How Important is Sex in a Relationship?
As the resident dating expert at Better After 50, I’ve spent the past two weeks writing about the secrets to lasting love. Like many of you, I grew up in a dysfunctional home. And if you’re like the majority of humans, you probably had a similar experience to mine. I don’t know about you, but I didn’t observe much love and affection between my parents. In the later years, there was a constant sense of tension, anger, and disappointment. During my childhood, things were much more peaceful and loving. But by the time I was a teenager, the strain between my folks was palpable. When I was 16, I begged my mother to get divorced. I couldn’t understand why my parents would stay together if they were so unhappy.
They did eventually get divorced, but it wasn’t for another 12 years. I was actually walking down the aisle of my own wedding as they were going through the “war of the roses”. Needless to say, my parents’ unhappy marriage took its toll on me and my siblings. In spite of trying to “divorce-proof” my marriage, I, too, ended up divorced after a long marriage. Following my divorce, I wanted to know the secrets of happy couples. What were they doing that led to relationship success?
As a dating coach, my passion is to help women (and some men) over 40 make better choices in choosing a romantic partner before they get married or enter a long-term relationship. That’s the primary focus of my work. Balancing your heart and head in choosing the right partner is the first big step. But what happens once you’ve found love? The work you do after you’re in a relationship is crucial to maintaining a lasting loving relationship.
You can check out my 12 Steps to Building a Love that Lasts Part 1 and Part 2. I covered a lot of important secrets to nurturing and maintaining a love that lasts. I did leave out a very important topic – sex. What exactly is good sex and how important is it in a relationship? Check out my answer in this video.
How important is sex in a relationship?
What do you think leads to lasting love? And just how important is sex to you and why? Please share your comments below. I want to hear what you think!