How to Show Empathy in Dating and Relationships

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Many of us have trouble showing empathy in dating and relationships. In this video, I reveal three ways to show empathy and help you connect deeply.

Do you know how to show empathy in dating or when you’re in a relationship? Empathy is one of the most important skills in life. In this video, you’ll learn three elements of empathy that are critical if you want to forge deep, intimate relationships.

Empathy in Dating and Relationships



Brené Brown says, “By receiving empathy, not only do we understand how good it feels to be heard and accepted, we also come to better understand the strength and courage it takes to be vulnerable and share the need for empathy in the first place.”

If we can’t give and receive empathy, we can’t be vulnerable, and we can’t connect deeply to anyone, especially our romantic partner. Empathy is a skill that can be taught. It’s a skill that I learned later in life, and it’s brought me closer to everyone I love.

In this video, you’ll learn:

What is empathy?

  • You see the world as others see it. This means putting your own “stuff” aside to see the situation through someone else’s eyes.
  • You’re nonjudgmental. When you judge someone’s experience, it discounts what they went through. We often do it to protect ourselves from the pain of the situation.
  • You understand someone else’s feelings. Todo that, we need to first identify our own feelings. Again, this requires putting our own “stuff” aside to focus on the other person.
  • You communicate your understanding of someone else’s feelings. It’s hard for many of us to communicate how we hear someone’s feelings and experience. When we hear someone talk about going through a tough time, many of us say things like, “At least you…” or “It could be worse…”. Instead, try, “I’ve been there, and that really hurts,” or to quote Brené Brown, “It sounds like you are in a hard place now. Tell me more about it.”


Where do you struggle with empathy, especially on a date or in a romantic relationship? Please share your thoughts in the comments below.


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