How to Stop Overthinking When Dating

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If you’re prone to overthinking when dating, it’s probably sabotaging your love life. Here are 6 steps to stop overthinking!

Are you overthinking everything, especially in dating? Are you a chronic worrier? Do you overanalyze everything people say or do? If you are plagued with constant rumination and second guessing, you’ve come to the right place. Here are six steps to stop overthinking in life and love. (Some of them may surprise you).

How to Stop Overthinking Everything When Dating

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6 Steps to Stop Overthinking

1. Awareness. Notice when you’re stuck in your head. What’s happening in your body? If your muscles are tight, take a few deep breaths.

2. Focus on what you CAN control. Keep the focus on staying present, not focused on the past or the future, which you can’t control. Begin to think about the problems you can solve. 

3. Look at evidence. Ask yourself if what you’re thinking is true. Challenge your thoughts. Separate from the emotions you’re feeling, and only focus on what you know without a doubt to be true.

4. Create a daily worry dump. Spend 10-20 minutes a day writing in a journal, dumping all that you are worried about, ruminating, or mulling over. When you see it written down, you can decide what’s worth focusing on, and what you can let go of.

5. Adapt a mindfulness practice. Bring your awareness to the present throughout your day. Be here now, and your brain will stop overthinking. You might want to get a meditation app to help you stay calm.

6. Do something different. Don’t tell yourself to stop thinking about something; it will only make you focus on that thing even more. Do something else, like exercise, getting involved in a work project, or talking to someone about a different topic. 

The next time you catch yourself overthinking, practice these steps. Over time, your overthinking brain will calm down, which will help you be more rational and centered. You be able to trust your brilliant intuition without second guessing yourself. Doesn’t that sound amazing?

If you are an over thinker, you may be sabotaging your love life (without even knowing it). I see it every day…people who overanalyze and overthink their way OUT of a relationship instead of in. See below to set up a complimentary session with me to help you find love!

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