Love at First Type: The Importance of Grammar in an Online Dating Profile

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Does grammar really matter in an online dating profile? Check out this new study by Grammarly.

Grammarly, the team behind the popular writing app, partnered with eHarmony to determine whether the writing skills displayed in people’s online dating profiles affect their chances of finding romance. Grammarly summarized the results, along with other online dating statistics, in the infographic below.

The study

Grammarly reviewed 10,000 eHarmony male/female matches generated by eHarmony’s matching algorithm. Fifty percent of the matches advanced to two-way communication, while the other 50 percent failed to advance. Each male and female in a match wrote long-form answers to questions on their dating profile. These writing samples were analyzed by Grammarly’s automated proofreader for accuracy in grammar, spelling, and punctuation.

Does grammar really matter in an online dating profile?

The results

Grammar and spelling mistakes can definitely turn off potential suitors. In my private Facebook group, Your Last First Date (click to join), one woman said, “Bad grammar usually indicates a guy who is not intelligent enough (as elitist as it sounds), which is a turn off for me.” Another said, “I agree—especially when they use double negatives—it makes me think that they speak the same way that they write.”

My thoughts

Bad grammar doesn’t necessarily indicate that a person is not smart. Some brilliant people have learning disabilities and don’t write as well as they speak. Some can’t express themselves well, and it’s not an indication of a lack of intelligence. Other people make spelling/grammar mistakes because they fail to proofread carefully, especially in an online profile or online dating email. I’m a writer, and I occasionally miss a spelling or grammar mistake. I would hate to have someone write me off because of a spelling mistake, wouldn’t you?

I encourage you to keep an open mind about grammar and spelling. Who knows? The guy who wrote ‘their’ instead of ‘there’ might be your future boyfriend. Give him a chance, and learn to overlook a few small mistakes. Don’t let a typo keep you from finding your true love.


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Have you ever let a few spelling mistakes prevent you from connecting with a special suitor? Please share your thoughts below.


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