Making Sense of Dating in the 21st Century

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Dating in the 21st century

Match, Plenty of Fish, OkCupid, Tinder, Bumble…how to make sense of dating in the 21st century? Robert Manni has the answers!

My podcast guest, Robert Manni, is the author of THE GUYS’ GUY’S GUIDE TO LOVE, a novel praised as the  “Men’s successor to Sex and the City”. Robert’s website,, features his syndicated blog (On Life, Love and the Pursuit of Happiness), videos and news. He is a featured Blog Talk Radio host of Guy’s Guy Radio™, a weekly call-in podcast (available on iTunes, Stitcher, Tune In Radio), and is also a regular contributor to Huffington Post and Cupid’s Pulse, YourTango, Thought Catalog, and GalTime. 

Robert joined me on Last First Date Radio to help us make sense of dating in the 21st century. Highlights below for episode #263: How to Successfully Navigate the Changing Dating & Relationship Landscape. 

Making Sense of Dating in the 21st Century

What’s happened to men in the 21st century?

Women have been on a very straight path to achievement and long overdue recognition. Men can be whatever they want to be, but they’re not sure what they’re supposed to be. They still define themselves by their wallet. They make small steps to improve their situation, [but they’re not sure how to be with women today]. If a man is dating a strong successful woman who’s guarded, it’s a guy’s responsibility to help a woman drop her guard. Women want men to be men. Emotionally intelligent, open minded, and available. What if men see independent women as not needing them? I tell men, what if she wants you and doesn’t need you.? Put on your big boy shoes, and step up!

What do men need to do now to embrace the long overdue recognition of women and their achievements?

A man should be a gentleman. Be polite. Find out more about her. Let her be feminine and who she wants to be on her terms. Women sometimes feel they need to be ‘on’ all the time. Let’s say a guy asks a woman out, and she says she likes sushi. He invites her to sushi, but she doesn’t like the place he chose. So she starts over-performing, and making him wrong. Ladies, give the guy a bit of a break if he makes a plan for your date. Try to go along with it and move along from there. 

For initial dates, keep it short. Learn how to manage technology, because it can enhance your dating life. Start with a beverage. The guy picks up the check. If you’re having a great time, you can have an appetizer. For the first official date, the guy should do some research, and give her a call (imagine that!), and take her out. Pay for the meal. Offer a drink. Follow your instincts. Offer her a cab. Hopefully you can do it again. 

What is a Guy’s Guy and why did you develop your brand, your novel, podcast and related content?

Women need to know what men are all about, and men need to show themselves to women. In the book, THE GUYS’ GUY’S GUIDE TO LOVE, the main character, Max, writes a column about exposing the player. There’s a twist at the end. I wanted to show that redemption is possible [even for a player]. 

My platform is to show men how to be the best they can be. To raise their awareness. 

Everyone should go into dating staying open, learning, asking, “What can I do better, how can I raise my consciousness around dating in the 21st century?”  

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