Keep Your Love Alive: 5 Tips for Revitalizing Your Relationship
If you have been in a relationship for a while, you may feel like you are growing apart. The initial excitement and jitters from your first dates has faded a bit. But you can always get that excitement back. You just need to find the right opportunities to spend time together and grow closer together. Here are five ways for revitalizing your relationship and getting you out of your relationship rut.
5 Tips for Revitalizing Your Relationship
1. Be Willing to Try
What is something you have always wanted to do? Rock climb? Take a pottery class? Go to the Grand Canyon? Do these things with your significant other. Take turns picking things you want to try. They can be polar opposites like seeing an opera or going white water rafting, but the goal is to do these things together. You will be sharing a brand new experience together, which will help you build a stronger bond. Plus, you’ll be creating lasting memories and inspiring conversations.
Talk about your activities afterward. Did you have fun? What did you like? What didn’t you like? Get talking. Communication is important to having any healthy relationship.
2. Don’t Act Your Age
We can all make time for a little more play in our lives. Age is just a number, so you don’t always have to act like a stuffy adult. Be spontaneous, and do what you loved as a kid. Want to have a water balloon fight? Go for it. Play kickball in the park? Try it. Having fun together, laughing and playing will show a lively, fun side to your partner. Let loose and enjoy each other’s company.
3. Work Out Together
Before you write this one off, keep reading. You Beauty cites numerous studies that show that couples who work out together are happier in their relationships. Jane Greer, a marriage and relationship psychotherapist, talks about some of the benefits of exercise including endorphins and biological effects as well as communication and common goals. Exercise will get you energized and connected with your partner.
Combine a few of these ideas into one. Take a fun fitness class like zumba, yoga or spin to break you out of your comfort zone. You will be trying something new while exercising together. If you don’t want to pay for a gym membership, you also can try working out at home. Try different fitness programs available online, or try a fun game for a system you already have like Just Dance for the PS4. This may be much less expensive because you can often get games for just over $30. You can wear your pajamas, get active and have a laugh with your significant other.
4. Transform a Normal Night
Instead of staying in and watching TV on the couch, stay in and have a dinner by candlelight. Take a romantic bubble bath together or lay in the backyard under the stars. You will make your partner feel special and loved by surprising him or her with a surprise date night. Cook a favorite meal or something you would only make on a special occasion. Transforming the everyday into the extraordinary will help keep the love alive.
5. Don’t Give Up
There are lulls in every relationship. Settling into a rut is something you want to avoid. You can keep your partner happy and feel more loved by taking a few steps in a different direction. The most important thing to remember is to try new things and openly communicate. Relationships are a partnership between individuals; come together and do things for one another. Learn to keep your love healthy and thriving, revitalizing your relationship whenever there’s a lull.
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