s been on the podcast before, talking about how taking a break from sex can increase intimacy. Based in Houston, Texas, she operates a private practice dedicated to providing exceptional services as a relationship and intimacy/sex psychotherapist. 

In this episode:

  • What causes burnout in long-term relationships?
  • Who is responsible for the emotional/physical load a healthy relationship requires?
  • What are the questions couples should ask each other to prevent burnout?

EP 617: Mary Jo Rapini – How to Prevent Burnout in Long-Term Relationships

What causes burnout in long-term relationships?

It’s the inability to set important boundaries. Women have a tendency to keep doing even when we’re really tired. Before we know it, we’re committing to things we don’t want to do. And this can cause burnout and resentment. 

Who is responsible for the emotional/physical load a healthy relationship requires?

I think it’s expectations from both partners, our bosses, our kids, anyone in our lives that we overcommit to. We might be taking care of our parents. Your partner will get what little energy you have left, which leads to burnout.

What are the questions couples should ask each other to prevent burnout?

Every week or two, ask these questions:

  • What do you feel obligated to do? What’s under our jurisdiction of obligation is usually small. You have to be brave enough to speak up and set limits around what you feel is an obligation.
  • Are we strong enough to emotionally support each other?
  • Am I loving you well? Can I do more to support you?
  • What can I do to make you feel less stressed?

What are your final words of advice for anyone who wants to go on their last first date?

The most important person is you. You have control over what matters most – how you feel about yourself. Men’s number one aphrodisiac is a woman who loves herself. She makes a fantastic partner. 

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