Long Distance Relationships: Do they work?
Do long distance relationships work? With the wide-spread use of online dating, there is so much more choice today than ever before. Your true love might live on the other side of the planet. You could get to know him/her, but is it going to work?
On the one hand, so much choice can feel overwhelming. It can shut you down. Have you ever revamped your kitchen or bathroom? Even figuring out which drawer pulls you like can feel like overload!
So, to date long distance or not to date long distance, that is the question?
While it may be easier and more organic to date someone who lives in a geographically desirable location, like I said above, your true love may not live within a ten or twenty mile radius.
I think it’s important to be open to how love shows up in your life. To increase your chances of finding love, you may need to open your geographic parameters.
So, how can you build a strong relationship when you live far away from each other?
I think the keys to building and maintaining a strong long distance relationship are:
a) Frequent and meaningful communication via phone, text and Skype
b) Both parties making the effort to see each other as often as possible. I mean both. It’s not enough if only one of you travels. You need to both be in it to make it work.
Once you get through a and b above, can a long distance relationship work?
Long-distance relationships are challenging, but they can definitely work. Many people end up marrying someone with whom they’ve had a long distance relationship.
I know someone who continued to have a long-distance relationship even after they got married. Their job situation required that they be in two different states for several days a week and reunited for four day weekends. Sometimes that leads to an even better relationship, as distance can make the heart grow fonder and more appreciative.
‘Martha’ from New Jersey almost married a guy she met online who lived in Australia. They had frequent Skype dates. The deal breaker came after spending a week with him and seeing the darker parts of his character that could only be revealed with extended in-person time spent with each other.
Is a long distance relationship worth the hassle?
You need to be discerning before engaging in the long-distance relationship. Do you have enough core compatibility to get involved with this person? (If you don’t know what you need to be compatible, stay tuned for my upcoming webinar on compatibility!)
If you truly feel a connection, I say go for it!
Even if it doesn’t end in a long-term relationship, it’s worth the effort. Better to have tried and failed than never to have tried at all.
Hey you never know!