Intimacy in the Golden Years

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intimacy in the golden years

There are a lot of myths around intimacy in the golden years. My podcast guest, Kaamna Bhojwani, will set you straight!

What can we learn about intimacy in the golden years? My podcast guest, Kaamna Bhojwani, shares a no holds barred conversation with me. She is a Columbia University-educated sexuality expert. She helps couples and singles enhance their relationships and well-being. With a Master’s Degree in Spiritual Psychology, Kaamna offers a unique perspective that combines academic knowledge with real-world applications, making complex topics accessible and engaging. She’s been at the forefront of addressing society’s most taboo subjects – from sexless marriages and infidelity to the intricate connections between mental health and sexual well-being.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • How perspectives on intimacy and relationships in the golden years have evolved
  • Advice for those entering their golden years on maintaining or even enhancing intimacy
  • How emotional intimacy changes as we age, and what role it plays in overall happiness during our golden years
  • Why it’s important to listen to your body and engage in activities like yoga, acupuncture, and intuitive eating as you age
  • Why sex doesn’t have to be difficult or non-existent as we age

EP 603: Kaamna Bhojwani – Intimacy in the Golden Years

In your own journey of self-acceptance and aging, how have your perspectives on intimacy and relationships evolved?

I am at the tail end of divorce after an eighteen year marriage. Everything changed. I have two kids. I wondered if I was too old. But I believe in myself and my ability to find love. I reinforced my self-love. I am not broken or damaged. 

Many people fear that aging will negatively impact their romantic life. Based on your experiences and insights, what advice would you offer to individuals entering their golden years on maintaining or even enhancing intimacy?

Sexual pleasure is not only through penis/vagina. That’s a patriarchal mindset. Many physicians don’t know how to guide people who want healthy sex lives as they age. Find specialists and advocate for yourself in the healthcare system. Lubrication is important. But there’s no one size fits all.

Complacency is what gets in the way of healthy relationships. Also a victim mentality. If you have a growth mindset, it will help you in your pursuit of a romantic relationship. I challenge myself daily to do something in pursuit of celebrating my body and sensuality, like dancing, taking a bath, and being in nature. 

How do you think emotional intimacy changes as we age, and what role does it play in overall happiness during our golden years?

As we get older, we learn more about emotional intimacy. We learn what turns us on emotionally and physically. We learn what we connect with. The emotional and sexual are intertwined. This gets you beyond the superficial. 

Why is it important to listen to your body and engage in activities like yoga, acupuncture, and intuitive eating? 

Keeping in touch with your body and helping your body be the best is important as we age. Keeping physically fit is about knowing and respecting your body, which helps us teach others how to know and respect our bodies.

Many believe that sex is difficult or non-existent as we age. How would you challenge these assumptions about intimacy in the golden years?

Sex is vulnerable. If you have the opportunity and courage to talk about and think about sex differently, excavate old messages about sex. Who told you these things? Are they your values? Approach relationships with honesty and curiosity. Ask people to teach you what they want, and do the same with them. 

What are your final words of advice for anyone who wants to go on their last first date?

Take the pressure off. Love the journey. If you can manage to see something positive in every person you meet along the way, you’ll enjoy the dating journey and it will help you meet your last first date. Also, be happy to be alone. 

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