Love Lessons Learned from the Young

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love lessons learnedI teach a Hebrew School art and prayer class to 4th graders. I especially love listening to their side conversations once they are immersed in an art project. You can learn a lot from the mouths of babes, especially if you’re willing to be a fly on the wall. Yesterday, something out of the ordinary happened, and I had to share it with you.

My third class of students is small, 5 girls and 1 boy. So, there was quite a buzz around the new kid in class, a boy!! This was no ordinary boy. No, this was a bonafide ‘hot’ boy, a kid who had it going on. And yes, I used the word ‘hot’ to describe a 10-year-old boy. Because he was magnetic to the girls in class. They were strutting their stuff. I learned a few love lessons from the young by observing the conversations and behaviors that unfolded…

First, I noticed that their was a lot of competition among the girls. Everyone was getting on each other’s nerves. One little girl was telling the others to be nice, as another was pointing fingers at all the girls, saying, “You’re guilty, you’re not, you’re guilty, you’re not.” Not sure what they were guilty or not guilty of, but she was stirring the pot and pissing off the others.

There was an increase in giggling and obvious flirting, even at this young age. “You’re SO funny”, gushed one little girl to the new boy.

Soon the bickering and competition for the new student’s attention was getting out of line. One girl got up in a huff and said, “I can’t take this anymore!” as she stomped off to the bathroom.

I found her crying in a stall, and talked things out with her. She said she wasn’t coming back in if the girls were going to continue to be so mean.

I walked back into the classroom and called the class to a meeting. No more finger pointing, no more nasty remarks, no more excluding others. Everyone had to be kind, or I was going to separate them.

Love Lessons from the Young

One girl, a quiet, thoughtful dark-haired wisp of a thing, whispered in my ear, “The new boy is handsome!”

Yep, I got it. These young 9- and 10-year-olds were fighting for the attention of the only alpha male in the room. I felt like I was back in high school.

We’re imprinted at a very young age as ‘cool’, ‘nerdy’, ‘lovable’ or ‘unappealing’. You can definitely tell the cool kids from the nerds, the socially accepted from the socially ostracized.

What I’ve come to believe is that we don’t have to keep those labels. Sure, some kids have natural charm and are gifted socially. But some of this charm can be taught.

I work with women to increase their inner feminine charms, to build their inner core of standards and strength, and help them attract quality men. I don’t care how old they are, what their past history with men and relationships has been, they are capable of attracting epic love. They just have to learn some new skills and stop the self-sabotaging.

Self-esteem starts young. Dating and flirting begin in pre-school. And it’s never too late to shed the old and adapt a better way to be magnetic to quality men.

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xoxo

Sandy

 

 

 

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