How to Transform Your Relationship in 30 Days

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Annabel and Meshach Spooner teach how to transform your relationship in only 30 days! Listen to this inspirational podcast episode.

Annabel and Meshach Spooner are Intimacy Alchemists and have been together for 20 years. They have a vision to make ‘1% Love’ a global phenomenon. They empower couples to transform their relationships into Sacred Unions of ‘1% Love’ within 30 days.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • The inspiration behind 1% Love
  • The principles of 1% Love that will transform your relationship
  • How to communicate through conflict in relationships
  • What to do if your partner gives you the silent treatment

EP 587: Annabel and Meshach Spooner – How to Transform Your Relationship in 30 Days

Can you share the inspiration behind ‘1% Love’ and what the journey was to get to this point?

It’s a frame of mind, doing what 99% of people won’t do to deepen connection and intimacy. Our 1% love came about 12 years ago. We were about to part ways. We had two young sons at the time. I asked myself, Do I love him? If so, what would we do about it. We created 1% Love to help us have a deeper connection. 

What are the key principles that make up the Sacred Union of ‘1% Love’?

  1. Foundation: Identify the values, needs and desires of each other so you have a strong foundation for your relationship. Know you’re enough: You can’t give away what you do not have.
  2. Foresight: Take responsibility for your entire life and for your communication, reframing arguments and conversation as learning opportunities. 
  3. Fun and familiarity: Look at your practices of desire and date night, injecting playfulness into our sacred union. It keeps things fresh. Laugh together. Create shared habits and rituals. 

Many couples struggle with communication issues. How does ‘1% Love’ help couples improve their communication and understanding of each other?

It’s not what’s being said, it’s how it’s being said. Safety words are not just for sex. For example if someone raises their voice, have a safe word to stop and then return to the conversation with the right energy. Many of us are not taught how to speak to each other effectively. It’s a practice.

It’s important to share everything openly and honestly. Cultivate an environment where there’s trust. If you’re in a relationship and you can’t share the deeper levels, what does that say about your relationship? Intimacy is built on these small moments. 

Tell us more about The 1% Lovers Transformation Method and how it guides couples on their journey to a Sacred Union of ‘1% Love’.

What often happens in relationships is the silent treatment. We catch the snowball before it becomes an avalanche. We acknowledge that something isn’t right, and we address it. 

What are your final words of advice for anyone who wants to go on their last first date?

The grass is greener where you water it. Don’t compare your life to others. Water your own grass. 

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